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writes:Im not really sure if im being overly sensitive or what but i dont like the image my boyfriend has of me,we been together now almost 2 years, he is always saying he loves me cause pretty girls are bitches. Now thats basically telling me he doesnt think im pretty! Well i have a beautiful face, if i must say so myself but im chubby, im not skinny like the girls he classifies is "pretty". But im in no way Grossly overweight or anything. This morning i questioned him about this matter and he then said i am pretty and said ok so "sexy girls" are bitches! Now this bothers me just as much as I feel the person you sleep with should find you sexy in your own way!!!I tried to explain this to him but he kept "putting his foot in it" if u know what i mean. But i wont lie, it hurts and makes me very insecure and jelouse.ag i dont know what to say ...please help
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (2 July 2010):
I think my gf is smoking hot and also not a bitch, and we've been together for some time.
I always think whenever we're out - "Im with the prettiest girl in the place!" I often say it out loud to her....
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reader, oldromantic2010  +, writes (2 July 2010):
Men are stupid! You have to remember with when trying to engage in any serious conversation with them, especailly about women and our looks! He may be use to 'thinner' girls but found that they treat him badly and only really care about themselves?? I dont know what he has been through so I cant comment on that.
You are beautiful and dont let him forget it! Be confident in who you are, wear what feels good and pay no attention to comments like that. I think what he means is you are beautiful inside and out, not just on the outside.
Believe in yourself and that is the most atteractive quality a girl can have. Jealousy and insecurity make men run a mile. x
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (2 July 2010):
I dont know what he implies as sexy girls maybe he meant the girls that walk the streets with their boobs and asses hanging out of their clothes, caked in make up with their hair like a birds nest, but even then he shouldnt imply that anyone who looks a certain way is a bitch i think he needs to be taught some repsect, maybe point out that shallow minded guys are assholes
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reader, ctds001 +, writes (2 July 2010):
Hey honey,
Sorry but I have no idea why your boyfriends feels the need to belittle any women, he's name calling is really immature.
You shoud be the only one he should be commenting on and if someone is apprecaited by their man "pretty and sexy" is exactly what they feel and say about them!
How is the rest of the relationship?
Get back to us when you can x
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reader, jvjvjvjv +, writes (2 July 2010):
I'm not surprised you feel hurt - he sounds like an idiot, frankly. Do you really need someone like him in your life? Someone who is so close and yet so completely unaware of your feelings and of the huge effect of his ill-chosen words? I am giving him the benefit of the doubt here, and assuming that by "pretty girls" he means those super stellar beauties that would probably never him a second look and not actually all pretty girls, which it sounds like you are. Still it makes little difference, if he doesn't get the indirect meaning of what he is saying, then he's very much a buffoon really and you may well be better off without him.
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