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writes:The doggy style position makes me feel like I am losing my feminity and also lack of contact/caressing with my lover during sex. Is it normal for women to feel like this or is it just me? Reply to this Question
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reader, bunnyblueeyes  +, writes (24 August 2011):
 I don't find it demeaning personally, its one of my favourite positions. And all sex is animalistic. Your partner can still caress you while entering you from behind, it can be just as slow and loving as any position, it just depends on how you do it.But you are the only one that can say wether its a good position for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 August 2011):
 What RedAthena said!
As long as it's NOT the ONLY position we use I'm fine with it... because I do like how it feels... I don't like not being able to see my partner but a mirror solves that problem.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): wow! I've had sex with over 70 women (I'm 48 y/o) and I'm struggling to think of one that didn't LOVE doggy style. Had I not seen the other replies in this thread I would have written in that most women love it.Anyway... as others have said, yOu should only do what you feel comfortable with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): Every woman I have met find it their favorite position or, if not, certainly don't mind it. However, it's not important what the average woman thinks. All that matters is what you think. If you don't like it then don't do it. Period. However, be aware that most men will wonder about that. Only an especially caring lover will respect your boundary because, frankly, most women - like it or not - will do it willingly and many like it better than any other position.On the other hand, I have been with women who hate oral sex (giving or receiving) and lots of women do that, too. Do what turns you on and don't do what makes you uncomfortable.
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (22 August 2011):
Your feelings are normal for you as well as many other women. I personally don't care for any " from behind" positions because the approach causes angle issues for me and it's not in the least bit enjoyable to be poked at when the angles are all wrong for my insides. I do become more tolerant after orgasm but the behind approach will leave me cold and wanting to get it all over with if it continues too long so we use it solely as an occasional prosition but never a finishing position.
Men do need variety and they are also visually stimulated as well by this position so I don't deprive my mate of enjoying doggy style but he's also quite aware that his heroics and antics in this position are for his benefit only. He's tried everything under the sun to make it more enjoyable/pleasureable and nothing works for me like face to face positions do.
If you are not comfortable or don't want to participate in a position you are not obligated to do so. However, you do need to be aware that what you are feeling has nothing to do with your partner or his wanting to defiminize you. You need to communicate with and encourage your partner so he'll know how you feel and hopefully come to a compromise.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 August 2011):
I think you're right - doggy style isn't really feminine, and doesn't really involve caressing.
But you have to remember that doggy style isn't about femininity or caressing. It's basically about lustful, out of control sex, animal like sex.
If you truly don't like it, you don't have to do it. You can have sex in a way that you fell comfortable with, and where you are caressed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): I like it.... it;'s fun!!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 August 2011):
 I agree with RedAthena, I've known women on both sides of that coin as well. Some love it, some hate it... You're definitely not alone. Usually the ones who don't like it state similar reasons to yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): I don't like it either because of the lack of frontal contact, it doing nothing for me sexually, and has my face buried in the pillow! But I let my partner do it for a short while if he wants to at the time, cus he seems to like it, but just as long as we don't 'end' the session in that position. I want to end with cuddling, not lying flat on my stomach hugging a pillow! So if you don't like it but don't want to speak up, then just find ways (and positions!) to subtly manouver yourself out of the doggy position and into the ones you prefer. If you act more enthusiastic in all the other positions but not the doggy one, he should soon get the message - good luck!
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (22 August 2011):
 I have spoken to many women over the years about positions. Some women LOVE doggy style, some hate it, and some just put up with it because they do like pleasing their lover.
Your choice is normal for you:) You do not feel comfortable, intimate or feminine. You know how you want to feel!
Your lover needs to understand what makes you feel your personal sexiest and connected.
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