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writes:Is there anyone who feels like I do? Im a 19 year old masculine gay guy and I live in this small town in north Carolina and there are almost no gay guys here. There's a few promiscuious feminine guys but I don't want anything to do with them. I'm a masculine guy who wants a masculine guy and I don't know what to do anymore!!!! I am sick of being alone! What do I do? How do I find a guy for me??? Help!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, sd_mettler20 +, writes (9 August 2010):
 I have YET to ever meet a masculine gay guy. They're always fem in some way. My first bf from when I was 14 I met down in FL while he has a girlfriend and I was turned on by his masculinity. . . I was the first guy he liked. I feel where you"re coming from. I tend to only like straight guys is my problem. Feel free to hit me up man. I see this is from 'O9 so not really expecting a reply haha
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reader, Pingwenfriend +, writes (23 July 2009):
Pingwenfriend is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's funny, today one of my friends and I were talking about this and she told me that she sees me as equally feminine and masculine so aparently I'm both..... Lol. But I still want a masculine guy..... Thanks for your help, BIG TIME!!!!
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reader, bobby472  +, writes (22 July 2009):
Many guys are in the same situation as you are. Myself included. I have profiles on a few different sites. Yes I have found other masculine guys, but they always live on the other side of the country or in a different one. But its usualy the masculine ones that come out last or latter. so just hold in there. Ive been living in a small city for 4 years now. Ive only known of one other gay guy here but he is over 50. Im sick of being alone too, but I just gotta put up with it for now. I want to move to a bigger city some day, but wont be for awhile. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): My suspicion, never having been there, is that there are no gay bars in your small town in north Carolina. I have no doubt there are other gays in north Carolina. I just doubt that you're likely to see any of them them swishing down the main street wearing a pink 'HELLO BOYS!' crop-top.
You may need to travel, but make sure you've explored all your options first in terms of looking for local guys. Try the internet. If I can think of anything else, I'll get back to you.
Also, it's possible that 'masculine guy looking for masculine guy', while totally fine, may be limiting your options. More often than not, there's a bit of an imbalance in the conventional 'masculinity' stakes when two gay guys get together. I'm what you would call a 'promiscuous feminine guy' and have only occasional interest in other feminine-type guys, but I totally go weak at the knees (and thighs) for muscular, strong masculine men. On the macho-to-effeminate spectrum, I'm completely off the scale (at the effeminate end, that is) and though I'm always more than happy to take the lead in seduction, it would seem just strange and unnatural for me to be anything other than the 'girl' guy in a sexual encounter.
Find a gay dating website, and state your desires and preferences as clearly as you've done here. I hope you find your man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): why not try a gay bar? theres bound to be singles wanting a relationship there x
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reader, gayguy16  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Believe me its the "Exact" Same for me all the way over hear in the UK, I've been told in the past as well they're out there and they are, I live in a small town too so it can be hard, I guess we will all get what we want in the end, all I can say is wait it out or search in a bigger area if possible!
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reader, Koolaid091 +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Well, we are in the same boat. Small town in north georgia no gay guy in sight lol. They are out there trust me right under your nose. Just make yourself more avalible not so much as a sluty guy lol...but those girly gays must have friends..chances are you will meet someone thru them....Think about it.
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (21 July 2009):
Stop looking so close to home, especially when the prospects are so limited. You obviously have the internet so join some dating sites and you can say exactly what you're after -- a masculine gay guy like yourself.
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