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writes:hi theres this friend of mine *malachi* is going out with my best friend *rosie*. well rosie introduced me to malachi in hope of us going out we got on brilliantly and were flirting, having fun stuff like that like we'd been friends for years, and then she asked him out (which i felt quite cheated on). well they're not working out, they're constantly asking me for advice on each other. well they're now pretty much garunteed to split up. and i've always had feelings for malachi, ever since i spoke to him i've had feelings for him, really strong feelings for him, but as he was going out with my best friend i did my best to bury those feelings.but i want your opinion on if it's ok if me and malachi went out after they split up. not right after obviously, that would be cruel, but after. and what circumstances would it be ok, eg if rosie broke up with malachi, would it be ok if i went out with him as she didn't want to be with him any more or is it still a no?i'm asking this as i've never been in this possition before, and if it was just a quick little fancy i would just move on, but i have really strong feelings for him, like i've never felt before. not like 'oh he's cute' but like 'i cant describe how incredible you are and how much i love you'. and to alot of you it might just sound like hormones but i would really appreciate your opinion as i don't want to make a bad movethanks in advanceanon xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your advice, i'll bear them all in mind, i think i'll just follow my heart on this one, after all i think i should let my feelings come first in a friendship for a change, rosie will understand. that and the fact that malachi will probably end up with one of his ex's even though they treated him terribly. and they're the sort of people who want what they cannot have, and at the moment it's malachi. i can't claim to say that i could do it for his good aswell as mine, but i know that if he's with me i wouldn't treat him like crap, i'd treat him like i do now, like an amazing friend.
but anyway i'm seeing malachi on saturday, so i might just see how it goes from there.
thankyou again for all the advice, it's very much appreciated and is very useful :)
anon xx
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reader, ctds001 +, writes (5 July 2010):
You sound like you are very level headed.
Good Luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm not going to jump in right away, as i said that would be cruel. but if he asks then i don't want to say no as i could blow a really great oppertunity. as i said i wont go in straight after they've split up, and *malachi*'s relationships don't have a track record of lasting long, not because of someone cheating or w/e but he goes out with the wrong people who are annoying to be around. and *rosie* always has alot of guys wanting to go out with her, she doesn't seem to care about her ex's once she's got another bf, which shouldn't be long. she wont admit it, but she's been eyeing up another guy for a while now, particularly when malachi isn't around, and the fact that she wont admit it suggests that she fancies him a fair ammount.
she's also been calling me, telling me how her relationship is falling appart and how me and malachi would be better together than her and malachi, purely on the fact that we get on so much better. but i see that as the fact that we don't have that pressure of a relationship over us, and although i really like him i'm afraid that if we did end up going out we'd end up ruining our friendship. i'd rather stay friends for a long time than breakup after a couple of months and never really talk again.
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reader, ctds001 +, writes (3 July 2010):
Hey Honey,
I usually say it was never okay to go after a friends Ex but I know it happens.
Can you not wait till your best friend is seeing someone new before approaching this guy?
You will have to probably handle your friend very carefully otherwise she will question or motives for being there for her other their break up!
Good Luck x
P.S don't be the re bound girl with this guy either!
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