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*wincessestella
writes:i been with my boyfriend for 4years now..we decided to move in 2gether wen i was 6mnths pregnant and the problem started wen i gave birth. he'd take all the money and gamble it and leave us with nothing for the whole week .. we both dont work so money is very important to us.this problem has been going on for a year nowhe even took the rent money twice , pawned my black berry ..l've jst came to the point am tired !!!l've gave him 25 chancesi was brought up with both parents and bcoz we have a daughter tgther am scared this will leave my daughter with no father ...am i doing the right thing by saying enough is enough ??
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reader, RAVEMORE  +, writes (18 July 2010):
Good on you to invest in your future!
You have give lots of chances to that guy, and now you are giving yourself and your daughter the chances you deserve.
Time and energy invested in an education and bettering oneself are a winning bet.
You have a lot of courage and the wisdom to take time before you allow somebody into your life.With that kind of self-respect, you are well-equipped to attract a good partner in your future.
You are being a great role model for your child.
It must be difficult to go through the grief of ending your relationship.
I hope you will find the strength to go through the loneliness of fighting alone. It looks like you were alone in that relationship anyway.
Kudos to you and best of luck.
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reader, pwincessestella +, writes (16 July 2010):
pwincessestella is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u 4 all the advice .. it really did help me
l asked him 2 pack all his stuff and leave today
i thought l'de feel better but i just feel like my whole world just ended and lonely again
but am just gonna take one day at a time .. and am not trying to get in another relationship soon just gonna try and be a good mother and finish my education.
thank u guys !!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 July 2010):
It depends on what you say by 'enough is enough'. If you mean that you will leave him permanently and never have him back in your life, then yes' you're doing the right thing. But if you mean that you'll just talk to him in the hope he will change, then it's the wring thing.
Basically, you need to leave. That's the only answer here. He isn't going to change. Ever. And your daughter deserves better than a crap Dad in her life. Time to leave him.
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reader, RAVEMORE +, writes (15 July 2010):
How much of a father is he to your daughter now?He is gambling on her future. This is so wrong and so immature.You shouldn't let your desire to have both parents raise your daughter cloud your judgement.Is there any way you could have total control the money and the spending in the house? How long has he been gambling? Did he gamble before the birth of your child, or did he start gambling as a way to magically get more money for all of you?Maybe his first intentions were good but now the results of his actions are negatively impacting your finances.You are saying the right thing by saying enough is enough. Now, what are you going to DO.It's a tough position you are in, and my heart goes out to you.
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reader, ctds001 +, writes (15 July 2010):
This man is no role model for your daughter. He cares very little for her, if the money the government gives you to raise her goes on gambling.
She deserves more and so do YOU. From all the money he has gambled and stuff he has pawned, how can you trust him?
You need to put this theifing selfish man out and start concentrating on being the best mum.
He has serious problems, but they are not your doing. You must put your daughter 1st.
Good luck, let us know what you decide?
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