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41-50,
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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we were about to buy a house together however when I asked if he will ever marry me he has ended our relationship as he said he can not commit. Will he ever come back to me?
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (9 September 2009):
 No one can say if he'll ever come back to you. Was it his idea to purchase the home, or yours?
Maybe he's just skittish or he's just a commitment-phobe. Some guys just cannot commit for their lives. Others, if they're secure knowing that a woman is devoted to them, have no problem committing.
Its very hard to say given the sparse facts. We don't know his personality, so you're a better judge of his character than we are at this point.
Some more details might be helpful.
Here's a cautionary note. If you two were going to purchase a home together, but he was not firm, shouldn't you retain legal counsel or a solicitor to offer good advice about how to own the home, just in case he bolted afterward?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): Hi there:
Well the fact that he does not want to commit is not a positive indicator for the future. He could need some time to absorb everything but I would watch out.
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reader, CupidGirl826 +, writes (9 September 2009):
Hey there,I think it's strange that he'd buy a house with you but not marry you. Him saying he can't commit, sounds bad - not a good sign. Did that mean he can't commit to you? Did that mean he wants an open relationship?When was your last contact with him?It just really sudden that he decided to call it off. It says, you're 30-35. I'm guessing the guy you're seeing is in the same age range, men are normally ready to settle down in that age. Maybe he got sudden cold feet, like buying the house together, moving in, marriage - maybe it freaked him out. That isn't an excuse though, he's not boy anymore - he's a man. They all have to grow up one day. I just don't see how he tossed 3 years away so quickly. Did he say anything else?
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