Should I confront him with all these weird happenings that I know about ?
Q. I met this man on a singles site, he is 40, I am 26, I don't feel like the age is an issue at all. I have been seeing him for about 2 1/2 months, from the beginning I was very straight forward about the fact that I do not like cheaters, been very ...
A. 22 September 2009: Hey Girl,
I wanted to let you know that I read your ENTIRE post - it's a long one.
My advice it's never good for ex's to be around each other, etc. I understand sometimes it's hard since he runs in the sames circles - but there was that message... (read in full...)
Why wont my man buy a home? Is this a sign of not commiting?
Q. Im 25 years old and my man is 36 since we have been together ive brought up numorous times that i want to buy a home some day. I understood at the time that i didnt have a job that paid very well or that it only paid 6.75 but since then ive gotten a ...
A. 10 September 2009: I think financially is probably the main reason.
The other, maybe commitment issues - buying a house together is a pretty big step (if not married and only GF/BF).
... (read in full...)
Is it true that abscence makes the heart grow fonder?
Q. Is it true that absence makes the heart grow fonder? And does a guy that youve spent so much time with, day in day out, reminice about all the moments and memories you two shared together; even if it were for just 4 months. Is it true that you could ...
A. 9 September 2009: Hey, I can't answer all the questions, but the ones I can, I'll try. ---Is it true that you could fall in love with someone after 4 months? Yes, it all depends how much time you spend together and if there was chemistry. The last gu... (read in full...)
When I asked if we'd marry he broke up with me saying he couldn't commit!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we were about to buy a house together however when I asked if he will ever marry me he has ended our relationship as he said he can not commit. Will he ever come back to me?...
A. 9 September 2009: Hey there, I think it's strange that he'd buy a house with you but not marry you. Him saying he can't commit, sounds bad - not a good sign. Did that mean he can't commit to you? Did that mean he wants an open relationship? When was ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether to believe my boyfriend when he says he is not interested in any other women...
Q. I'll try to make this as short and clear as possible. The thing is, i am insecure (as i have mentioned in my previous post) and probably will never overcome this character trait. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We are happy...well i ...
A. 9 September 2009: Girl,
Your guy sounds very sweet.
Life is too short to be questioning these kind of things.
If he wanted other girls, he'd be with them.
Try to be secure in your relationship, and go tell your BF that you love him very much, lol.
... (read in full...)
I'm not really comfortable with having an open relationship, but I just don't want to lose her
Q. Hey, me and my girlfriend have been going out for 10 months now, im 18 and she is 17. She as recently entered that phase in life where she wants to go out and have fun with other guys, but she also wants to stay with me. More to the point, she has ...
A. 9 September 2009: Hey there,
My advice is drop this chick.
Why do you feel you deserve a girl that sleeps with other men and then comes back to you?
Do you REALLY feel you're worth that little?
Google the word, "cuckold."
Secondly, you mention this: ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the crushing lonliness I feel when I'm not with my girlfriend?
Q. Hello, I am 20 year old male and have been in a relationship with another girl for about half a year. Everything is going well, and we're happy together. But... When she's not around I sometimes get really lonely. I see her around 2 or 3 ...
A. 7 September 2009: Relationships are about needs and compatibility.
Posters will tell you to "grow up," or focus on something else, etc.
But truth is, some people are clingier than others - I don't think people need to change it.
My last relationship, me an... (read in full...)
Any advice, because I'm not over her and want her to see we can still have something special?
Q. Well, she called it quits! Im the guy who wrote the question titled "Is she still mourning or is it over?" Well, she came to me and told me its over here is what she wrote to me (told her to write me becuase of our schedules and I didn't wanna keep ...
A. 7 September 2009: Hey Guy,
I read your entire post.
She knows herself better than you ever can. The woman knows you had something good together, she likes you, etc - but doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. She was very honest in her letter. We (the ... (read in full...)
I can never be the one to end relationships. Is this a bad thing?
Q. I'm in a relationship that will unfortunately be coming to an end in less than a weeks time. We are both going to university and have decided to end the relationship on mutual terms. However, last night we had a bit of an argument which became q...
A. 7 September 2009: I think we need some more information.
For 1, all relationships have arguments. I think what is more important is what the argument was about. Reading your post, I just took it as a guy who found a girl who is worth going through the trouble ... (read in full...)
Is he ending it? Very confused
Q. I got an email from a guy I have been seeing briefly saying that bad things have happened to him lately with his job and other things. He didnt go into detail. I have only seen him 3 times (the last time we had sex), we both are in other relation...
A. 7 September 2009: I read your post... It seems after you guys had sex, he dropped contact with you. You called - he made an excuse. He probably contacted you back because maybe he felt a little obligated... And he wanted to express that things won't be ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend who is engaged. Please help!
Q. I have fallen in love with my best friend. I have known my best friend for just under 10 years, and i have been in love with her for 6 of those years. She has been the greatest friend i could ever wished for. She recently threw me a surprise ...
A. 7 September 2009: Let me know what happened, Labor Day Weekend, you must have found sometime to tell her - update this thread.... (read in full...)
Destined to be single and alone for the rest of my life
Q. I'm late 20's and never had a girlfriend and don't think I'll ever have one. When I was a child I was often called ugly by girls, this made me resent them, and I never so much as bothered try to talk to a female about going on a date. During my...
A. 3 September 2009: Hey man,
I read all your post.
First thing, you're not ready for a relationship.
You need to have shzz going on in your life before jumping into a relationship. You need to work on yourself.
You need to get some confidence, determin... (read in full...)
What prompted her to cut off all contact with me?
Q. A long story short. I met this girl in Germany over the summer (she's 19, I'm 30). Things were great, we really connected and enjoyed each others company. There was without a doubt love coming from both sides. We lived together for about 2 months ...
A. 3 September 2009: Age is what happening. She's young. She likes to drink. I know you're not foolish enough to think that she's only talking with you, right...she's talking to other men as well.
The best thing to do is just take it as a great experience and a memory... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend who is engaged. Please help!
Q. I have fallen in love with my best friend. I have known my best friend for just under 10 years, and i have been in love with her for 6 of those years. She has been the greatest friend i could ever wished for. She recently threw me a surprise ...
A. 3 September 2009: When's a right time? After she's married and has about 5 kids? You're stalling, you and I both know that. What's so hard to bring it up, next time you get a bite to eat together, or hell, have about 20 minutes to spare with her. It's been... (read in full...)
G/f had been in a MMF threesome..how do I compete with that?
Q. Found out that in her past my girlfriend had been in a MMF threesome and thought it was pretty hot. Makes me uncomfortable. I mean, how could I EVER compete with that? (that's a rhetorical question). I want to believe that all the best sexual ...
A. 3 September 2009: Just curious, you say genes? I mean what do you have to offer? When I think of genes, I only think of a few things. 1. Looks 2. Health History 3. Possibly heritage (German, etc) 4. Even age Look-wise, are you at least 6'0, do you have... (read in full...)
I took his word for it that we were 'just friends' and went out with someone else. Now he's distant.
Q. (I'm reposting this question because I received no responses the first time, any advice would be really appreciated) So I'm kind of in a mess. My ex and I were each others first love. He was everything to me, and for almost two years I thought ...
A. 3 September 2009: I re-read your post, I don't know why I thought it was about two guys.
I'd like to talk to you, we're the about the same age, I'm 22, a student. Contemplating getting back with my ex, too - lol.
Please click my screen name. And send me a me... (read in full...)
My ex and I are seeing how things go, but there seems to be other guys
Q. Hey me and my girlfriend have recently split up, but at the moment we're seeing how things go...things seem really good between us at the moment but I'm being troubled by a few things. She's just started college and is hanging around with a few guys ...
A. 2 September 2009: Hello,
First off, you're in college and young. The chance of you and this chick having any long-term potential is slim to none.
You and her, will both be seeing other people, being more involved in the social college life, etc.
I don't... (read in full...)
Having an affair and now she wants a baby with me
Q. here is the question i have affair with married woman, but she want to have kid with me , she says it will remain secret , please advise....
A. 2 September 2009: I won't advise you here, lol. This seems like a silly question and you no the answer, hell no.
Do you really feel comfortable something that's a part of you, being raised by somebody you hardly know and another man? That's your blood and apart of... (read in full...)
I want him to feel the way he USED to feel about me!
Q. me and my bf recently broke up for about a month and just got back together. we were together for 7 months before that. the feelings between us are sorta the same. we still love eachother but we're not IN LOVE with eachother anymore. i want ...
A. 2 September 2009: I broke up with somebody and contemplated getting back with them. This was one of my concerns, I didn't know if we can ever feel the same about each other again.
I decided not to pursue it (for different reasons, but i had thought about this one... (read in full...)
I took his word for it that we were 'just friends' and went out with someone else. Now he's distant.
Q. (I'm reposting this question because I received no responses the first time, any advice would be really appreciated) So I'm kind of in a mess. My ex and I were each others first love. He was everything to me, and for almost two years I thought ...
A. 2 September 2009: Tough situation. You both have to sit down and talk about it. But for the most part, it looks like you're looking for commitment, long-term, be aware younger guys don't look to settle down till late 20's, some early 30's (they're done with school, ... (read in full...)
Her bj technique is killing me
Q. Hello Recently I've been dating this girl, we're both 18 I've been with her for 2 months the problem is that when she goes down on me she kind of chews on my penis. I don't really want to say anything because I love her but if this carries on I...
A. 2 September 2009: Yeah, I agree with both posters below. She's down there to please you, she wants you to feel good. You need to tell her how you like it, she may not be that experienced. And even if she is, every guy is different, what her last BF liked you may no... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend who is engaged. Please help!
Q. I have fallen in love with my best friend. I have known my best friend for just under 10 years, and i have been in love with her for 6 of those years. She has been the greatest friend i could ever wished for. She recently threw me a surprise ...
A. 2 September 2009: Hey OP, let us know what you decided to do. Did you tell her yet?... (read in full...)
Is there still a point in saving it?
Q. I hope I don't get made fun of for this. I've only had one girlfriend ever, so not much relationship experience. Im 20 years old and I'm still a virgin; and I'm saving it for the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. It's difficult though, ...
A. 2 September 2009: Hey there, Yeah, your relationship was based on lies. You felt betrayed, that hurt you. I found out what most men get hurt about on break-ups. Isn't so much the act of what broke it up, but the point that they feel like they trusted this pers... (read in full...)
I slept with him, but is he still interested?
Q. Slept with him, but is he interested? I recently met a guy i get on really well with. I have seen him 3 times over a period of 2 months as he works away a lot. We keep in touch through email and occassional texts, but thats it. I dont want to be ...
A. 1 September 2009: I think with these things, it's all in the guy's court.
You just have to wait and see. If you notice he doesn't contact you back, it may be over.
If he does want to see you again, I'm sure he'll make contact again to keep you available.
Bu... (read in full...)
I slept with him, but is he still interested?
Q. Slept with him, but is he interested? I recently met a guy i get on really well with. I have seen him 3 times over a period of 2 months as he works away a lot. We keep in touch through email and occassional texts, but thats it. I dont want to be ...
A. 1 September 2009: I've read your entire post. You said it perfectly in the beginning, "we are both in relationships and so know from the outset that it is fun and we are not going to get married or anything."
He was more attentive to you in the beginning because ... (read in full...)
Is there still a point in saving it?
Q. I hope I don't get made fun of for this. I've only had one girlfriend ever, so not much relationship experience. Im 20 years old and I'm still a virgin; and I'm saving it for the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. It's difficult though, ...
A. 1 September 2009: Hello, I'm 22, F, student, and yeah, virgin. This may not help, but I want to let you know THERE ARE people out there who think like you. My upbringing and views are very traditional. I've lived in America my entire life, but my culture and the ... (read in full...)
G/f had been in a MMF threesome..how do I compete with that?
Q. Found out that in her past my girlfriend had been in a MMF threesome and thought it was pretty hot. Makes me uncomfortable. I mean, how could I EVER compete with that? (that's a rhetorical question). I want to believe that all the best sexual ...
A. 31 August 2009: I'm having a similar problem, except I'm the woman in the relationship. I'm involved with someone that's very open minded and I know I'd never do some of the things they did. It's hard being with someone that's just done so much when it concerns... (read in full...)
This will be the first time I have sex, and I'm worried he'll compare me to other girls!
Q. ok before i ask this i want to make it clear tht i dont want ppl to tell me not to do this coz i already made up my mind, id just realy appreciate the advice :) basically me and my best guy friend have agreed to have sex, hes had sex befre but i ...
A. 31 August 2009: Yeah, I agree with EmilyAnswers. You'd be nothing but a notch on the bed post. It doesn't matter what you're privates are like, he just knows he's getting some virgin p*ssy. Good Luck... (read in full...)
How will a younger man react to seeing an older woman naked?
Q. I have been seeing a younger man and we are considering getting intimate. He wants to. How will I know that he as a younger man will enjoy seeing me as an older woman naked? Ladies, do you have any experience with this? Any ideas for finding out if ...
A. 31 August 2009: I'm younger, 22/F. But my last boyfriend (he's 29) had talked about when he was younger (18) he had relationships (mainly casual/intimate) with older women. He never talked about their body or the way they looked, the things he remembered was t... (read in full...)
Where do I fit in with him?
Q. I dont get it.... There's this guy who asked me out and asked was I single etc... I said I was and he met up with me. I knew him just from being in a club I'm a member of. He obviously took a shine to me. He then tells me he has a gf away he had i...
A. 31 August 2009: First thing, whether they lived together or she lives in another country, he has a "commitment" with her.
I understand that it's not a marriage but it's some level of a commitment. And unless he ends it with her first, he should not be meeting ... (read in full...)
Her LDR is going bad, and I really want her!
Q. My best friend is a girl and we've known each other for way too long (about eleven years to be exact). We're now in the same university (we planned that considering we only knew each other was going to this school) and we've actually decided to room ...
A. 31 August 2009: Yeah, be there for her. Let he go through her stage, it might take a long time. Women take this stuff hard. The break-up I've had recently took me about 1-2 months to get over.
After she's good, talk to her, let her know your feelings. ... (read in full...)
He heard from this 24 year old hottie, I haven't heard from him since, should I move on?
Q. I bumped into this guy I used to work with years ago, went on a great date with him, and then in a post-date phone call, he tells me about this hot 24-year-old he'd dated four times a couple months ago. He's 38. She broke it off because she was ...
A. 31 August 2009: 3 Words..DROP THIS GUY.
He shows you no respect. This guy is NOT worth missing. I wouldn't even answer his calls.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Is he serious about "just friends" or do we still have a shot?
Q. Okay so I was seeing this guy for about a month. He persued hot and heavy. Everything was going along fine until an ex hacked into my email and internet accounts. I had to fess up to the new guy about this "other" guy. It seemed to really freak him ...
A. 31 August 2009: I think you should give him some time, let him figure it out on his own.
If he feels you're worth it, he'll contact you back and start things up again.
If not, he wasn't worth your time anyway.... (read in full...)
We have a sexual relationship only, should he at least have sent me a birthday card?
Q. I have a sexual relationship with this man. We have been seeing eachother for a while, mind you mainly just for sex. It was my birthday the other day and he did not call to say Happy Birthday. I did not expect a gift but I was expecting a phone ...
A. 31 August 2009: I agree with AuntyEm, on how he might feel it's starting to get too personal for him or seen as too much of a commitment to him to acknowledge it.
Good Luck ... (read in full...)
He's kind, loving, but never says "I love you," should I say something?
Q. When is the right time to say I love you to someone?? I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months but he has never said he loves me. I don't know if its too early to bring it up or if I should wait. When he's drunk he tells me how special I am and ...
A. 31 August 2009: Hello, I'm a 22/F. My boyfriend was the one to say "I love you," to me first. And I questioned him about, I wanted to know what "love" meant to him. I didn't say it first, because (this is really old-school/traditional train of thought) ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend who is engaged. Please help!
Q. I have fallen in love with my best friend. I have known my best friend for just under 10 years, and i have been in love with her for 6 of those years. She has been the greatest friend i could ever wished for. She recently threw me a surprise ...
A. 31 August 2009: Hello, 6 years of being in love, is one hell of a long time. 10 years of knowing someone where it's just platonic is one hell of a long time, lol. I'm 22/F. I have a friend that I've known for 8 months (he's 27). We were both single when we... (read in full...)
Relative is flirting with me after giving me the cold shoulder
Q. What is she after?? Please help, there is this girl who is a friend and a relative of mine. Since years now our friendship has been some times spicy and some times cold. Finally a year ago she suddenly got flirtatious and I got a little excited a...
A. 31 August 2009: Hey there, First off, keyword: relative. I don't know what culture you are. I know in some cultures they arrange marriages with 3rd and further cousins. However.. If your culture doesn't have marriages that are arranged like this, my advice... (read in full...)
I am 33 with four kids, can a relationship with a 21 year old work?
Q. I’m a 33-year old mother of four, who is dating a 21-year old man for about two years. I have always been attracted to younger men. He is very compassionate, thoughtful, financially supportative, and he always goes the extra mile to prove that he is ...
A. 31 August 2009: Hello, I'll be honest. I'm a 22 year old/Female. I'm only interested in men that are at least 28-29, only because they are at a better point in their lives where they understand what they need and want in life and in relationships. ... (read in full...)
My brother caught me masturbating, what to do about it?
Q. I was watching a quiet porn video on my laptop while masturbating on my bed with my hands down my pants (all clothes were still on). I knew that my brother would be coming home soon, but i still left my bedroom door open. When i heard him come home, ...
A. 31 August 2009: Hello, I think you just feel really ashamed about it, right now. I wouldn't bring it up. I doubt he will. He's just as embarrassed about it as you are, with this being said, I doubt he would tell your parents. Don't worry about it... (read in full...)
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