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writes:I love her so much it hurts. We went out for a few months and then she randomly dumped me. Now her friends are saying she really doesnt care about me in any way what so ever anymore. Its it tearing me up for her to do this. she has never ever been that kind of person and it kills me inside. Please..please how can i get her back or even better just be friends again... Reply to this Question
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reader, 19agegap  +, writes (27 February 2009):
you are 16/17? u have so much ahead of you. move on
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reader, Plutonious +, writes (26 February 2009):
With me.. I love rubbing it in when it comes to this point. I like to rub it in his face that I have moved on... by smiling, laughing, and having fun with your friends.
And if you have a friend that is also friends with her, you should never ask how she is doing, or "what did she say about me?" what is it exactly why she broke up with me?" that's almost forbidden to ask.
but if you want to tease a bit, BUT IF ONLY that friend mentions your ex's name, you should only ask "Oh how's she doing?" the friends reply,"oh she's good"
you reply, "that's good" then change the subject. have some kind of interest yet you should act as if you dont care when your results are in when the friend replies back to you.
but for now i would say have fun being single. meet someone else, that's the best way to go.
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (26 February 2009):
 my ex gf did that to me and it hurt really bad i cried every night but i thought shes just a person i should be able to live without her and i thought about all the times she has hurt me and i now think she never deserved me she never reallly treated me well idk if these things apply to you but my advice is just forget. ik its not often you love someone it hurts but im sure you'll find someone else.
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reader, didda123 +, writes (26 February 2009):
 The best thing to do to actually get someone back believe it or not is to stay away! Give them space, they need to have time to actually miss you and if you are speaking to friends texting, phoning or hanging about the same places hoping to see her these are the wrong things to do.
If you keep your distance and don't pressure her she may begin to miss you, the more you try to pull her to you the more she will push away so try a bit reverse psychology.
Obviously this method will only work if she has any feelings left for you if she does not then it is a pointless excercise and only you know what you feel in your heart about the situation.
In the meantime, you will need to occupy your mind because there is nothing worse than churning things over and over it can drive you mad especially when you are alone. Make yourself get involved again with your friends and do some new activities anything to help you keep busy.
If she doesn't get back in touch at least you will be beginning to feel a bit happier in yourself.
Try to be strong i know it is a horrible place and i know you will hate this but time is really a great healer. Take care x
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