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writes:why can't i feel noting when i have sex? does this mean im never going to have an orgasm?
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reader, Sbrwneyes  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 I had the same problem with my boyfriend for a while. First off, don't focus on your main goal being to reach an orgasm. Don't let your mind wander..just think about whats happening between you both. If you can't feel anything at all, then you should try stimulating your clit. Some woman can't have orgasms by just intercourse. Try different positions. You will have an orgasm.
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reader, in need of kissing advice +, writes (27 June 2007):
you probably just are not ready for sex yet,
you should try waiting a bit and then try again.
take good care of yourself in the process though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): Is your boyfriend/partner's penis very small? If not, then have you been experimenting with different positions? The G-Spot is in a different place on every woman, but for me it is about 3 " up. So when I am on top, his penis hits it and that is the only way I can orgasm, when I am on top. My friends say that they can't get off by being on top. So you need to try different things and positions. But you should be able to have an orgasm at some point.
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reader, Brandi +, writes (27 June 2007):
 well i think that yummy mummy is right he may not be hitting you spots the right way. each girl is different and needs to be touched diffrently in oreder have an orgasm
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Talk to your boyfriend/person you are having sex with about your sex life. He may not be hitting your spots because he doesn't know what you like.
Learning what excites your partner and yourself is the fun part of having sex with a new person. It can take some time though.
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reader, burningbridges  +, writes (27 June 2007):
Many woman never orgasm from regular sex. It's not because they're defective, it's because the typical seat of female pleasure is the clitoris. That's a little button that lives in the hood made by your inner labia. Poke it, tickle it, rub it and otherwise make friends. With practice you may discover you can have multiple orgasms.
Do this on your own time, because once you learn how to do it, it'll be easier for you to have an orgasm with your partner.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Hi,
What do you mean, you feel nothing?
Are you saying physically you cant feel anything or emotionally. If its physical, it could be that your partner is a bit small or that you could be a bit loose. Although at your age I would doubt that could be the case. You may be doing it with the wrong person and thats why you feel nothing. If theres no emotion it may effect your ability to orgasm.
Have you had this problem with anyone else?. If you have, I would go to see a doctor, or the family planning, and they may be able to explain futher.
Dont worry though, its nothing that cant be fixed. And if you are with a good guy, you will be able to work on this. You could pay a visit to Ann Summers, it worked for some of my mates.
XXX
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reader, flower girl +, writes (27 June 2007):
 It most certainly does mean that you will never have an orgasm, it takes a while sometimes to discover each others bodies so i would suggest you talk about it, have fun and guide each other.
Take care.xx.
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