I'm a masculine guy who wants a masculine guy...but I can't find anyone. Help, I'm sick of being alone!
Q. Is there anyone who feels like I do? Im a 19 year old masculine gay guy and I live in this small town in north Carolina and there are almost no gay guys here. There's a few promiscuious feminine guys but I don't want anything to do with them. I'm a ...
A. 21 July 2009: Stop looking so close to home, especially when the prospects are so limited. You obviously have the internet so join some dating sites and you can say exactly what you're after -- a masculine gay guy like yourself.... (read in full...)
No sex on my wedding night!
Q. I am writing this a day after getting married. We had a really special day and we retired to our room about 1am. My wife looked amazing and I couldn't wait to consumate the marriage. Unfortunately despite my advances she simply was not interest...
A. 21 July 2009: You are very justified to feel disappointed, just as your wife was probably justified in feeling too tired. People see things differently. You saw it as a requirement of your wedding night while she didn't. It is probably a mix of her being tired ... (read in full...)
How to get him to initiate sex more often?
Q. Hi, My bf and I have been living together for 10 months and were going out for 5 months before that. Since Jan he has had limited interest in sex and this only occurs when I initiate. He has given various reasons for this, more recently saying ...
A. 21 July 2009: Perhaps he he has a low sex drive. A lot of the time when guys don't want sex it is because they just don't feel like it but they don't like to admit it (as it doesn't fit in with the normal image of masculinity) - so maybe hence the excuses he's ... (read in full...)
Sexual tension and some insecurity?
Q. I'll first give you the basics. I'm 28 and he is 21. We're affectionate and compatible and both a pair of good looking men. We're both hard working and put a lot of work into our house. We appreciate art, music and gardening (growing our own ...
A. 21 July 2009: Could it be that he just doesn't want to have sex as often as you do? Often once people have been together a while a difference in libido or sex drive becomes more evident. You are obviously are highly sexed guy and there is nothing wrong wi... (read in full...)
My foreskin doesn't retract when I have an erection
Q. i have a 5.5 inch penis and when i get an erection, my foreskin doesnt retract. i think my penis is too small for my foreskin as i can pull my foreskin over the head but it just slips back. is this normal? ...
A. 16 July 2009: Mine didn't to start with and then one day when I was 16 it just did. It isn't anything to be worried about.... (read in full...)
I can't figure out if he's gay or not
Q. Hello, I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm still closeted to all but one person and guess what? I've got the perennial gay problem -- I like someone and I don't know if they're gay or not. I know that this is asked a lot, but I'm looking to see what ...
A. 14 July 2009: Maybe you should just say outright that you are gay and see what he says. Maybe his response will be that he is as well.... (read in full...)
What causes a man to constantly criticise the woman he's with?
Q. What causes a man to constantly criticise a girl that he's seeing? My boyfriend does this a lot. At first id laugh about it,because he always says it jokingly. But now I'm really starting to feel hurt by some of the things he says. For example,if ...
A. 14 July 2009: Why? Probably because he isn't an overly caring or considerate person. Don't take it personally. Take it as a measure of the sort of person he is.... (read in full...)
I'm a 19 year old virgin, is this normal?
Q. Hi, I'm 19 and I am still a virgin. Is this normal? All of my friends have had sex. there is one girl I like but she is 14. Should I wait for her or just go for it?...
A. 14 July 2009: A lot more common than you think. Sure there are plenty of people who lose their virginity in their teens but it isn't uncommon a bit older either. I was 20, which was a few years ago.... (read in full...)
Premature break up forced by her parents, how do I deal with it?
Q. Hi guys, I'm in a deep situation where me and my gf have been pretty much forced to break up... I need any ADVICE or MOTIVATION to get over this please... I've been thru break ups where the feeling is mutual or one of us does not want to be with one ...
A. 14 July 2009: Your girlfriend is an adult at 20 years old and doesn't have to do what her parents tell her to do. She is obviously choosing to abide by her parents wishes. You should talk to her and explain that being friends is too big a step back from what y... (read in full...)
I've accepted that I'm gay but I'm still confused
Q. Ok i recently accepted that i'm gay, but im a little confused. I still see a lot of beauty in girls, even with girls that most guys wouldn't be attracted to. but the thought of sex with a girl turns me off. Yet the more attractive the girl is, the ...
A. 13 July 2009: If you have no sexual attraction to girls then you are gay. It doesn't mean you won't admire beauty in the world or enjoy their company.
If you have no sexual attraction to girls then why would you ever want to be in a relationship with one? If ... (read in full...)
Is he really Straight?
Q. Would a straight guy ever let a gay man give him head? I have a friend that I grew up with, we have known each other for over 15 years. We don't see each other very often but every time we do I give him head. He says he likes girls. Is he rea...
A. 13 July 2009: I think yes he could be straight. If he was giving you head I would say definitely bi or gay. Just about any guy likes getting head and if they are comfortable with it there are straight guys who will get head from gay guys, probably as it still ... (read in full...)
Help, my sex drive's too high!
Q. Hello there, I am almost 21 years old male, and i am unhappy with my sex drive. It's too high, it is one step behind to perversion. It almost makes me unable to concentrate anything whole day. I'm asking a way to lower my sex drive, if there ...
A. 13 July 2009: There isn't any healthy way of lowering your sex drive. It can be tough but the best thing to do is to learn to live with it, or enjoy it!... (read in full...)
Help! My husband doesn't know what he wants.
Q. My husband of 3 years recently told me that he does not know what he wants. He wants his old single life back but yet he wants his family life, me, his daughter and 2 step children. I don't know why he is acting like this? What do I do. He onl...
A. 13 July 2009: There are obviously things about his single life that he misses. He obviously doesn't want to give up on his life with you though or he wouldn't be there.
Councilling is probably a good idea as he needs to work out exactly where he stands and you ... (read in full...)
I want to see him, but afraid of getting in trouble with my parents, what do I do?
Q. hey well im kind of involved with this guy.. were friends with benefits i guess and welove eachother. the thing is i dont get to see him alot. i want to sneak out to his house tonight( its in walking distance) just to see him. seriously im so sad ...
A. 13 July 2009: If you don't want to get in trouble then you probably shouldn't sneak out at all. Maybe save the hold for another time when you can see each other without sneaking out. Could you meet somewhere in the day or something?
Also, just as a side not... (read in full...)
My partner calls out his ex's name when we have sex, does he still love him, should I move on?
Q. I have recently been seeing my partner for over a month now and everything has been ok except for his insecurities about me cheating although i never would and have never cheated on any of my other partners... Whilst having sex my partner said his ...
A. 13 July 2009: What was his reaction? Did he apologise or give any explanation?
If they were together for a long time it could be out of habit that he would say his name (so excusable up to a point) but it could also be he was thinking about his ex when he said ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend was raped when she was a child, and does not like me to hold or touch her, what can I do to change this?
Q. My girlfriend was raped when she was a kid, and now it affects her. She hates been touched in any form. I really like to hold her but she nevers allow me to hold her. What should i do?...
A. 13 July 2009: It is probably more up to her than you. You can be understanding but to feel comfortable doing those things she will need to work past being raped. Understandably she is obviously scarred from being raped so she should speak to someone who can help ... (read in full...)
Can second cousins have a future together, we're falling for each other?
Q. i think im fallin in love with my 2nd cousin and he is falling for me too but we dont know how this will work out if we are blood or what he really wants to be with me he tells me everyday that i make him happy he has a smile on his face every time ...
A. 13 July 2009: If his father is your cousin he is actually your "first cousin once removed" and not your second cousin.
In years past first cousins used to often marry, and it is legal for them to be together in most places. It is only in more recent times th... (read in full...)
Whose libido is out of whack? His or mine?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for almost 3 months. we have been around each other 24/7 for the past 3 weeks. We have sex maybe once every couple of days. in other relationships I am used to having sex two to four times a day. When we get done, I ...
A. 12 July 2009: Neither of you are out of wack, you just have different libidos or sex drives. A few times a day isn't necessarily too much - some people can't handle the idea though and it may be more than your boyfriend can handle.
If you both care about ea... (read in full...)
I want to get out of this relationship, yet I am terribly scared!
Q. I am way to attached to my boyfriend for my own good. We hang out almost everyday, I automatically clear my schedule for him, and I don't make forsure plans with anybody incase he calls. When he doesn't call me, I get really paranoid and I w...
A. 10 July 2009: Do you have family and friends? Maybe you have neglected other relationships for him. Making new relationships with other people (as in friends) might help you to deal with being away from him.... (read in full...)
Why the sudden distance?
Q. Okay, so I met this guy through my sister of all people. She worked with him for about 9 months and always told me we would get along. we started talking and hanging out about 3 weeks ago and everything was really cool. He's a great guy and we have ...
A. 10 July 2009: If he has all of a sudden stopped texting and speaking to you then there is probably something to it (but the "something" could be anything!). There isn't a lot you can do except give him space and hope he starts contacting you again, or to nicely ... (read in full...)
Why is he so mean to me when we've broken up?
Q. Hi, me and my boyfriend broke up a few weeks ago, I'm feeling really down and depressed, because we ended up in ugly terms, he was so mean and rude to me, telling me things like these: - I don't wanna talk to you, whats the part you dont get? -...
A. 10 July 2009: Well he has proven he isn't worthy of your love so you are right to move on, as hard as that might be.
He might remember the good times but is just really bad at breaking up. He could be being so agressive as you are not getting the message ... (read in full...)
I want her to desire me again!
Q. ok so my wife and i are 20 and our son will be 1 on july 12th we got married march 27, 2008. we have always had a very intimate relationship. but within the past 5 months she just doesn't seem interested in me anymore. i have asked her why she ...
A. 10 July 2009: From the sounds of it you have already tried everything that everyone here has suggested so really all you can do is talk to her and observe her and try and work out what the issue is that prevents her from being intimate. Perhaps she does want to ... (read in full...)
I think I'm Gay...But I don't know what to do.
Q. As the topic states, I Think I Am Gay but I do not know what to do... The feelings are only sexual though. The idea of a life relationship with a man is an immediate turn off for me....but the idea of sex with a woman seems awkward to me. ...
A. 10 July 2009: It sounds like you are probably gay. Sexual orientation is about what sex you are sexually attracted to. Whether you want or find appealing a life relationship with a man isn't really relevent. If you are attracted to men and not women then you are ... (read in full...)
Should my baby be circumsized?
Q. I am 8 months pregnant and I am having a baby boy.. I don't know what to do about circumsizing??? His father was not circumsized and is currently not in our lives due to being controlling and abusive.. I have read the pros and cons of either way but ...
A. 10 July 2009: Maybe there is no right or wrong decision, just what you decide.
As you have probably read some medical experts describe it as unecessary mutilation while others say it reduces the risk of infections and diseases. I remember seeing a story on... (read in full...)
This teeter totter relationship is driving me insane!
Q. Hi -I just wanted an opinion from some one that does not know me or my husband. I am sorry how long this will be.. About 6 months ago my husband left me for a week and moved in with his parents. He told me he was not in love with me anymore,...
A. 10 July 2009: I don't think getting marital advice from another woman is an emotional affair (if that was the case). He shouldn't lie and for that you are justified in having trouble trusting him. The two of you are going to have to sort this out though or you ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he doesn't meet my sexual needs
Q. I live with my boyfriend and we have been dating for 5 months now. He is 36 years old and I am 25 years old and I am 4 months pregnant with his baby. When we first meet we had sex a few times a day, everyday. When I found out I was pregnant we ...
A. 10 July 2009: It sounds like now that the sex is gone you and your boyfriend don't have much of a relationship. Were things different before, i.e. talking, cuddles etc?
Some guys find the whole pregnancy thing difficult to deal with so could that be it? What... (read in full...)
I feel like our family together is second best to his "other" family...
Q. I'm not sure how to feel when it comes to my husband what I mean we have a daughter and a son on the way. But anyways he has two other kids that don't live with him but he has visits with his older son he takes him to the beach park museum and he ...
A. 10 July 2009: Maybe he will take your child to those places when your daughter is older? You haven't given a lot of information but it sounds like this is about a lot more than him not taking your daughter places. All you can probably do is talk to him and ... (read in full...)
I want to study abroad, what about my boyfriend?
Q. For the past year I have been planning to study abroad. However, I met this guy and we became a couple (gay couple), even though neither one of us is "out of the closet", so to speak. We love each other very much, and he made great changes in his ...
A. 10 July 2009: Maybe you would have reacted the same way if he had done the same thing to you? Lets face it he is only upset because he wants to be with you now and then go with you in a years time. They are good things.
Have you tried to find out if you can ... (read in full...)
Sex is far and few
Q. I have been married for 17yrs...We love ea.other,sex is great (when we have it).I just turned 40 and my husband is 46yrs old. My question: I am very sexual and I try to get my husband in the mood,ask for a quicky or give him something in return. ...
A. 9 July 2009: It isn't okay but maybe he feels in the mood but doesn't feel like having sex. It isn't a very nice way to treat you. You should ask him WHY again and if he gets upset explain that it is probably no where near as upset as you're feeling. At the very ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to have sex with a stranger I chat to in the Internet??
Q. Hi, Im 15, and i met a girl on the internet who is 19. Ive been talking to her seriously about us and she asked if we wanted to meet up and to have sex. I said yes, shes attracted to me im attracted to her. We have shown eachother our parts on webc...
A. 9 July 2009: At 15 you shouldn't be meeting up with a stranger like that. When you are an adult then fine, go for it, but at 15 it is too risky.... (read in full...)
Why can't I find love?
Q. I am an average male, that is a hard worker and somewhat athletic but, I feel like I am being left out of a loving relationship? I have never kissed before, I have been depressed for the past week that I have not found love yet, but others can. Why ...
A. 9 July 2009: You are misinformed if you think everyone else is in a loving relationship and you are the only one who isn't. It probably comes down to the fact that you just haven't met the right person yet. Some people get into relationships when they are really ... (read in full...)
I feel robbed of my first kiss!
Q. i was robbed of my first kiss , this happened like 8 months ago ,at the time i never had a bf and never kissed a guy , i was with this guy i was -seeing- and we were a little drunk and in his car when he kissed me , not jsut on the lips a full ...
A. 9 July 2009: Your first real kiss is the one that you consider it to be.... (read in full...)
Am I right in being loyal or is it time to move on?
Q. I'm 19, going on 20. I met my boyfriend nearly 4 years ago now, and we've been going out for just over 2 years now. He is 17 going on 18, which made him 15 when we started going out. This being relevant because his family are very homophobic and ...
A. 9 July 2009: It sounds like he would certainly have plenty to be depressed about. You are very committed to him to stand by him despite hardly ever seeing him. If he is almost 18 though couldn't he go out and see you without his grandparents knowing?
It is... (read in full...)
Marriage has gone downhill so much that I want to leave
Q. Ok, me and my husband have been married for almost two years and he doesn't really care for me as he used to. We act like we are roommates cause there is no sex. He doesn't take me anywhere unless I ask a few times. He doesn't remember anything ...
A. 8 July 2009: You can think stuff over with a clearer head while separated, and then if you still want a divorce a little down the track then you can get one.... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with another girl - but I know my family expects me to marry a Muslim man! What do we do?
Q. I've got myself in a right mess and don't know what to do. Sorry if this is so long.. I'm female,19 and muslim. My family are religious, and i do believe in some aspects of my faith but i don't really go to mosque much and my parents don't pr...
A. 8 July 2009: You are an adult so you don't have to marry anyone you don't want to. You should tell you Dad you like the guy but do not want to marry him.
As for the other issue, well that is a lot trickier! Couldn't you just move out of home and live together... (read in full...)
I did everything for him but now I'm all alone
Q. Hi guys, I wanna start telling you guys that I'm gay, last week my bf and I broke up after a very ugly argument, that day ii texted him, he answered me in this way, what do you want? so I asked him why did he reply like that so he said, "omfg i dont ...
A. 8 July 2009: Unfortunately all you do is learn from it. Think of all the warning signs you saw along the way that showed he wasn't as good a guy as you are -- then in the future you will perhaps see people clearer and hopefully it won't happen again.
If yo... (read in full...)
I love to wear girls clothes! does this make me bisexual?
Q. i'm 18 years old and i like girls alot and i'm dating one right now but whenever i see i naked guy or two guys having sex i get horny and i love to wear girls clothes..panties,bras,mini skirts,dresses,etc..i'm always wondering if i'm bisexual ...
A. 6 July 2009: Like someone else has said there isn't necessarily a connection between crossdressing and sexual orientation.
However if you are sexually attracted to men and women then yes you probably are bisexual.... (read in full...)
I've been denying my sexuality for years and I'm very depressed
Q. I THINK I'm gay and I don't want to be. This is causing me mega problems and I think it's at the root of the depression I've suffered for years. I've felt like this since I was around 13. I've had counselling, seen a psychiatrist and been prescri...
A. 26 June 2009: Being gay is normal. A certain proportion of the population is gay, and you're part of that normal proportion.
You'll never feel any better until you come to terms with it. You are gay, and that is okay. It is just the way you are and there is... (read in full...)
Break up because of no sex?
Q. If your girlfriend doesn't have sex with you is it a valid reason to break up with her after you have tried communication?...
A. 12 June 2009: Since most of us like equality these days would all of those who said NO have given the same answer if it was a woman saying her boyfriend wouldn't have sex or talk about it??? I bet not. There would be a flurry of answers that he is probably gay, ... (read in full...)
Do I risk our friendship, by telling him that I, a gay person, have falled for him ?
Q. Hi everyone. Im 21, a gay guy and i think im falling in love with my straight friend who's 19. I have known him for about 2 years, i met him through another friend, we got on straight away, we were allways chatting and texting each other....
A. 10 June 2009: Well if you have to stay away from him for your sanity you may as well just come right out and ask him. Worst case scenario - you're wrong, he feels uncomfortable and you never see each other again. That is bad but it is getting to the point where ... (read in full...)
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