Getting over an online affair...
Q. I'm a 27 years old muslim woman, and I was married at age 17 (it was an arranged marriage as I didn't know my husband at all). my marriage has been more bad than good, and due to the 10 year age gap between me and my husband, we have never really ...
A. 8 October 2009: You may really be in love with the fantasy of being unmarried and free to make a choice, and not so much with the man you crave. Certainly since you lied a lot about who you are, the man you had an emotional affair with isn't in love with you, but ... (read in full...)
The Truth about Pubic Hair?
Q. Hi, I am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend has been wanting to finger me but I am afraid to because I am afraid he will think pubes are gross. I tried shaving them but I had trouble doing a good job and after like a day it was just stubbly and ...
A. 23 March 2008: Any person who screams 'Ew! Pubes!' is not ready for sex. Having hair down there goes with being a sexually mature human being, and even if you wax it, it'll still have that lumpy, no longer child like look to it. Ergo if your boyfriend is grossed ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of my stepbrother's girlfriend because WE have a secret relationship!
Q. I am in a secret sexual relationship with my stepbrother. Our parents married when we were teens 15/16 years old. Now we are in our early 20s. We never had intercourse but we have done plenty of dry humping, kissing, and oral sex. The thing is that ...
A. 23 March 2008: Break it off with him. Don't come clean to parents unless you want to open a whole can of mega-drama-worms, but seek out a therapist/trusted family member/clergy/whatever to talk to. While odd by cultural terms, your relationship with your ... (read in full...)
Will 'swallowing' hut my unborn child?
Q. is it still ok for me to swallow my husband's cum while im pregnant? Ive just found out im 8 weeks pregnant, and i was too scared to ask the midwife. I love doing it but i dont want to hurt my baby....
A. 14 October 2007: No, unless your husband had some sort of disease, you're good. And if you trust your husband enough to have his baby, I assume you trust him to be clean and free of any STIs.... (read in full...)
How am I going to deal with a long distance relationship when she has to go out of town?
Q. I have a girl I have been dating but I feel that its time we need to get married. She is beautiful and very nice to be with. One thing that has come up is that she is going out of town for an 18 week training and will be away till then. It means ...
A. 2 October 2007: If you can't handle an 18 week seperation you are not ready to be married.... (read in full...)
It makes me sick to my stomach that she slept with a man!
Q. I am a lesbian in a new relationship with a woman who just told me that a couple of months before meeting me, she had slept with a childhood guy friend, gotten pregnant, and had an abortion. She was depressed and lonely and feeling lost and ...
A. 2 October 2007: I can't really say it's fair for me to pass judgement, but I think someone being bi is an usual thing to be hung up on. I think you have the answer you seek, which is that yes you should get over it. But if you can't, accept that you can't and break ... (read in full...)
How can I prepare for my first time?
Q. Hi, well, I strongly believe I'm ready to be deflowered, however, I'm not sure if theres any thing I should do before hand. Is there any thing I should do to my body or anything to prepare it for my first time? I s there anything that will make my ...
A. 2 October 2007: Use protection. Pick someone you respect. Don't expect it to be as big a deal people make it out to be. Think of it more as the first time you ride a bike, with awkward wobbles and excitement, not like a romantic state of perfect bliss.... (read in full...)
Should I keep shaving myself like this?
Q. Dear cupid hi im 15 and I have a big problem because it effects my looks alot i love the felling of the razor on my skin ans have bein shaving my vagina since pubity i always shave my legs armpits and that but one day when having a bath i fel...
A. 3 August 2007: It's not normal, but it's your body. You're going to have to accept that you're going to get treated oddly for going entirely bald, but as long as you leave the hair inside your nose and your eyelashes, you should be fine. Lots of men shave their ... (read in full...)
He asked where he would cum and asked if I could lick it off.
Q. Me and my boyfriend were discussing oral sex and then I told him I wasn't really ready for oral but I would give him a hand job, so he asked where he would cum and asked if I could lick it off. Would it taste bitter like everyone says because it's ...
A. 7 July 2007: It's bitter, but not 'oh my god ew!'. Taste changes from guy to guy, and of course it's connected loosely to what he ate.
If you can manage a brussel sprout you can handle his taste.
The only caveat is that sex without protection is a ... (read in full...)
Married to my wife for 20 years, but I have this thing about other men's penises! Any advice?
Q. I am a married man and have been with my wife for 20 years. I love her more than anything or anyone else. I have no complaints and our life together is fantastic. I have never cheated on her. My problem is that in the last few years I have enj...
A. 5 July 2007: Ask your wife to wear a realistic strapon? Okay, that sounds crude, but seriously, if you're just after penis but not man, talk to your wife about this. For all you know she has a secret desire to watch you pleasure a man.... (read in full...)
Our mothers have conflicting views on our sex life
Q. A small problem.. my girlfriend and i have been going out for around 6 months and her mum actually wants us to take our relationship further. We are both virgins and we havent explored each others body fully. However my mum doesn't want us to do ...
A. 4 July 2007: Why do your mothers get input on if you have sex or not? I mean do you tell your respective mothers 'Yup, we've tried french kissing, now we're going to try rubbing together through clothes!'
Tell her mum to mind her own business, as that's j... (read in full...)
He let me "do" him... and I think it made him feel guilty - how can I convince him it's a guilty pleasure?
Q. My boyfriend and I were fooling around, when we tried anal stimulation for the first time. He did it to me, and it didn't really do much other than make me come quicker. But when I did it to him, it was like turning on a sex-switch. I'll...
A. 2 July 2007: Though it's probably a big turn on, he's not psychologically ready for it. But give him a bit of time and he may come around. Or he might not. But don't sweat it, I bet he has lots of other regions on his body worth exploring too. ;)... (read in full...)
Acne issues! Help!
Q. Hi i really have a big problem for 2 years i have had acne and i am only 12 and it is starting to go and it has left marks on my face plz plz can you tell me what i can use to get rid of or atleast fade them away a bit thankx xxxx...
A. 2 July 2007: Go to a doctor. A lot of people think that you'll just grow out of blemishes, when really all I needed was a month long treatment with a topical antibiotic... And my face is now soft and bump free.... (read in full...)
I believe his exs are more pretty than me and I'm jealous! Does he really love me?
Q. i have a bf from 2 months i love him so much but iam very jealous from his old girlfriends i think they look more beautiful than me and much richer than me i dont know what i do i want to know if he really loves me?????...
A. 2 July 2007: My boyfriend's last two girlfriends were wealthy and pretty. He seems pretty happy with me, so I take the relative beauty of the last few girls to mean that he must think I'm in the same league as them. And I am. And you probably are too. Why wou... (read in full...)
I want to hide the fact that I'm not a virgin.
Q. hy i had sex with my boy friend for 8 to 12 time, now i am going to marry a man of my parents choice, i want to start a good life, i want to hide that am not virgin. how can i do this pleas help me. pleas...
A. 2 July 2007: Well, you could get corrective surgery. Personally it's not fair to the man you marry not to tell him the truth, but if nobody in your society will understand, as with all deceptions, keep it simple. Just don't act like you know exactly what you're ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to ejaculate more than once in a single condom?
Q. I practice safe sex but I am unsure if it is a good idea to ejaculate more than once in a single condom. That would increase the chance of breakage if I were to do that, right? Thank you for your advice....
A. 1 July 2007: One orgasm per condom. The space between coming would also break the seal (that's why you can't stay inside your partner and let it go soft, as relaxing as it is) as well as the friction of two rounds wearing it out.... (read in full...)
I love him and he wants to leave his fiance for me
Q. Ive been with a guy who has a fiance. We have become so close that he wants to leave her, he says he has never felt this way... he cries to me because he is in such a mess... he tells me he is inlove with me and wants spend his life with me ins...
A. 1 July 2007: Things shouldn't be just up to you, that's silly on his part. He should probably break up with his fiancee, not because he needs to, to get you, but because planning to replace her like this implies his loyalty is lacking and he's not ready to marry ... (read in full...)
I slept with someone else everytime I temporarily broke up with my boyfriend..is this okay?
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend because we always fight and argue a lot. I hate the fact I did. Anyway, when we broke up...I slept with someone else because I thought it was really going to be over this time and I should move on. But a couple d...
A. 1 July 2007: Ethically speaking, as long as you get yourself checked for diseases and the person you slept with didn't expect you to be his girl, you're in the clear. However, if you break up again, wait a bit longer before finding someone else. You look l... (read in full...)
I am having a few problems trying to overcome an abusive relationship and wondered if anyone can help?
Q. I am having a few problems trying to overcome an abusive relationship and wondered if anyone can help. We split almost a couple of months ago. Within our relationship, though on occasion he could be thoughtful, intelligent and caring, he also had...
A. 1 July 2007: At the moment is sounds like neither of you are behaving. He was abusive and uncivil, but you're being obsessive.
Don't worry about future girlfriends. For all you know his future girlfriend will slap him around. The fake profile was not cool and... (read in full...)
Do teen boys like shaved pubic hair?
Q. I'm 14 and I'm wondering, do majority of the boys my age like shaved pubic hair or not?...
A. 1 July 2007: If your primary interest in sex at 14 is pleasing others, you're going about it the wrong way. As young as you are, it is normally advised to keep your sexuality private and learn how to operate it on your own.
Who cares if boys liked shaved o... (read in full...)
He says he can't be with just one woman anymore
Q. Very confused asked for space from boyfriend of over 5 years because of commitment issues and him wanting an open relationship (hes 45!!! im 42. we both have been married before and had children from our previous marriages) We are best friends and ...
A. 29 June 2007: The fact that he wants to see other women but cares if you see other men means that he's all but said he wants a harem. Tell him you've met a very nice man and are very, very happy. ;)... (read in full...)
He's been chatting online to women with the webcam and even plans to meet someone!!!
Q. Several months ago, I found out my boyfriend (of 14 months) was using a webcam to chat online with other women while I was gone. I found this out because I came home a little earlier than he'd expected one day and caught him. He told me he wasn't ...
A. 27 June 2007: If a gentleman is cheating and you have to tell him twice, he's never going to learn. Don't bother catching him, break up with him.... (read in full...)
Want to give my new gf flowers from our garden, would that make me seem cheap?
Q. Hi, sorry if this is a really odd question. hopefully going to meet my new girlfriend for the day sometime next week, and want to take some flowers for her. Was thinking of taking them from the family garden, which i thought might be nice, but at ...
A. 27 June 2007: Just make it a bunch of nice looking flowers. If she thinks it's cheap it's clear it's more important to her to have you pay for flowers then the actual blossoms.
But of course you can jazz them up with ribbon, pretty paper, cloth, small charms, ... (read in full...)
I feel nothing when having sex!
Q. why can't i feel noting when i have sex? does this mean im never going to have an orgasm?...
A. 27 June 2007: Many woman never orgasm from regular sex. It's not because they're defective, it's because the typical seat of female pleasure is the clitoris. That's a little button that lives in the hood made by your inner labia. Poke it, tickle it, rub it and ... (read in full...)
I am female and have hair growing out of my chest on both sides, is this normal???
Q. dear cupid I am 16 under going into puberty. I seem to have a little concern, my chest seems to grow but on my right side of the chest has hair and the other side doesn't. Is this normal and what worries me more is will my left side grows hair ...
A. 27 June 2007: The idea that females are mostly hairless is strange, but for some reason our culture continues to think a woman should have no hair below the level of her eyes. It's almost certainly normal, shave or pluck if it becomes a problem.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I've had an orgasm?
Q. When being fingered or being given oral in a particular way--which is good--I begin to shudder/shake which I cannot control. Am I orgasming or is it the build up to one? Or is it just the reaction to the stimulation? I can't say if I've orgasmed...
A. 25 June 2007: Try a little self exploration? It'll be much easier to have an orgasm if you have one on your own.... (read in full...)
I was a terrible bully to my teacher; how do I say sorry now?
Q. I feel really guilty. I bullied my teacher for a whole year. After realising what I had done a year later I feel really guilty. I was in alot of trouble for shoutin abusing, pushin her over and makin fun of her. Now I really do not know how to ...
A. 24 June 2007: Say sorry. Write her a letter if you're too shy to do it to her face. Teachers work in a profession which is designed to bring enlightenment to their charges and thus she'll have the framework to understand you've matured. Maybe something like t... (read in full...)
I can't get over seeing my wife in a tape she made with her previous husband; it was so violent!
Q. I have been married for two very short months. About six months before I was married, I sold my house and moved in with my fiance'. I was doing some cleaning and making room for my things one night while she was at work. I came across a video....I ...
A. 24 June 2007: Her ex was into S and M, and from what she's said, she wasn't and he was too much of a jerk to respect that. I'm sort of surprised she saved the tape, but if she hasn't said 'Hit me!' to you, at any point, then she obviously likes what you're doing ... (read in full...)
We broke up and he's taunting me but I'm still not over him
Q. I was in a three year relationship and I'm having a really hard time getting over him. I honestly think about him everyday and I can't help but feel lonely without him. I go out with friends but all I can think about is him. He left me for another ...
A. 24 June 2007: In follow up to your follow up:
You're blaming yourself for the bad behaviour of your ex. This is a classic abuse victim habit. You did -nothing- to deserve what he's doing.... (read in full...)
We broke up and he's taunting me but I'm still not over him
Q. I was in a three year relationship and I'm having a really hard time getting over him. I honestly think about him everyday and I can't help but feel lonely without him. I go out with friends but all I can think about is him. He left me for another ...
A. 23 June 2007: If your boyfriend feels the need to taunt you, he's not over you. He's also an abusive jerk, but take comfort in the fact that he's so pathetic he -still- wants you to give input into his life. He wants to make you unhappy so he knows he's still... (read in full...)
I found porn on his computer and I feel betrayed, like he's cheated on me
Q. Yesterday I was on my boyfriend's computer, and clicked on the html drag history box to find the google link, and I saw all these porn links. I do not in any way tolerate porn. I understand that to guys, it's socially acceptable, but I'm not okay ...
A. 23 June 2007: Both genders look at porn, and it doesn't mean they don't respect women (or men, also the subject of naked pictures). It says very little about the potential fidelity of the porn watcher, anymore then sex toys imply a girl would cheat. Like mast... (read in full...)
I hate porn and no guy I am with is going to look at it!
Q. Are there an men who would be satisfied with one female sexualy? Is this too much to ask? I mean not be interested in porn etc...I ask this because I am considering whether to start dating again..Frankly Im very against porn for political and ...
A. 23 June 2007: You might find a man who doesn't look at porn, but it's unlikely to find a man who only fixates his sexuality on you. Humans are not monogamous; the most we can muster is serial monagamy, and his fantasies will probably be just as bad as the porn ... (read in full...)
Can the hyman be broken without having sex?
Q. I go Horse Riding and have been doing every week since i was 6. I have heard that women that horse ride or ride a bike there hyman can brake without having sex. I am still a virgin. I was wondering how can i find out my self if it is broke yet or ...
A. 22 June 2007: I had a very tough hymen which was like a ring... I could manage a tampon without breaking it so I think it's possible you may have one. But some girls aren't born without one, so don't worry.
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I thought he was single and we dated but it turns out, he had a girlfriend!
Q. Thanks to everyone who takes the time to answer this. People have busy schedules and I appreciate it. I dated a guy who I thought was single. I went out with him once and then discovered he had a girlfriend.We got kind of intimate but I held back. I ...
A. 22 June 2007: Whenever I have to keep a scandal under wraps I put on a polite front, like I'm an untouchable lady. Practice your best uncaring face in the mirror and pretend you're meeting a diplomat from a country you can't stand, but also can't go to war with.... (read in full...)
What is this discharge? I'm only 13 and really worried!!
Q. Okay. I'm 13 years old, and I started my period when I was 12. A few months ago, I noticed a strange, clumpy, whit substance in my panties. I wasn't aware of it until I saw it, and it is sometimes accompanied by a thick, whitish liquid. I'm ...
A. 22 June 2007: The discharge is almost certainly normal. It's like a natural douche, which washes everything out and keeps it moist and flexible. You’ll find it changes a little though your monthly cycle, getting thicker and stretchier through the midpoint.
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I'm so tired of my disasterous relationship; how can I fix things?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 9 years (5 of which we have been married). I met my husband when I was 20 and we moved away together. I was enamored with him from the start. He is brilliant in science and architechure and runs his own company. He ...
A. 22 June 2007: Your husband sounds like an abusive lunatic. I wouldn't worry about a yo-yo relationship harming your son, I'd worry that sooner or later your husband will abuse him too.
You're not your husband's whipping girl. Your main stumbling block seems to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he'll wait for sex; I'm ready now but am I too young?
Q. heya :D im a muture 14 y/o and iv got a boyfriend 16 y/o .. we both want sex but am i too young? hes a honest guy .. he sed hed wait if i wern`t ready but im 95% sure i want to .. (he sed hed use a condom ) what do i do? i dont wanna wait ....
A. 22 June 2007: Use a reliable condom, and if possible go on the pill too. While I advise you wait a bit longer (16 is the average age for virginity loss) as long as you're careful you should be okay.
Just remember, sex has a lot of baggage. You could get preg... (read in full...)
What are the signs he's cheating?
Q. how would you know if your boyfreind is fooling around with other woman?...
A. 22 June 2007: The number one warning sign is that he tries to keep you seperate from other spheres in his life. Sudden changes (ie dressing up and going out more) are also a bad sign.
His past history gives clues, for cheaters normally repeat. Actually his rela... (read in full...)
How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
A. 19 June 2007: If females sexually attract you at all you're bi. Otherwise you're gay and that's okay. You don't have to out yourself until you feel comfortable, but there are lots of support groups and resources available to you, many of which don't require you ... (read in full...)
Will birth control for cramps stop my gf from becoming pregnant?
Q. I have a question about birth control. My girl friend uses birth control to stop the cramps and such but we have been having sex lately and she wants me to come inside her. Says it feels good. But on birth control for cramps, does this still pr...
A. 19 June 2007: If she takes it on schedule she'll be covered, assuming she's taking the birth control pill like you implied.... (read in full...)
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