Am I doing the right thing by saying 'enough is enough'?
Q. i been with my boyfriend for 4years now.. we decided to move in 2gether wen i was 6mnths pregnant and the problem started wen i gave birth. he'd take all the money and gamble it and leave us with nothing for the whole week .. we both dont work s...
A. 15 July 2010: This man is no role model for your daughter. He cares very little for her, if the money the government gives you to raise her goes on gambling.
She deserves more and so do YOU. From all the money he has gambled and stuff he has pawned, how can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me 4 times, and I kissed another boy. Can we still work out?
Q. [Moderator note: the age posted is probably incorrect. Aunts and uncles please respond to this as you would someone younger.] hi, me and this boy had a thing going on (we werent out)but this boy from italy came over for an exchange visit. he li...
A. 9 July 2010: Hey hun,
Sometimes we have to move on however hard it is.
I'm sure you want a boyfriend who only wants you all the time.
Something is missing if you both keep on cheating.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
Can social services prevent me from seeing my boyfriend?
Q. my children on child protecton, the socail severs know i have a boyfriend is there any reasons they can stop me seeing him after 3 years. he has no contact with the girls when he comes to see me ...
A. 9 July 2010: If your partner is a known drug user, alcohol dependent or a know sex offender then yes they can take your children.
Was it because of him why your girls are on the at risk register?
Don't play with fire if this is the case. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants nothing to do with our baby so what should I do?
Q. I met my boyfriend at a mutual workplace and chemistry immediately attracted us together. We have been a couple for one year now. From day 1, he told me that he had two children (twins) and wanted to make sure I still wanted to be in his life. I ...
A. 9 July 2010: Look everything happens for a reason. You have decide what is best for you.
You will not be the 1st single parent without support or adoption is an option.
Only You can decide what is best, it will be something you will have to live with for th... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship trouble!
Q. This is a first and i'm not all that great about talking about my emotions etc so forgive me if this sounds terribly stupid. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 and half years, around a year ago she had to move away because her parents had been...
A. 9 July 2010: Hey Jamie
You are not over reacting, she is ment to be your girlfriend and she only contacts you once a week.
This is not how the relationship started.
The fact that your health is seriously being put at risk means you have to start thing ... (read in full...)
Just a one time thing?
Q. Well i have been at this company for a few years..i always thought this one guy was good looking and had a good personality as well..just genuinly friendly it seems and very good at work--remains focused and motivated..he is pretty popular in the ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hey hun,
It sounds like you both had a nice time. Just be relaxed and let him do the running now.
He knows you like him, he enjoyed making out, let things run their own course.
Do not lose the will power!
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I am away on vacation and I think my man is cheating.
Q. So me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. We did long distance for a year and 4 months and i moved to arizona to be with him. Our relationship has not been easy because when we met he had just separated and I had to go thru some ...
A. 9 July 2010: Are you always this paraniod when going out with men, or is it just with this gentleman?
Can you really live like this? I hate the feeling of jealously it can ruin a great day.
When you get back so some investigations to see if anything went on... (read in full...)
Am I just being blind to his sister's boyfriend's controlling ways?
Q. Last night me and my boyfriend were discussing his little sisters relationship She's 19 and has been with this guy who's 23 for 5 yrs I asked my boyfriend what he thought of their relationship and he said that her boyfriend is a control freak...
A. 9 July 2010: Only time will show if your boyfriend is right or not.
Many controlling men come across as caring when around others, but no one really know what goes on in a relationship.
... (read in full...)
How do I stop looking like a fool and get over this man?
Q. hello all, My boyfriend of 4 months has got back with his ex without even telling me. His sister had to tell me, I hadnt heard from him for a week, and now I find out he is gonna try and make it work for the sake of his children. Im gobs...
A. 9 July 2010: Sorry to hear that, it's very hurtful that he could treat you that way.
But you have done very well all by yourself. You have acted with dignity, just carry on as Caring guy said.
Good luck, Remember there is a prince after the frogs - Yours wi... (read in full...)
She says she wants something to remember me by?
Q. My Girlfriend is moving to australia , we both dont want her to move , what can i do - if anything , to make her going away a bit easier because , at the moment we have decided on a make the most of it as long as we can but she said she wants ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hey Chin up. There are lots of fish in the sea. Just go fishing :o)... (read in full...)
What is so special to women about having a baby?
Q. [OP's original title] You're all not going to like this...But I am a guy and I don't think there is anything special about having kids. I had a vasectomy years ago, and there's some lunatic woman I've met, who I'm having it off with, who wants a baby...
A. 8 July 2010: It's something nature makes us feel. From babies little girls are given dollies to care for.
In relationships we nuture our partners.
The miracle of having a baby is just so beautiful to us. And when we see babies we can't help but smile and wa... (read in full...)
I feel my marriage is a sham... help!
Q. My husband is always gone day and night, he doesn't come back home until late or sometimes he won't come at all, when he wants sex i refuse because he is always so secretive and never shares with me what he has done. When i try to communicate with ...
A. 8 July 2010: Hey Honey
Thank you for getting back to us.
This man is very ungrateful, he is showing you no respect and emotionally blackmailing you to stay.
Is this sad fustrating situation all you want in life? If you want better for your children... (read in full...)
Shall he ever call me again even to apologize
Q. 2weeks ago I was going through some hard time at work and I was very sick,my boyfriend who is 23 years older than me did not stand by me, I called him and he said fine, I told him I sense you want to break up with me, he said no. I told him that wo...
A. 7 July 2010: The one thing I've learnt in life, as long as there is no big bust up, they always make a way back.
I've had a few boyfriends end things with explaination and after some time they always find away to contact me.
Just leave him alone now and kn... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my friends over this guy... what should I do?
Q. My friends and family don't like my boyfriend, they think hes a thief and we did catch him once with a cell phone but he did have a good excuse for how he had it. he had a phone that looked just like the one that was stolen/lost and they both ended ...
A. 7 July 2010: Aprt from saying he's your boyfriend what does this guy do for you?
Because if you seem to be flavishing things on him with very little back from him, I could see why friends and family may not like him.
Also love is blind- it is very rare tha... (read in full...)
How do I let go of anger and resentment of being mistreated?
Q. How do I let go of anger and resentment of being mistreated? My ex recently came back into my life. Through the breakup, I really thought about my part in the relationship and tried to change myself for a better person. It seemed like he did too,...
A. 7 July 2010: Listen stop stewing and keep walking.
If everyone was considerate in this world it would be a different place. Loads of people are just out to get what they want from people and that's it.
You seem to have a good head on your shoulders stop t... (read in full...)
I feel my marriage is a sham... help!
Q. My husband is always gone day and night, he doesn't come back home until late or sometimes he won't come at all, when he wants sex i refuse because he is always so secretive and never shares with me what he has done. When i try to communicate with ...
A. 7 July 2010: Hi,
Do you know if you husband is working or socialising when he is out all the time?
You have children together so I assume you have been living like this for sometime.
When did things change between you?
Get back to us when you can
... (read in full...)
My husband is talking to other women, am I being played?
Q. my husband and i are separated for about three weeks now. he says he wants me to move back in and that im the love of his life. but he doesnt know i know he has been sending messages to multiple girls. like hes trying to hook up with them. i dont ...
A. 7 July 2010: Hey hun,
The inappropiate messages were my 1st warning sign, whenever I confronted my Ex he always said they were jokes, or done out of boredom.
But now with hindsight I should of realise they showed he's utter lack of respect for me and our m... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I am getting the respect I should from him or am I making too much out of this?
Q. Hi I would like your opinion please on these comments my boyfried keeps making to me. To be quite honest I am starting to feel like he has a very low opinion of me at times and I'm wondering if I should tackle him about this. Here are some of the t...
A. 6 July 2010: The comments were wrong, but have a lot of humour! If he is always cracking jokes it may be he's humour is just warped! ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my unromantic boyfriend and am now struggling to repair things!
Q. Please dont tell me how I am such a horrible person or anything like that because I know I am and I know its a blessing that things worked out the way they did: I cheated on my boyfriend just shy of our 4th anniversary. First of all I want to sa...
A. 6 July 2010: Thanks for the update.
Good luck with the conselling
... (read in full...)
Someone please help me with my husband!
Q. [Mod note: Combined two questions as they are both about the same marriage.] i am a 22 year old mother of two i have been married to my husband for over a year now we have dated since high school for the past eight years.in 2007 he gotten inca...
A. 6 July 2010: Hey hun,
My Ex husband had friends just like your husbands. I thought they were womanizers because their girlfriends didn't give them sex regularly.
So I always belived because I was good looking and taking care of my Ex husband in the bedroom ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to date him after they're through?
Q. hi theres this friend of mine *malachi* is going out with my best friend *rosie*. well rosie introduced me to malachi in hope of us going out we got on brilliantly and were flirting, having fun stuff like that like we'd been friends for years, and ...
A. 5 July 2010: You sound like you are very level headed.
Good Luck x ... (read in full...)
I have a restraining order against him but I ran away with him and now I'm afraid of what he might do!
Q. i have been really stupid i have recently met up with an ex of mine and i ran away to scotland with him as i have a restraining order aginst him. He is still up there but is planning to come back and im dreading it because heis violent and an a...
A. 4 July 2010: Hey Hun,
It's time to be honest and start getting some real help.
Have you been in contact with women's aid? They can get you some counselling and advice on how to deal with your current situation.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to date him after they're through?
Q. hi theres this friend of mine *malachi* is going out with my best friend *rosie*. well rosie introduced me to malachi in hope of us going out we got on brilliantly and were flirting, having fun stuff like that like we'd been friends for years, and ...
A. 3 July 2010: Hey Honey,
I usually say it was never okay to go after a friends Ex but I know it happens.
Can you not wait till your best friend is seeing someone new before approaching this guy?
You will have to probably handle your friend very careful... (read in full...)
We have gone back to being friends but he still acts like my boyfriend and wont let me talk to other guys!
Q. so, im going to college in the fall and i decided that me and my bf should become friends longer than we did before we jumped into the relationship and so we both agreed. but now he's sort of making me promise that i wont talk to any other guys ...
A. 3 July 2010: Hi Honey, You have tried to be he's friend but he is still putting demands on you as if he were your boyfriend. In an ideal world we could be friends with all our Ex boyfriends but it is impossible if either party wants to rekindle the rela... (read in full...)
What is going on with him?
Q. Hello everyone. I never go online for advice but in this case I need a unbias advice. So I was seeing this most wonderful guy and we got along perfectly, We made me laugh with our intellectual jokes and other inside jokes. We also shared so much wit...
A. 2 July 2010: Go away to this music gig together and see what happens.
If the weekend rekindles your romance, then great! If not, it may be time to start dating new guys.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my ex has contact with his ex
Q. Will my ex continue to mess around with his ex now that i have discovered his games and he has lost our relationship and his kids? I recently started to become very uncomfortable with my partners contact with his ex. They have a grownup son and he ...
A. 2 July 2010: Hey Honey,
My ex was also obessed with he's ex (also had a child with her). He used to hack into her email account, send dodgy texts, call her at 1am when their child was alseep.
Even now we are not together, she has. Been quoted to say "s... (read in full...)
I cheated on my unromantic boyfriend and am now struggling to repair things!
Q. Please dont tell me how I am such a horrible person or anything like that because I know I am and I know its a blessing that things worked out the way they did: I cheated on my boyfriend just shy of our 4th anniversary. First of all I want to sa...
A. 2 July 2010: You can always earn your boyfriends trust back, but I would be reluctant to make out you should do all the changing and fixing!
There was obviously a problem in your relationship and he needs to take responsibility for that too.
If you try to... (read in full...)
Should your boyfriend think you are pretty and sexy?
Q. Im not really sure if im being overly sensitive or what but i dont like the image my boyfriend has of me,we been together now almost 2 years, he is always saying he loves me cause pretty girls are bitches. Now thats basically telling me he doesnt ...
A. 2 July 2010: Hey honey,
Sorry but I have no idea why your boyfriends feels the need to belittle any women, he's name calling is really immature.
You shoud be the only one he should be commenting on and if someone is apprecaited by their man "pretty and sexy... (read in full...)
He doesn't work and is bossed around and kept by his parents
Q. My boyfriend of 1 years is wonderful. He loving, romantic, funny, caring, generous etc. The problem is, I can't see myself with him forever, although he makes me happy. This is because he is 24 years old and still dependednt on his family. He d...
A. 2 July 2010: Listen if you do not share the same goals in life, then he is not your Mr Right.
It's nice feeling your in a tunnel with no light insight. This is how it feel when you have no hope of creating your dreams because your partner is holding you back... (read in full...)
Have I annoyed her and should I just move on?
Q. I would like your opinion on this subject...I went out with this girl and then went on a couple of weeks vacation when I came back she decided that she isn't ready for a relationship and want to be friends for now and down know about later to be ...
A. 2 July 2010: From what you describe she is making little or no effort.
When my friends find themselves in this position I tell them to stop all contact. If the other person notices and starts contacting them and making an effort then it's all good, but if n... (read in full...)
Is the mess normal?
Q. okay so my boyfriend and i decided he will be fingering me in the next few days, i'm really excited but i feel things won't go as planned... i seem to cum at anytime in the day and it worries me. Is that normal?? like why do i do that? and when he ...
A. 2 July 2010: Hi Honey,
Are you sure it is cum? It could be thrush?
Seek medical advice if it may not be cum.... (read in full...)
I want to do something really special for my girlfriend's 18th birthday, any ideas?
Q. my girlfriend is turning 18 and i want to do something very special she has had it very hard family wise since she was 12 years old and i want to do something for her any ideas?...
A. 2 July 2010: Well there are so many things you could do.
1) Arrange a suprise birthday party. Maybe at your local pub or club whatever she may enjoy more.
2) Book a romantic weekend away here or abroad.
3) Buy her a nice piece of jewellery.
4) Write h... (read in full...)
I love both my wife and her sister!
Q. hai my name is gopal am married with a girl, and she was my friend later we loved each other and got married. but later because of some issues some gap formed and this is mainly because sex. she is a sick often she will become sick so i wont a...
A. 2 July 2010: What a mess.
You will lose both of them and their parents will be Royally annoyed with you also.
It may seem like a win/ win game for you now but this is definately going to blow up in your face.
Be ready to face the consciences!... (read in full...)
He scared me
Q. Okay, so two days ago my boyfriend and I were hanging out at a friends house and things got a little rough between us. It started off sweet and it ended up with him on top of me holding me down and wanting me to make out with him while I said no. ...
A. 2 July 2010: Hey Honey,
You shouldn't be scared of anyone who says they care for you.
Maybe it was fun in he's eyes but it certainly wasn't for you.
It is not bad to say you have different sense of humours, or acceptable ways of behaving.
Don't be ar... (read in full...)
I must start to think about the future for myself.
Q. im(27) with a guy(23) for 6 years now engadged for 2 and living with him for 2. we live with his dad ,mom and suster(21), he does not whant to get married now, and says he does now know when he will be ready,its hes house, but hes parents still runs ...
A. 2 July 2010: Hi Honey,
Can you see yourself with this person for the rest of your life and be happy?
If yes, then stick with it. If no why waste time?
Good luck, let us know what you decide?... (read in full...)
My husband is already married! Did he marry me just for the visa?
Q. hi please help me. i mmarried a turkish man 15 mths ago, not to give him a visa, wwe are very much in love. well, i think its the same for him but i have my doubts. he;s been refused a visa twice now on the grounds of them not believing we are for ...
A. 2 July 2010: Hey Honey,
There was a documentry on women being scammed by Turkish men. They were marrying older women tourist and then persuading them to sell their UK homes and build houses in Turkey by sending money to their turkish husbands.
Needless to s... (read in full...)
My 44-year-old boyfriend is unmotivated!
Q. I am 34 abd my man is 44. We've been together for 3 1/2 years. He has not worked in two years and his mom pays for everything. Am I wasting my time? Can he change? He doesn't listen to anyone and sits around watching documentaries and complaining....
A. 2 July 2010: Hey Honey,
Yeap your wasting your time.
1) If you had children with him, is this the type of role model you want for them?
2) Can you really respect a 44 year old living off he's mum?
3) Mumma's boy??
Good luck, let us know what you... (read in full...)
Why does my husband treat me this way when I do everything I can to keep him happy?
Q. I dont understand why my husband cheats lies and stopped have sex with me or treats me like a slave i do everything i can to keep him happy???????...
A. 1 July 2010: Because he has stopped appreciating you and respecting you.
He could be one of those men that thinks the grass is greener on the other side!
But whatever he is, it's very hurtful to you. Can you really live like this for the rest of your lif... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this kid's crush on me?
Q. Hi, I live in a neighborhood with a lot of kids my age. A group of these kids and I are close; me, (14), a 12 year old girl, a sixteen year old boy, a thirteen year old boy, and an eleven year old boy. I recently found out that the 11 year old is ...
A. 1 July 2010: Hey Honey,
How about telling him that you really like the group of friends as it is, that you would not consider going out with him because you see him like a brother.
You also need to tell him to stop touching you, as it makes you feel weird. ... (read in full...)
Embarrassing dilemma about undressing in front of him!
Q. ok im 49 a young 49 and have a 40 yr old boyfriend.........my problem is im too embarrassed to undress in front of him!...........im on the tubby side and after 4 kids got a belly....(which i hate!) i was married to a drunk who yr after yr after yr ...
A. 1 July 2010: Hey Hun,
I read in a book at men are much less critical them women.
So you might see a flabby baby belly, he may be a beautiful soft belly.
It's all lovely to him, so take your time and just lap up the positive reactions you get from h... (read in full...)
She says she wants something to remember me by?
Q. My Girlfriend is moving to australia , we both dont want her to move , what can i do - if anything , to make her going away a bit easier because , at the moment we have decided on a make the most of it as long as we can but she said she wants ...
A. 1 July 2010: How about a necklace with a heart pendant?
Girls like things like this, it's seen as very romantic. You can get one on a limited budget too.
Let us know what you decide
Good Luck x... (read in full...)
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