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I got back from a trip to find another man's pair of underwear in my bed. Do I believe my wife's story?

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Question - (3 September 2015) 8 Answers - (Newest, 3 September 2015)
A male United Arab Emirates age 30-35, anonymous writes:

came home from a week long trip found a pair of men's underwear in my bed that weren't mine. Was told they got mixed in laundry and got there when she made the bed. What's the answer?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2015):

Let's use a little Sherlocke Holmes logic. How to you spread a sheet across the bed and not notice a pair of underwear clinging to it? On top of the bottom sheet, and under the top sheet; where you yourself noticed them. Do they look fresh and clean, or worn?

Even if she went to the laundromat. Does she normally shakeout the sheets before folding them? Normally you have to get the wrinkles and static from the dryer out of your linen or bed sheets in order to proper fold them.

Now there. Figure it out.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (3 September 2015):

YouWish agony auntThe "mixed in laundry" would only be possible if she goes to a laundromat outside the house. I'm guessing that grabbed them quickly after you confronted her.

It's more possible that the man she was in bed with kicked them off in bed, and went "commando" afterwards if he had a pair of comfortable shorts on. I've seen that firsthand and had to pull underwear out of the bed before.

I agree with Garbo - be highly suspicious and look for other clues. If you have a washing machine in your home, then she's busted.

If you have the pair of underwear, and she hasn't snatched them away, this is gross, but smell them. Clean is clean. An aroused man leaves evidence of pre-ejaculate in underwear as well as sweat and umm..other things, depending on the level of personal hygiene.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (3 September 2015):

Honeypie agony auntThat sounds really odd.

Her guess (that it got mixed up in the laundry) is as good as any guess I can make.

Does she do laundry outside the house? Or do more people share your washer/dryer? If so... it's entirely possible and like C. Grant said, if they are clean.. it's possible.

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A female reader, Anonny United Kingdom +, writes (3 September 2015):

There is a slim chance that it got mixed up in the laundry - so don't dismiss your wife's theory just yet - but even if it I did - why would it end up in your bed? Surely it would be in the laundry basket?!! Having said that - surely she wouldn't be that careless either - if she was playing around.

Realistically - it does sound to me that something has gone on - but proving it is going to be hard unless your wife admits something. I would watch her very carefully from now on & don't be fooled!

Good luck!

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (3 September 2015):

Who knows if it's the truth, but I would think that if a guy was at your house he would have remembered his underwear when he left. It's not like a jacket. At the same time that's the most suspicious article of clothing that just happened to show up when you were gone.

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (3 September 2015):

C. Grant agony auntIf they were mixed in with the laundry then they'd be freshly clean. Were they?

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (3 September 2015):

Ivyblue agony auntUnless you use a public laundry where the heck did they come from? I think she may be telling porky pies (lies). Thats a bit far fetched!

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A male reader, Garbo United States +, writes (3 September 2015):

Garbo agony auntThe answer is that you need to investigate the story because it does not add up. I would not confront or flip on her but put in prudent traces such check through her phone, look through her phone bill in past few months, examine the bill for texts, look through social media like FB or chat apps, follow her where she goes while you are supposedly away ... Then see what the evidence shows. If nothing, then she is clean.

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