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female
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30-35,
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writes:Today I caught up with a friend who I hadn't seen for quite a while, although my boyfriend and his friends do sometimes hang out. friendsAnyways, I live next to the bus station, and he was going home, so he dropped me off at my place. While we were waiting for his bus, he told me that his girlfriend had cheated on him. We chatted, and I eventually asked if any of her friends had warned him. He told me that one of her friends knew, but then added something like:"Well, it's a hard place to be in. For example, I have this friend. He has a girlfriend who's a really nice gal. When we hang out just me and him, he shamelessly flirts with girls. But when his girlfriend arrives, he acts like everything's normal. And what sucks is that the poor girl really likes him and doesn't do as much as looking to another guy"I told him to just tell the girl, that she'd know how to deal with the situation. He answered that he doesn't want to be THAT guy that spreads rumors or that is trying to break a couple apart.Now, this guy doesn't have a crush on me, there has NEVER been anything between us and we aren't even that much of great friends. I assure you there is NO reason for him to lie to me.But something about the way he told me that story made it seem like it was about me. He usually specifies who the people involved are (says names, he knows I'm trustworthy), but this time is was "the guy", "the girl". He also was looking in a very weird way, like as if he wanted to know my reaction but didn't want to make it obvious.Should I ask this guy if the story is about me?And if it is, how can I address the issue with my boyfriend WITHOUT threatening his relationship with my friend?I don't want to put him on an awkward position.
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reader, Dayzee  +, writes (14 April 2013):
Just ask him if he means you. If he replies again that he doesn't want to be the guy that tells, you'll know it is.
He obviously wants to tell you so, just ask.
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