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*amoiTehNinja
writes:This is a first and i'm not all that great about talking about my emotions etc so forgive me if this sounds terribly stupid. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 and half years, around a year ago she had to move away because her parents had been relocated for work. we kept up a good strong relationship and talked every day at all times on the phone, through text and video call. However around three months ago suddenly we were going 2 days without speaking , i thought nothing of it a girl needs her space after all, then i began getting worried as 2 days soon turned in to 3, then 4 and now we go a week at a time not speaking at all. The text's and calls are short and i feel no emotion on her part. The reasons of which she does not text me is mainly her friends, she spends a lot of time with her friends which i have no problem with of course i just wish she wouldn't ignore me for days at a time.If this was just the case i could end it, i love her more then anything and want her happiness more then my own so i would have no problem letting her go if it would make her happy but every time i approach the subject if she wants to split, she suddenly regains her emotion for a few minutes and tells me how much she loves me etc. shes a very volatile person who very easily cries and she needs protecting both emotionally and physically. for that reason i've refused to break up with her but this is getting worse. I'm very dependant on her but have managed with great sacrifice of my own health (i've developed depression and insomnia and this is the most likely cause) to be patient but now its getting a little to much. What do you think i can do? What would you do, taking the facts in to consideration?A Possibility is that i end it despite her wants of no, this will hurt me without a doubt but that pain will fade unlike this constant one which is driving me insane. Another is keep quiet, let her live her life and wait till i go to university (i have chosen a university near her town at her request)Or am i just over-reacting? but if i am over-reacting how can i rid myself of my worries and problems, i've explained all this too her and she feels sympathetic(whether genuine i cannot say) yet nothing ever changes. Thanks for reading and many more thanks if you can provide an answer. Jamie
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reader, ctds001 +, writes (9 July 2010):
Hey Jamie
You are not over reacting, she is ment to be your girlfriend and she only contacts you once a week.
This is not how the relationship started.
The fact that your health is seriously being put at risk means you have to start thing about yourself!!
Dump her and find a girl who can treat you well.
Good luck - get well soon x
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