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writes:I'm in a relationship that will unfortunately be coming to an end in less than a weeks time. We are both going to university and have decided to end the relationship on mutual terms.However, last night we had a bit of an argument which became quite heated. The opportunity for me to go home and never see her again was right in front of me. I could have just left... but for some reason I didn't want to. Despite the argument and the anger it caused, I just couldn't walk away.We ended up spending the rest of the evening and had a very nice time together. In the end I was very happy to have stayed. You might be wondering why this is a problem, but here it is - I can't seem to be the one who ends a relationship. I can't seem to do it. Either the other person breaks up with me, or I'm in situations like this where the relationship simply won't work when we get to a certain point and we end things mutually.Is it a bad thing that I don't seem to be able to end relationships? Is it cowardly? Is it a BAD thing? I don't believe it's "Wrong" or "Bad", but I fear it's a weakness in my character. It's like I'm allowing myself to be a doormat. Should I try and change this, and if so, how can I?
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reader, CupidGirl826  +, writes (7 September 2009):
I think we need some more information.
For 1, all relationships have arguments. I think what is more important is what the argument was about. Reading your post, I just took it as a guy who found a girl who is worth going through the trouble for.
You mention "doormat," are there reasons in your relationships that you felt like they needed to end? Cheating, lying, lifestyle differences, etc? Are they taking advantage of you? Verbally abusing you? Do you not feel connected with the person? List can go on..
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