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writes:How do I get over a break-up.I've been seeing this man for over a year and he was my world. I loved him and I did anything I could for him. We talked everyday non-stop and I thought he felt the same.He has now moved away due to work so we have had to part ways. He promised he would keep in touch with me but has gone completely silent. He didn't even say goodbye or give me his telephone number. I messaged him on facebook, he responded with winky faces to the questions I asked him but still didn't give me his number or ask if I was okay.I'm at a loss because I don't know what I did wrong. I have been completely used by him and I feel so hurt. The worst part is that I can't talk to anyone about it as I am not local to where I live and I have no friends or family around here. (So im on here).I obviously don't mean anything to him if he doesn't want to give me his number or make conversation with me. How do I stop myself thinking about him because it's upsetting me all the time. Knowing that I've been used is an awful feeling, even worse when I know I allowed it to happen. I just need some tips on being strong and making sure I get over this so I can love again..Please don't be too harsh I've had a rough night. I have a history of depression and this is effecting me really bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2015): What questions did you ask him?I think you need to send him a message on Facebook or text him... and ask him flat out.Is our relationship over?Or call him.You need to have it all out. A good, honest talk.He will avoid the whole issue if he could.You need to find out where you stand. FOR YOU and your own sanity.This way you can deal with the outcome properly.Right now you are in limbo and you don't have the answers to your questions. And you NEED the answers for closure.So get the answers. Then you can move on.I know actions speak louder than words and he has appeared to distance himself for whatever reason. But for me personally I would not let a guy get away with what he is doing after all that time together. He owes me at least an explanation and a good honest last conversation. It is the least he can do after I have invested my heart into him!I am so sorry. I know how much it hurts. HUGS.
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reader, Anonny +, writes (23 May 2015):
I don't think he used you. I think it did sound like he really cared for you in the beginning.
The fact is - he has a new job in a new area - anything could've happened. He might be overly stressed with work, he might be out enjoying the sights or he may even have had his head turned by a new lady on the scene.
The trouble with men (& some women too) is once they are out of sight they don't feel obliged to give you an explanation. Especially if they are unlikely to see you again - he probably feels it's easier that way. The fact that he hasn't blocked you on Facebook though is a good sign.
I have known a couple of men who I thought I was close to & was deeply fond of - and both disappeared from my life without any explanation to why they had suddenly gone. Yes - It's rude and it's bad manners - but some guys are just built that way.
Remember the good times is what I say. It's better to have loved & lost - some people don't even find love...
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