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writes:I am in a secret sexual relationship with my stepbrother. Our parents married when we were teens 15/16 years old. Now we are in our early 20s. We never had intercourse but we have done plenty of dry humping, kissing, and oral sex. The thing is that he has a girlfriend and still carries on with me occassionally..not as much as he used to. Things appear to be getting serious with her. I HATE his girlfriend and my blood boils when I see her at family outings or when he brings her over to the house. My attitude changes MAJOR that my parents had to put me in my place, they didn't know what was wrong. My stepbrother thinks that if I continue to act jealous and go into these semi rages when his g/f is around our family will put two and two together and come close to discovering our little secret. He warns me to be on my best behavior. But I can't. i don't want to see him with the g/f and she takes so much of his time. I really can't stand her and their relationship. All I do is think of ways to sabotage their relationship. If things get even more serious and lead to marriage I'll most likely be sent over the edge..by then I won't care if our secret is out..what should I do? how do I cope with this jealousy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): I say get a boyfriend, or least let your stepbrother see you flirting with other boys. Taht way, he may start to feel the same jealousy that you feel toward his girlfriend, especially if he sees doing the sexual things with your boyfriend that you do with him. Right now, he can you you, so he doesn't want you, because you want him and he knows it. The minute he sees you with another guy, he's going to worry he can't have you anymore and will come back to you. Give it a try and post back to let us know how things turn out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Wow. Someone has been watching Cruel Intentions.Did you not get the message on that? The dude died because his sis got jealous of his gf and got revenge.He won out because he revealed everything in a tell all book to his gf and the gf published it.Long story short. Don't mess around with relatives, or anyone who's involved for that matter.Flynn 24
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reader, lovinit +, writes (23 March 2008):
this opinion is coming from an 18 yr old with a bachelors degree and is currently in medical school to become a cardiac surgeon.. :) ( don't look at my age and ignore this because i have been known to speak profound words)well it seems like he has feelings for the girl more than you. he wants to be free of choices with you and he doesn't like to keep secrets so he gets with her. i would have done the same thing in his shoes if the emotion was killing me but if i had a person i was closely linked with such as you; i would be with you and wouldn't even care about the secret though i would try not to let my parents figure out.i have a secret relationship with my 2nd cousin but i haven't did anything with her because we both live too far away but i call her every day! you can guarentee if she lived closer, we would be going out to movies,hanging out, etc.so basically, from his point of view, it looks like he his tired of holding secrets. he would easily pick you over her if you wasn't related so closely. he wouldn't want you to sabotage their relationship with his girlfriend because he really likes her.before you get sent over the edge, talk to me. ill give you my phone number if you want it because i like to help people. the main reason why i want to become a cardiac surgeon!
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reader, burningbridges  +, writes (23 March 2008):
Break it off with him. Don't come clean to parents unless you want to open a whole can of mega-drama-worms, but seek out a therapist/trusted family member/clergy/whatever to talk to. While odd by cultural terms, your relationship with your stepbrother is in the same zone as any ex-boyfriend. In other words it's none of your business and if you can't handle being jilted you're going to have to leave the environment until you are over him. It sucks, but sometimes you just have to buckle down and practice self control. If I were you I'd look for year abroad programs to give you a chance to get some perspective without the brother flaunting his girlfriend until you want to scream.
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