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writes:My best friend is a girl and we've known each other for way too long (about eleven years to be exact). We're now in the same university (we planned that considering we only knew each other was going to this school) and we've actually decided to room together. Nothing happens, at all. Ever.You see, starting in seventh grade, she's been dating her first and only boyfriend. They've been together for six and a half years and counting. He's at a college three states away and she has a guy for a room-mate. Although I would never ever pressure her into anything, doesn't that seem like it would be a red flag?The biggest red flag is how much their phone conversations have changed in the last couple weeks. I've only eavesdropped because she's sitting ten feet away from me and not exactly hiding her frustrations.I can tell she doesn't trust him at all anymore and she's been really sad lately. I asked her what was up and she said something I never caught because I'm a fucking idiot: the guy's been emotionally abusing her the last few years.We just started our sophomore year of college and I'm getting really antsy about telling her my feelings. There's no way in hell that that douche-bag she's dating is worth the rest of her life. He doesn't get or know how to treat a lady right. Especially one as amazing as my best friend.I just don't know how to go about doing anything about this whole situation. They're not exactly broken up yet, but she's told me that it will be soon and she's going to need a shoulder to cry on. I'm way more than willing to be that guy. I don't pressure her into anything (like I've said), but I want her to be happy.I want to see a smile grace her beautiful features everyday until the day I die. I'm ready and willing to prove to her everyday that there's no other woman like her... not for me.
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reader, catie-32776  +, writes (1 September 2009):
im not the best at giving advice, so i dont know why im doing this, but in my opinion i think you should tell her, i mean, im sure she knows how great you are and will feel lucky to have you around, when she knows your feeling like this she may give you a chance, and that may turn into something amazing, from the sounds of things you love this girl a whole lot and would do anything to make her happy, i would take that leap and see where things go.Good luck, and i would like to know how things turn out :)so message me if you dont mind, when you make your mind up :) x
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reader, CupidGirl826 +, writes (31 August 2009):
Yeah, be there for her. Let he go through her stage, it might take a long time. Women take this stuff hard. The break-up I've had recently took me about 1-2 months to get over.
After she's good, talk to her, let her know your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Do not say anything about your feelings. Be there for her, give her that shoulder to cry on. Once she emerges from the hurt, she'll realize that you were good to her, and maybe that will make her start to think about you the way you want her to. But any pressure on her now and you'll blow it.
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