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*anessa777
writes:I am 8 months pregnant and I am having a baby boy.. I don't know what to do about circumsizing??? His father was not circumsized and is currently not in our lives due to being controlling and abusive.. I have read the pros and cons of either way but I still can't make a decision.. Can you help? Reply to this Question
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reader, nIcE  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 Its cleaner and better looking, I know that one day when and if I have a baby boy, I'll make sure he gets it done. I guess its just up to what you want really..
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (10 July 2009):
Maybe there is no right or wrong decision, just what you decide.
As you have probably read some medical experts describe it as unecessary mutilation while others say it reduces the risk of infections and diseases. I remember seeing a story on it which gave the example of a mother whose son had terrible urinary tract infections which circumcision resolved. The transcript is at http://sixtyminutes.ninemsn.com.au/article.aspx?id=289096 if you wanted to read it.
My parents couldn't decide when I was born so left me uncircumcised. They thought at the time it could be my descision when I was older. As an adult there is no way I would have myself circumcised. If it is to be done it probably should be done at birth.
I haven't suffered any real problems as a result and think I prefer to be the way I am. I have had the odd bit of thrush/yeast infection there (yes men get them too) which is probably more likely with a foreskin as it is kept more moist/humid.
Personally I would talk about it with your doctor but wouldn't take their opinion as your decision as they are probably biassed one way or the other as people tend to sit on one side of the fence or the other.
I really don't know what the right choice would be. I think if you are really unsure maybe just do nothing like my parents did?
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reader, janessa777 +, writes (9 July 2009):
janessa777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to do the right thing.. I researched information on it and it seems to be more of a cosmetic thing.. I also found out that the baby is not even numb when they do the procedure.. So he feels everything :( I just want to know if I do not do it will he really grow up with all kinds of problems.. His dad was not circumsized and he seemed to be fine.. It just looks different in my opinion and there is nothing that really states that by not doing it he will face all kinds of problems..
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): If there's no religious imperative, then it's a personal thing -- depending upon the norms for your area and your comfort level.
We had my son circumcised for a couple of reasons -- so we didn't have to worry about hygiene (there are specific issues with cleanliness and the foreskin, about which I'm ignorant); so he wouldn't have hang-ups about looking different from his father. I'm sure to many those aren't valid reasons.
Years later I see no reason to regret the decision. At the time I had second thoughts, since I was holding him when it was done and of course helped with the post-procedure care -- like any surgery, it's not pretty.
The only thing I'd say is that if you don't have it done, you do need to learn about the hygiene stuff, and be willing to teach him when he's older.
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reader, quarky  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 I'm not sure if you're asking how to get it done or whether it's a good idea or not.
if it's the former, then you should speak to your Doc about it-they'll be able to advise when and how it can be done.
I was circumcised when I was very young (there were no cultural or religious imperatives)but it was never explained to me that it even ever happened or why. So I eventually worked it out for myself.
It'a not a major issue now for me but if your child is different when compared to others, it may make him a bit self conscious and insecure.
And I do sometimes wonder what it would be like to be 'uncut'-would sex be more intense etc.
In short make sure you tell him at some point what and why!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 No. A foreskin isn't a design flaw.
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