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writes:i'm 18 years old and i like girls alot and i'm dating one right now but whenever i see i naked guy or two guys having sex i get horny and i love to wear girls clothes..panties,bras,mini skirts,dresses,etc..i'm always wondering if i'm bisexual or not i try not to think about it cause if i really am then i would be to scared and embarrassed to tell my family and friends..am i bi?
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (6 July 2009):
Like someone else has said there isn't necessarily a connection between crossdressing and sexual orientation.
However if you are sexually attracted to men and women then yes you probably are bisexual.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 There's no connection between cross-dressing and sexual orientation.
It's perfectly simple!
If you're attracted to women, then you're straight. If you're attracted to guys and women, then you're bisexual.
Some people believe that sexual orientation is not absolute... that very few people are TOTALLY straight, or TOTALLY gay. That there is a continuum... that some straight people are straighter than others, some gay people are gayer than others.
However, cross-dressing has nothing to do with "gay," or "straight."
The fact that you like girls, but naked men turn you on, makes me think you're bisexual. By definition, bisexuals are attracted to both women and men.
If you love your girlfriend, just be sincere with her. I wouldn't be opposed to dating a bisexual gay as long as he didn't have a guy or another girl on the side.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): Really depends. Do you like men?
There are lots of straight guys who like to dress up but don't go for guys. But in your case, the fact that naked men make you horny almost certainly means you're bi. The fast-track way of finding out would be to go out in full drag to a club, see whether you find it tempting to respond to a man's advances, and if so, see how far you're willing to go.
Of course, doing this while you're dating a girl would be quite unfair on your girlfriend, so the honest course of action would be to tell her about it (before, not after!) and see how she feels about it.
But I appreciate that this may be difficult for you to do, a lot depends on how close you are, how good the relationship is, and how sexually open-minded she is.
Perhaps she'll run a mile and never talk to you again and think you're a freak and tell everyone she knows.(In that case, you've a LOT to lose). Or, she might yelp with delight and waste no time in taking you into town on a shopping trip and take absolute delight in being your make-up artist, fashion consultant, fag-hag and girlfriend all rolled into one. There are LOTS of girls out there who really love that dynamic. As a part-time tranny myself, some of my best friends are girls who fit the description, though there's no active sexual dimension there.
Your situation is different, because you're not openly gay and you have a girlfriend. There's every chance it would be a very bad idea to come out, and it's a big risk to take, so telling her about that side of your sexual identity isn't a step I'd recommend unless you're fairly sure she'll be cool with it. Maybe test the water by finding ways to subtly sound out her opinions on the subject.
(I know a guy who's in what strikes me as the ideal sitaution for bi guys - he's a bisexual drag queen who's in a brilliant relationship with a girl so fantastic, sweet, fun and sexy even gay men fancy her. But I wouldn't say relationships like that are very commonplace at all.)
For the time being, you're dating her, so under no circumstances should you experiment with men behind her back while you're supposed to be her boyriend...it would be dishonest, as well as an STD risk.
I wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): Perhaps you are a lesbian trapped in a man's body?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): Sounds to me you are bisexual.depends if you like to have sex with your girlfriend.
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