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36-40,
*ustme2013
writes:me and my childs dad just cant get along!!' he has a new girlfriend and it bothers me,,but i just want us to be cool and get along even if we cant be together right now.. he says he wants the same but he still gives me the cold shoulder and arguments.I told him I've started dating and he says " I don't care" but then gets physical let me give you guys an example. i called him up to meet me at a mutual place to drop our daughter off to him on the phone he was cool called me babe and all when i got there i said hi with a smile and was polite he gave me the silent treatment I was confused because he was cool on the phone I helped him pack our child in his car and I leaned in to kiss her goodbye then ask him was he ok he cursed me and said "bitch get out of my car" confused I said ok you are tripping and prepared to back up as I was half way out he pulled his car in reverse with me halfway in it so I went bananas he stopped the car and smacked me in my face so I fought back smh all of this in front of our child I started to cry and ask what the hell is going on he tells me f you and the guy you are dating remind you he has a girlfriend he says I'm mad because you trying to make someone else her dad smh I just looked at him and said you know what let me take her and go. so my question behind this long story is after this drama with him " hating me" and me loving but also hating him how can we be cool without things like that happening and become friends we tried the strictly about our child thing but as you see from the fight that didn't work out too well what can I do (screams from frustration )
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reader, Dayzee  +, writes (16 March 2013):
First see a lawyer or legal aid to determine your rights and responsibilites. Find out if you have to endanger your child by leaving her with an abusive person.
2nd, make sure all contact between you and your partner is supervised by a safe person such as a social worker, or parent.
3rd, if he lays a hand on you again, report him to the police and go back to your lawyer.
Please, pllease never let your child see you being treated by any man like this.
You don't need this man in your life, and your daughter doesn't need an abusive father. Protect her.
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reader, LususNaturae +, writes (16 March 2013):
Don't give him any information other than about your child. That is all you have in common anymore. Don't try to be his friend or a confidant. If he is abusive in front of your child again, call the police. If he is abusive to you then how do you know he has the patience for your child? I wouldn't leave my child with someone that would harm/cuss me in front of my child.
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