My wife has decided all sense of affection between us is over as well as our sex life
Q. My wife has decided all sense of affection between us is over as well as our sex life. 8 years ago, after the birth of our 3rd child, she convinced me to have a vasectomy so we would not have any more children. Immediately afterwards, my wife's ...
A. 27 December 2011: I'm not sure what your advisor thought we would do? I don't think they understand women very well!!
But on to your question. You definately should not have to live in a celibate and unaffectionate life.
Talk to your wife and explain that you want... (read in full...)
I want to wear my bikini, but my Bf gets teary and upset at me doing this. Is he over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend gets all teary and upset when I express interest in wearing a bikini. He hates the idea of someone looking at me but I'm proud of my body and sometimes I just want to show it (most of the time however I like adequate coverage...) Is ...
A. 25 December 2011: He definitely blowing this out of proportion.
Its not down to him to dictate what you wear and as long as you're
Happy and confident he should be proud of you.... (read in full...)
My Gf has asked me for £50, I said No, was I wrong?
Q. Hi all, been with my gf for 3 years she has never worked (she is 19) and neither has her mum I have worked since I left school. I spend quite alot on her having to buy food lending her bus money etc etc sometimes it annoys me sometimes it doesn't. ...
A. 22 December 2011: Oh dear. You weren't wrong to say no. What does your girlfriend currently live on?
Modelling isn't all glitz and glam. Its very hard work, with long hours. And many of the models who make it have worked their butts off. Your girlfriend should get ... (read in full...)
My b/f says that since I have been with others, he needs to have that experience too
Q. my bf and i have been together for 3 yrs now. I was with other men before we got together but i was his first. i love him very much and he says he feels the same but he wants to be with other women. he says that since i have been with other men he ...
A. 22 December 2011: This may be the most classic case of a man wanting to have his cake and eat it!!
No matter how many men you have been with, if he loves you and is a decent human being then the thought of sleeping with anyone else would not have even entered his ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend needs a rather large loan. What to do? Help!
Q. My 24 year old boyfriend took out a loan to get some repairs done on his car, without realizing that he would have to change his insurance to be eligible for the loan. Now he's paying double what he would pay for car insurance AND an extra $50 per ...
A. 22 December 2011: Wow. Interest. Really?? That's fairly harsh.
If that's your plan I wouldn't bother. I should think he'd be fairly upset that you're plannuing on charging him interest.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated with multiple girls
Q. Found out my boyfriend cheated on me with 5 girls from my area Including MY BEST FRIEND. His defence was " technically we're not in a relationship its more of a friends with benifets thing " He introduced me to his family as his girlfriend, birthday ...
A. 17 December 2011: Go out, find yourself a better boyfriend and then break it off with this idiot!
Tell him the 'friends with benifits' thing is over because you've found a real man now.
And I would have a few choice words to say to you're 'Best friend' too! ... (read in full...)
Am I weird for not wanting to sleep around or cheat on my boyfriend? All my friends seem to be doing it!
Q. Why are my friends doing this? am I weird to think is wrong? My friends say am boring and I should change my rules when it comes to guys. I've always been the kind of girl to only kiss a guy or have sex with a guy when we're in a relationsh...
A. 26 October 2011: I agree with your best friend. Sex is a big deal. And its great that you view it as such. Don't change if its not what you want.... (read in full...)
I used her laptop to watch porn, and now she's mad at me. I don't understand the fuss!
Q. Hey there, I got in somewhat of a shocking fight today with my girlfriend, let me explain. First of all she found out that Ive watched porn on her laptop in her house when she was in class. That day I woke up and she was already at class, I ...
A. 29 September 2011: I'm not entirely sure why she's upset? Porns porn wherever you watch it!
She knows you watch it, so its a bit strange to want to dictate where you watch it.
Saying that, if it upsets her that much apologize and don't do it again.... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to get pregnant, aged 16?
Q. im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months we've been sexually active for 2 months straight and well he has told me he wants to have a baby. i dont really want to have a baby right now because im going through some legal problems ...
A. 28 September 2011: The very fact that you are asking that question shows that you know
Now is not the right time. You have many, many years to have children.
Don't make the mistake of having a child and then resenting all that you've missed
Do not feel pressured. ... (read in full...)
Is being a slut the way to mend a broken heart???
Q. Hi again Aunt/ uncle agonies. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read. I am going through an awful breakup, and all i wanna do is move on. I've been getting advice from all my friend on how to achieve this, but for some odd reason every sug...
A. 9 September 2011: I'm not sure it will work for you. If you aren't that sort of person then acting that way would make you more upset. Your way of doing it sounds so much better for you. Good luck... (read in full...)
Love and sex are 2 different things so is it ok to sleep with my cousin when I have a boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I am a girl and I slept couple of times with my cousin. We're not in love with eachother (at least I'm not, and he said he isn't either) but sometimes we still share a bed. Is that wrong? I recently got a boyfriend, but I have my doubts about ...
A. 8 September 2011: That's something people who want to cheat say to make themselves feel less guilty.
No matter how hard you try love and sex aren't so different.
And your boyfriend certainly won't see it your way.
I'm a firm believer of 'You can't have your ca... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her sexual past and I can't get over it, please help me.
Q. Before my girlfriend and I had sex for the first time she told me I was going to be her first. While we were having sex I realized she was lying to me. Also, I did a lot of research about virginity and concluded that she was lying to me. She told ...
A. 8 September 2011: She cannot call you a 'sexual hypocrite', its not like you wouldn't have gone with her if she wasn't a virgin!! So for her to be annoyed at you because of her own lie is ridiculous.
Are you sure you know the truth now? I'm not.
If you really w... (read in full...)
I have so much love to give. But how do I encourage my first Gay love relationship? Also low self esteem is another issue for me.
Q. Hi I'm 16 and I'm gay. The thing is I've never been in a relationship and I feel so lonely all the time. I really want to be with someone. I'm not desperate, but one of my greatest fears is spending my life alone, and not sharing myself at leas...
A. 4 September 2011: You have plenty of time to find someone who loves you. You're only sixteen, most teenagers lie about having had relationships at your age! Don't worry, you are not being left behind.
Work on you're self loving you and the rest will come.
Good ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my vaginal tightness!
Q. Hi im 16 and still a virgin. (going to get a bit graphic sorry) When i masturbate i normally only use 1 finger, however recently i tried to experiment and found that i could fit up to four fingers with little discomfort. I now feel absolutely ...
A. 4 September 2011: You need not worry too much about this. Your 'tightness' has little to do with your hymen.
As you become more turned on you'll become more lubricated and will be able to fit more in you. If you tried to do it straight away you'd find it unco... (read in full...)
Does my mum have the right to take away my computer?
Q. I'm 19, I've completed a year of university and have recently decided to take a gap year and earn money because I'm not sure if higher education is for me. My mum is threatening to take away my laptop (which she gave to me when I started uni) ...
A. 3 September 2011: If the laptop was given to you for the purpose of university and you didn't fullfil that purpose then I thing legally she can take it back. (Check that to be sure though). As to wether she should that's up to her. Do tou need it if you're not at ... (read in full...)
I cant stop sleeping around when I'm drunk!
Q. I have a very embaressing problem. I cant stop sleeping around when Im drunk. In the past month, Ive gone out a couple of times and got absolutely plastered, pulled some bloke and took him back to mine. I have sex with them then I kick them out. In ...
A. 3 September 2011: The obvious answer to this is Stop getting drunk! And I'd like to know if your army man decides to have a relationship with you will you still sleep around when drunk?... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 3 September 2011: This women does not have the perfect life. What she has is a douchbag for a boyfriend! She may think that she has everything but YOU know better. Ignore him. If he keeps trying to contact you tell him you'll be making a complaint to the police a... (read in full...)
My GF has the sex drive of a man-is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have found the perfect woman, but that's the problem - she's too perfect. She doesn't care that I've just been made redundant, orgasms through penetration alone when we have sex, genuinely finds me physically attractive and explai...
A. 2 September 2011: I don't know where you got your preconceptions on women, But I love sex, I'm with my partner because he's wonderful and can orgasm through pentration!
If those are the only reasons for you thinking she is a man trapped in a womens body then you'... (read in full...)
Am I the only woman not threated by porn?
Q. I just read an article about porn here on DC so it made me interested to post a question. Am I the only woman who is not threatened by porn? I mean, I read a lot of questions here about it, of ladies breaking up with their boyfriends and w...
A. 25 August 2011: There's nothing wrong with men watching porn. If truth be told, I probably watch porn just as much as my boyfriend!
By not being intimidated by porn you're showing your partners that you are confident with yourself and that is so sexy.
You'r... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a lasting marriage?
Q. I read so many questions here about married people who have fallen out of love, married people who cheat, married people who are tempted to cheat, etc. etc. Does marriage even mean anything these days, other than being tied together by law?...
A. 25 August 2011: Yes it is possible, my parents have been together for 31 years this year. They are still as soppy and kissy as they were back in the 80s according to my nan, who is in a 50+ year marriage herself.
I plan on having a long married life too. You just... (read in full...)
My breast are too big, and they cause me problems in my daily life..
Q. Hi, I'm 19 yrs. old my height is 174 - that would be about 5'9 - My problem is my big breast on a small frame upper body. About 2 yrs ago they were the perfect size which to me was good because my breast are fully round starting from the armpit and ...
A. 25 August 2011: I've got a small frame, am only 5 foot and have 34 J breasts, so I have looked into having a reduction, after talking it through with my doctor I decided against it. The problem with surgery is that your breasts may grow back. (With weight gain, or ... (read in full...)
He asked me out but he really wants a FWB relationship. I don't!
Q. So the guy i liked, happens to like me back. So after like two weeks of flirting and talking. We kissed. Later on that day i asked him, where we were heading? So he asked me out...and i asked him if thats what he wanted? He didn't really answer me. ...
A. 25 August 2011: Don't hope for too much with this boy, He has already told you what he wants and I fear that you are seeing too much into his friendly actions.
If you know you would not be happy with a FWB relationship then stick to that, no matter how sweet he i... (read in full...)
Is she only offering to do this because other partners have asked this of her? Or should I just embrace new sexual experiences?
Q. hi their im after some views on this please. Me and my new girlfriend has been together for six months and all is wonderfull. She is very sexual and the sex has been great. I have one issue. She was giving me a bj a couple of nights ago and she ...
A. 24 August 2011: Some women love it when you cum on them, she may have done it before and enjoyed it and wants to share that with you. If you want to then do it, if you don't then don't. Either way there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. ... (read in full...)
Do normal women find doggy style demeaning?
Q. The doggy style position makes me feel like I am losing my feminity and also lack of contact/caressing with my lover during sex. Is it normal for women to feel like this or is it just me?...
A. 24 August 2011: I don't find it demeaning personally, its one of my favourite positions. And all sex is animalistic. Your partner can still caress you while entering you from behind, it can be just as slow and loving as any position, it just depends on how you ... (read in full...)
I experimented with my best friend and now things are awkward between us!
Q. Recently I stayed over my best friend's house. I'm openly bi and she was bi curious. We were talking about sex and sexuality and she randomly asked me if we could experiment. I think she's gorgeous but I've never fancied her because we're so close...
A. 24 August 2011: The best thing you can do is talk it through with her. Tell her that you felt a little awkward because you are such good friends with her.
Once you've cleared the air and both now how the other feels I'm sure your relationship will be stro... (read in full...)
Is your life over once you have a child? I am so scared
Q. I just found out I am pregnant, the baby wasn't planned but I did have unprotected sex stupidly. I am engaged and in a commited relationship so it's not like I will be alone. My fiance so excited about it. > Im so scared to think thats it now...
A. 20 August 2011: Your life isn't over once you have a child. You can still do all those things that you want to do!! You have a loving fiance who is happy to be starting a family with you. It may be a little sooner than you planned but you have people to suppor... (read in full...)
Thoughts on engagement rings?
Q. A friend of mine recently got engaged, and then broke the engagement off last weekend. Her now ex-fiance stated "that was a total waste of $4500" (meaning the amount that he spent on the engagement ring.) I personally agree that $4500 is too much to ...
A. 20 August 2011: I wouldn't be unsatisfied with any engagement ring. As long as he thought about it and picked something you'd love who cares? It could cost 1 pound, but it would be priceless because as you said, its a symbol of your love and everlasting ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with him? I really want to to, but I am scared
Q. Okay, so im realllllyyy into this guy. He is my age and seems like a really great guy and all that stuff. but he smokes, does weed, alcohol and isnt a virgin..Yeah i know its all bad stuf, but ive done everythin but sex, ima virgin. I really likie ...
A. 20 August 2011: I'm sorry huny, but 'great guys' generally don't smoke weed. You may end up on avery slippery slope if you go out with this guy.
... (read in full...)
I caught my husband in bed with another woman.
Q. i saw my husband on bed with another woman may 13 2011 his friends gve me the hint and help me open to reality, the worst day of my life. i hate him now and we have a child. a very beautiful child. i want to teach him a hard lesson??? tell me how?...
A. 19 August 2011: Getting revenge won't make the pain go away. It will only make you feel worse.
The best thing for you to do, (and I know its not as easy as it sounds) is to turn away and make a beautiful life for you and you're child, showing him that you're stro... (read in full...)
His comments really hurt me...and now I really don't know what to do!
Q. Me and my bf have been going through a lil tough patch recently, hes doesnt have time for me and hardly responds via text or rings me. This is possibly due to his long hours and football training. However I dont think it takes much time to send a q...
A. 19 August 2011: No matter how bad the argument what he said was unforgivable.
It can't be taken back. Let him know that you have had enough, and you're better than that.
If he hasn't got time for you then tell him its over and find someone who wants to spend ti... (read in full...)
Does this person like me for anything more than sex?
Q. This boy who ive known since seventh grade wants to have sex with me. We are both virgins, he's really mature and practical but I'm idealistic and emotional. When I first met him in seventh grade, I had a crush on him. So I actually liked him. Ever ...
A. 19 August 2011: Why don't you ask him if he would like to go on a date with you. Spend some time with each other and get to know one another. You're both very young and you shouldn't rush in to anything or so things that make you uncomfortable.
Don't feel guil... (read in full...)
How often do people have sex after being together 5 years or more?
Q. hi guys i was just wondering how often people have sex in a longterm relation ship of over 5 years. I undertand sex slows down but has ours lost to much ...
A. 19 August 2011: It doesn't need to slow down that much. You may not need to jump on each other the moment you meet but you still want each other.
I'm coming up for my fifth year and still love having sex with my partner! But if you live with each other you may not ... (read in full...)
I've masturbated for years but can't get there having sex with my boyfriend
Q. I'm having a bit of a sex problem ... Okay so I have been masterbating since I was 4 but with a book so when I started having sex I was surpriesed I couldn't get there i have been have sex for years now and I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong I ...
A. 19 August 2011: Its seems to me that because you're so stressed about not coming during sex, you're stressing yourself out and not relaxing.
Sex doesn't always have to be about the big finish. Forget about trying to come and try relaxing and just going with it, ... (read in full...)
He told me at the beginning that this was just a game
Q. It's been 8 1/2 months and I've been messing around with this guy. He is the kind of person that likes to experiment with other girls so of course I'm not the only one he messes with. I'm a virgin so we're not having intercourse. We normally make ...
A. 19 August 2011: I'm really sorry hunni, but it sounds like this guy is just after one thing. If you finally give him your virginity he will be outta there straight after.
Hour seems to be keeping the other girls in the off chance that you don't give it up.
If he... (read in full...)
How can I make sure my lover's wife found out about us without him knowing I did it?
Q. I am having an affair with a man from work. I am single, he has been with his partner for about 5 years and they have lived together for one or two years. We worked very closely together for over a year. he had feelings for me throughout this ...
A. 18 August 2011: You Don't. If he wanted you instead of her he would have left her already. He hasn't. So its obvious that he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
Her finding out does not instantly mean he's yours. She may forgive him and you lose him or she thro... (read in full...)
I am virgin, but do not fit the description of most virgins.
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old, male, and still a virgin. With my ex-gf of 2.5 years, all we did was have oral sex countless times, almost every time we hung out. We never had sex because she didn't want too for some reason. But this isn't the problem. The ...
A. 18 August 2011: Why are you so worried about what other people think? When asked why not just tell them to mind their own?
You have nothing to be embarrased about. If your not confortable with telling them straight then just plain don't tell them. ... (read in full...)
What do girls think of guys who offer to buy them drinks?
Q. Ok this isnt really a relationship question but it is related to boy-girl stuff. A friend of mine told me the other night that he has never bought a girl a drink--he says that its basically like prostitution, paying a girl to like you. This struck ...
A. 18 August 2011: I've never heard anything like that in my life!! Women don't think men who buy them drinks are buying sex.
Trust me, that theory is totally bizarre!! Generally offering to buy a drink is a great ice breaker.
Do things your way, not your mates.... (read in full...)
Woman on top - a position that arises many questions for me. Please help!
Q. This is probably the most embarassing question ever posted here: I am ashamed of using the position woman on top because I have very few experience(only had 1 partner and we only tried several others) and, most importantly because although I have a ...
A. 18 August 2011: You need to stop thinking about this!!! You're worrying and over analysing it when you should be letting go and enjoying it. My body isn't the best, my breasts are too big for my frame. But my parner loves every bit of me.
Men love women of all shap... (read in full...)
Before love comes into the picture, is dating basically just a way of women getting men to pay for sex?
Q. I want to get to the bottom of something... If there is no love involved (or before love comes into the picture), just sexual attraction, and the man pays for dinners or whatever, he is, underneath it all, paying for sex. Love is an additional re...
A. 18 August 2011: Okay. Firstly, If a date pays for the meal that's very sweet, it does not mean I'm going home with him. Also, nowadays ladies tend to pay their way!
I took my partner for lunch on one of our first dates and paid, I assure you it wasn't to get sexu... (read in full...)
Is love really worth it?
Q. Is love really worth it? I always see people that are in relationships struggling and it got me thinking there are far more negatives than positives when it comes to the subject. I see in life and on here that people are always cheating or hurting ...
A. 17 August 2011: A HUGE resounding YES!!! Love is worth it!!! I've been with my 1 and only partner for five years and I'm so in love with him. We sometimes argue, but we never go to bed angry.
He is my world.
You will find the same thing one day. :-)... (read in full...)
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