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writes:I have a very embaressing problem. I cant stop sleeping around when Im drunk. In the past month, Ive gone out a couple of times and got absolutely plastered, pulled some bloke and took him back to mine. I have sex with them then I kick them out. In the morning Im disgusted with myself because I dont even know the men let alone like them. The weirdest thing is Im totally in love with a guy whos in the army. We were together but he broke it off cos hes always going abroad and didnt want a relationship. I begged him to reconsider, told him that no matter how long he was gone for and how far, I would always wanna be with him and would stay faithful to him. He is thinking about it. But when Im drunk I forget about him and go with other guys. I only want him tho. And Im also going to start getting a name for myself. Im 28, Im happy with my life, Ive never been like this before, in fact I was always known as the 'prudish' one out of my friends. Why have i gone like this????
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reader, Hello123456 +, writes (26 July 2012):
I know this is a really old post but I just curious to see if you have sorted your problem out? as I'm going through a similar problem now
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reader, bunnyblueeyes +, writes (3 September 2011):
 The obvious answer to this is Stop getting drunk! And I'd like to know if your army man decides to have a relationship with you will you still sleep around when drunk?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011): It seems to me you have 2 choices. Either stop drinking or decide you're OK with your behavior when drunk. To my mind it makes more sense to stop drinking, but it's up to you to decide what you want to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2011): "I have a very embaressing problem. I cant stop sleeping around when Im drunk."Many issues can be factors, but alcohol is a factor you recognize. Realize this will not change."In the morning Im disgusted with myself because I dont even know the men let alone like them."Get professional counseling help, or the numbers will go up and up."But when Im drunk I forget about him and go with other guys."Alcohol alters your brain chemistry, this is a fact, and the fact is that you are doing things under the influence to make yourself feel better." Why have i gone like this????"You have a disease, called alcoholism. You should take this quiz. Be honest with yourself.Remember, this is a disease, it is inborn, you can only control your exposure to the alcohol, not what it does when you drink it.http://www.lanarkleedsaa.org/pages/aboutaa/are_you_an_alcoholic.htmYour situation may be more complicated, almost certainly is, you may have sexual issues that come out when you are intoxicated. Professional counseling is the only way to go. Tell the counselor everything.Remember, alcoholism is a disease, it is not curable, only treatable by not consuming alcohol. For people who have your issue, there is no safe level of consumption. Don't forget this.
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (30 August 2011):
 Stop drinking.
Get therapy.
That's the only way you're going to really sort your life out.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (30 August 2011):
 Have you considered that you have a drinking problem?
When you get plastered, you lose all inhibition and common sense. Time to stop hanging out at the pubs and get yourself into a program to address WHY you are drinking so much to lose your self control.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (30 August 2011):
 the rejection by this man has probably knocked your confidence so when you are out getting drunk and have men chatting you up it is boosting your confidence, but this is only a temporary fix and then the next day when you are sober and you wake to realised the man you want still doesn't want you, the reality of the situation hits you again and you feel as low as before.
you need to come to terms with the fact that the army guy does not want to be with you. accept that. learn to realise that just coz he does not love you it does not mean that you are unlovable! i think that is why you are having these casual encounters coz on some level you have given up on the idea of having a good relationship so you are just taking whatever scraps you can find in the night clubs.
you WILL meet a good guy but not while you are behaving in this way. be more mindful about what you are doing, stop drinking before you get into the state where you no longer know or care what is happening. when you are tipsy, switch to soft drinks, do your friends know how you feel? talk to them. hopefully they can help you to not get wrecked on a night out
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2011): you kick them out,but you know they werent coming back. you have self esteem issues and this will make you worse.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 August 2011):
 Cut down on the alcohol, yes. It might be you just can't take it as well as you're getting older. I used to know my limits quite well, but with the years they blurred out. So now I'm back to counting drinks instead of going on the feeling. So count your drinks and go no further than this or that many.
Also, get some self control! Put a picture of the man you're in love with in your wallet, or on your phone, so you wont forget when drunk.
Maybe you're just acting out because you're love sick and the man you love is rejecting you?
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