How to get out of a abusive relationship???
Q. Ok how to get out of a abusive relationship??? I gotta take it slow he aint gonna let me leave without a fight. And I need to learn how to pay bills myself and all that and live alone with my peaceful kitties. And I gotta wait til I get money. Hope ...
A. 25 May 2013: Listen to Abella. I am told that the MOST dangerous time is when you take action to leave so do as Abella advises. Get safe, stay safe and I hope you find happiness.... (read in full...)
I have to take the bus to see him. How can I do this?
Q. I've asked a question about this before, but I need some more advice. Basically, I like someone a lot. Lots in common, we argue about literature and politics. I'm 14 he's 16. My last question was based on whether 2/3 years was too big an age g...
A. 25 May 2013: What a sensible young girl you seem. I think that you are asking good practical questions. I also see that you have been given an excellent suggestion to agree to meet half way. Could you also invite him to your house to meet your family? ... (read in full...)
Is there anyone else out there suffering from Misophonia
Q. Is there anyone else out there suffering from Misophonia (a form of sound sensitivity where noises like people chewing, breathing, snoring etc provoke a fight or flight/rage response in the sufferer) who can offer me any advice about coping with it? ...
A. 25 May 2013: What an amzing question. I think I have your problem but perhaps not to the same degree. I hate chewing noises, snoring, loud sleep-breathing, certain types of water sounds. I HATE the sound of barking dogs and noisy neighbours. I seldom play loud ... (read in full...)
How can I get this man to commit to me?
Q. Hi all. I'm 21 and my boyfried is 39. Yes, I realize the age difference but that's never mattered to me and my parents don't seem to mind much. We've been together since I was 18 and for being my age, that's a long time. Yes, we've both had a few ...
A. 25 May 2013: By commit I will assume you mean marry and have babies. That's a big decision and you don't want to be trying to 'get' him to make it. More importantly, how is your relationship progressing? Is it happy and moving forward. If he looks like he ha... (read in full...)
If he was backing off from me, why go to such lengths to show that this girl is just his friend?
Q. I have a quick question about male behavior. I have a friend i work with.. He was real flirty and and a big group of us went out and he was all about me. I didn't really think a whole lot on it since he was going through a divorce and we were all ...
A. 25 May 2013: Oh dear, it sounds like you have been found by a rat. If the girl at the party is a 'friend' it would have been clear when he introduced her to you and said, "This is my friend ..... we met..... But you didn't mention that you were introduced, ... (read in full...)
The relationship is going nowhere but I don't want to break up or break his heart yet.
Q. I knew D for 5 years. We were officially in a rship for 3 years. Things weren't easy we always Had fight which led me crying the whole night everytime. We often Had misunderstandings, arguments and I began to lose hope. He promised that he'd change ...
A. 14 April 2013: It sounds like a pretty crappy time you have been having. SO why are you letting it continue for one second longer?
You need a relationship where you talk and understand each other, love, laugh, trust and have fun.
When you break it off mak... (read in full...)
Is he a player or does he really have feelings for me in this year long friendship?
Q. I recently had a serious talk with a guy I have been seeing for a year and a half. I told him I had developed feelings for him and originally went to talk about ending the relationship as I did not think he felt the same, however he shocked me. He ...
A. 14 April 2013: You sound like a fairly sensible young lady. You are right to be very careful as you are aware that he is a player. This is not only from his reputation but from the fact that he has had numerous girls since you have known him. I myself would not ... (read in full...)
Her mother caught her doing a hand job on me and I had to leave.
Q. My girlfriend and I were at her house we were cooling about and she was giving me a hand job her parents are strict and against us doing anything however, while she was giving me a hand job her mother saw and called josie out of the room said that I ...
A. 14 April 2013: Are you serious? Even if I had adults visiting my house I don't want to find them having sex. If you want to have sex then don't do it where people will walk in on you. These parents sound like they are doing their job as parents. ... (read in full...)
I need your input please. He flirts a lot. But is there no hope, if he told me that he's: "relieved that you don't have a crush on me"?
Q. I know that I have posted a similar question before, however I need further advice. I have known this guy for about three years and been emailing literally every day late 2011 - early 2012. Then in the spring we had no contact at all really for a...
A. 14 April 2013: You sounds like you are doing your own head in with all the speculation. If he wants you for a girl friend he will let you know. I think from your letter he said, "Just friends". You can't make it more by turning it over and over in your head.
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What does it mean when guys seem interested, yet then cancel dates at last minute for stupid reasons?
Q. Dear Cupid, What does it mean when a guy seems excited to see you but then cancels on you for a stupid reason? So there's this guy I met in high school and we liked each other alot back then and admitted we liked each other. We were also good fri...
A. 14 April 2013: You asked what it means. It means he at the least he is bad mannered and inconsiderate. It also means that if he does like you, it's not as much as he likes his mates.
Please don't be silly enough to continue seeing this guy. Guess what a bad bo... (read in full...)
How can I best get over him? Or just come to terms with the fact that he's not interested and is going away in August?
Q. Hello everyone, I met this guy at a party in October of 2012. He was in my extended friend group and it sort of became obvious that he like me after we met a few more times at the pub and at more parties. I wasn't sure, I liked him as a person ...
A. 14 April 2013: I'm sorry this has happened to you. In spite of how 'nicely' he is trying to put it to keep himself looking good, this is your garden variey 'love-em-and leave 'em sceanrio. I know you don't want to believe that but it's obvious from what you have ... (read in full...)
He has health issues and his has POA over him. Why does he defer to his sister so much? Why can't he spend more time with me instead?
Q. I like my boyfriend who is my neighbor. His mom lives with him she has health problems and he suffers with seizures. I do feel that she baby's him a little too much. My problem is this afternoon his sister came, went with his Mom and they went ou...
A. 14 April 2013: Q: does he ever take you out? It doesn't sound like youu have a healthy relationship with him. And it sounds like his relatioonship with his own family is pretty toxic.
Can you create some opportunites for yourself to get out and meet other peop... (read in full...)
I feel that my friend is trying to tell me something about my Bf. Could this be true?
Q. Today I caught up with a friend who I hadn't seen for quite a while, although my boyfriend and his friends do sometimes hang out. friends Anyways, I live next to the bus station, and he was going home, so he dropped me off at my place. While we ...
A. 14 April 2013: Just ask him if he means you. If he replies again that he doesn't want to be the guy that tells, you'll know it is.
He obviously wants to tell you so, just ask.... (read in full...)
What kind of a time frame should I give him in order to clear his head?
Q. The last time I spoke to him was about 5 weeks ago and he basically said he's loosed/confused/ frustrated on what he wants. So, I told him that he needs space to clear his head and figure things out because me being in the picture is not gonna make ...
A. 16 March 2013: Do you want the guy to love you and really want to be with you or myeah? maybe?
Move on. I think he already has.... (read in full...)
How can we move past the negativity and at least get along it seems hopeless
Q. me and my childs dad just cant get along!!' he has a new girlfriend and it bothers me,,but i just want us to be cool and get along even if we cant be together right now.. he says he wants the same but he still gives me the cold shoulder and ...
A. 16 March 2013: First see a lawyer or legal aid to determine your rights and responsibilites. Find out if you have to endanger your child by leaving her with an abusive person.
2nd, make sure all contact between you and your partner is supervised by a safe per... (read in full...)
Is the new lady trying to make an impression with me because I'm the boss? Or could it be more?
Q. So, there's a new lady started at work. At first there was little interaction between us. But now there is lots of eye contact and what seems to be a certain smile from her that I don't see anyone else get. Not to mention that she is eager to ...
A. 16 March 2013: I think you might do well to listen to wise owl. It's a situation that could get awkward and even unpleasant.
If you want to proceed, I would do so only if both you and she are free, and even then with great caution and very slowly.
You say... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend about my mother judging him based on his Facebook posts?
Q. Hi there I am really heartbroken by my mothers comments. I have been with a lovely guy now for the last 5 months he is four years younger than me. My mother does not approve of this but I am 31 it's not like we are teenagers. She has not even ...
A. 16 March 2013: Do you want to spend the rest of your life with this man, or your mother?
And is your mother dating him or you.
Let those questions help you decide.
Your'e not a child whose mum gets to interfere with their choice of friends.... (read in full...)
How can I move things along with this young teacher?
Q. we recently got a new teacher to our school, he's young around 23/24 and I'm 18. He doesn't take any of my classes but I really like him. When I'm in the corridor he always smiles and 'gives me the eye', even my best friend whom I never mentioned ...
A. 16 March 2013: You will get him fired from your school and possibly destroy his career if he is stupid enough to pursue anything with you. It's a career breaker for him.
You're at an age where you're always going to be in love with someone, so choose some... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm just not out going enough, and people lose interest in befriending me, as a result?
Q. I feel like I can never keep a friendship. I am not sure if it is my fault or what..But I will try my best to explain things. I feel like people eventually get bored with me and find new and much better people to hang out with and become frie...
A. 16 March 2013: Well here's the good news. You don't have any trouble making friends. Yay! So you have something great on which you can build.
But I imagine because these friendships are not going the way you want them to, you may be losing confidence.
Q: w... (read in full...)
Drama, back stabbing comments, rumour-mongering. Ever suffered any of this? So fed up with it, should I just give up on trying to be friends with girls?
Q. Hello everyone, I have had a couple of issues for a long time, well, throughout my whole teenage life to be honest with you. I am a 19 year old female. This is going to be a long post so please read on, and bear with me. My problem is I cannot...
A. 16 March 2013: I'm sorry that you have had bad experiences with female relationships. Unfortunately you are part of a modern culture where care for others, courtesy, modesty and some other human virtues are no longer prized or cultivated, and a culture of bullying ... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't want to go on facebook and say we are back together or give me his password to it. This troubles me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. A couple of months ago we broke up for about one month, then decided that wasn't the right decision and have gotten back together. Well, there is a problem that has been bothering me a ...
A. 16 March 2013: Leave the PW and the face book issue alone, but if the secrecy about your relationship extends to everyday life, ie he keeps you from his friends and family, and only sees you in secret, then he is using you. It's that simple.
If he is othe... (read in full...)
Should I let my principal know how I've felt about him after all these years?
Q. I've been infatuated with my principal since the 8th grade. He used the be the Jr high principal but last year the high school principal retired. He got promoted and is now my principal. I'm a senior and I'm 18. I just feel like if I told him how I ...
A. 16 March 2013: If, in fact what you say is true, that this man has been flirting with you or showing any inappropriate interest in you from year 8 that makes him a paedophile, and a criminal. Are there any other young girls at your school that seem to have a crush ... (read in full...)
He's married. We're strongly attracted. I even told his wife nothing was 'going on'. I want to have sex with him, should I?
Q. Hi...this is my first time seeking advice through the internet. I'm almost 20 years old. I applied for a job at a restaurant and I got the job and the general manager is 37. During the interview we made deeply eye contact and then once he...
A. 10 February 2013: I wonder how many other young staff members he's tried to crack onto. A married man who is that ready to kiss (my God) his young staff members is a serial cheater. Sounds like you'll be looking for a new job. I'd do it now. Decent guys don't c... (read in full...)
Why does this man adhere to what his Mommy says, always? Why is my mother in law so resistant to allowing her son to grow up?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I am love with this guy that I have known for many years. We have a daughter together. I broke the relationship off and moved to another state. We talk to one another on the phone from time to time and every time I hear his voice it mak...
A. 10 February 2013: You said that you think he is a grown man. Well then I suggest you wait and see if that's true. He doesn't need another bossy woman in his life, in fact you want him to break free from a woman telling him what to do' don't you? So let him come to ... (read in full...)
Do I settle for what I have with my ex now? He says he's not ready to settle down. What's the best way to deal with this?
Q. I never stopped seeing my ex after we broke up. It has been over a year and we never stopped hanging out and sleeping together, we just eliminated a title. It all gets confusing because for the most part it seems like we are together still but we a...
A. 10 February 2013: He doesn't want you to be his girl friend so you'll have even less chance of being a wife. So he just wants free sex. ... (read in full...)
He wants Anal and I do not. Should I stay with him, or just consider us as not compatible as a couple and move on?
Q. hi, this is my query, i have been dating my new guy for 6 months now, things WERE going well, but know there are problems in paradise, ( i know some of you are gone think this is silly). But he likes anal sex, i have never tried it never had th...
A. 10 February 2013: You could tell him only if he thinks his penis is small enough to fit. That might shut him up.... (read in full...)
Does this 'relationship' have any potential?
Q. we've been seeing each other for over a month now. Every week, but usually at his place. We will go out for dinner the odd time. He says he wants it to stay casual as he just got out of a 3 and a half year relationship. In the beginning he woul...
A. 9 February 2013: Honey you have moved too fast by entering into a sexual relationship with him right off the bat. Now you want to move fast and enter into an emotional bond and he doesn't.
If you back out of the sex, he'll see it as game playing and mani... (read in full...)
What can I do? I don't like it when he calls me bad names, but I'm also scared of him.
Q. I have been hanging out with this man for about 5 months, he says we are just friends but we act more like a couple, heres my question!! I have been giving him b j a lot and there have been times he pushes my head down and he calls me bad names a ...
A. 9 February 2013: This man is seriously dangerous. You need to get away and stay away. He is an ABUSER. You may need protection as he probably won't be willing to let you go. If you can afford it also get some therapy for self-esteem issues. You shouldn't be ... (read in full...)
Should I be the one to deal with my Bf's ex Gf? And if so, then how?
Q. Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. The thing is, he's got this psycho girlfriend who he had been with for 2 years. She kept contacting him anonymously (putting her phone number in private and call him and just stay there a...
A. 9 February 2013: If your bf really wanted it her to stop contacting him he could. It can't be that expensive to change his contact details. He may welcome her advances or he might not really care.
If it really bothered me, I would ask him to change his deta... (read in full...)
She has a Bf yet flirts with me. Should I ask her how she feels about me and tell her how I feel?
Q. Dear Cupid, I been friends with this girl for about 2 years now and I really like her, and she likes me back (Im 90% sure). Problem is that she has a boyfriend and they've had sex together. Her friends tell me she likes me and so do my friend...
A. 9 February 2013: Oh so you would like a girlfriend who will cheat on you and you can be the unwitting stooge that her poor bf now is? A girl with no care for the feelings of others. Are you sure that's what you want?
And do you think it's right to steal anot... (read in full...)
In a subtle way, how do I encourage him to feel able to approach me? I want something to happen.
Q. I really want this guy who I see every week day and have nothing in common with him other than he works at my daughters school. We have exchanged constant stares over the last year, I feel that he is aware that I like him as when I return his gaze...
A. 9 February 2013: Also, how old is your daughter. Make sure you do NOTHING to make her feel uncomfortable. She is your first priority.... (read in full...)
In a subtle way, how do I encourage him to feel able to approach me? I want something to happen.
Q. I really want this guy who I see every week day and have nothing in common with him other than he works at my daughters school. We have exchanged constant stares over the last year, I feel that he is aware that I like him as when I return his gaze...
A. 9 February 2013: Stop exchanging glances. You're not 16. Approach him and have a friendly chat. You really need a better idea of if he likes you other than the fact that he looks away. If he still keeps looking away, or doesn't seem to take it up then maybe he isn't ... (read in full...)
New town. His town. How do I overcome problems with making friends with my partner's buddies? They don't seem to like me
Q. I've been with my partner for two years. He was unhappy in the town we lived in (where we met) so I agreed to move with him back to the town he lived in previously, where he has lots of friends and was happier. I am freelance and work from home s...
A. 9 February 2013: Your partner sounds like he is not considering your needs at all. Firstly you move because it's what he wants. Secondly, after you made that sacrifice, he wasn't prepared to compromise as to where to go. Now he is leaving you alone to work away. If ... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting when I notice my Bf likes pics of other women on his Facebook?
Q. This really bothers me. My boyfriend is always on Facebook liking pics of other chicks. They're not like sexy pics or demeaning pics or anything. But it's a constant thing that a chick who he may or may not know puts up a cute pic of herself and ...
A. 9 February 2013: No you are not over reacting. If this is what he is like now, he WILL get worse.... (read in full...)
He wants Anal and I do not. Should I stay with him, or just consider us as not compatible as a couple and move on?
Q. hi, this is my query, i have been dating my new guy for 6 months now, things WERE going well, but know there are problems in paradise, ( i know some of you are gone think this is silly). But he likes anal sex, i have never tried it never had th...
A. 9 February 2013: Does he secretly prefer men? Do you want anal warts? I'm with you. The anal area is for excreting and farts. Don't be pressured. I'd find someone who is more into romance and you And not into your bottom region. ... (read in full...)
Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet?
Q. Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet? Last weekend when I went out with a girl I've known a few years, we got a little drunk and totally unexpected she kissed me, I've liked this girl since the moment I met her but be...
A. 9 February 2013: Yep. She wants a bad boy. By the time she realizes her mistake hopefully you will have found a nice girl to suit you. Don't wait because you might miss a really lovely girl and you won't be her 'settle for' guy. It sounds like you have been in the ... (read in full...)
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