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writes:A guy I have known for a few months just recently let me know implicitly that he was very into me. He never said it verbally but it was all in the eyes, and the tons of questions he asked me. He gave me his business card and repeatedly asked me to call him and to come and see him. He hugged me very closely the last time we saw each other. I know for a fact that there is intense attraction from his end. I emailed him a few days after I saw him and I still haven't heard back. Don't people usually answer back within a few hours if they regularly check their emails? Why show he was really interested in person, and now, the silent treatment? Is he playing hard to get? Is this possibly his way to keep me interested? Men, can you please weigh in?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (7 January 2015):
I agree with the person at the bottom - if he has recently broke up with a girl, he probably is just looking for affection & needs his ego boosting.
I just had a guy who had broke up with his girlfriend & he was chatting up all sorts of women looking for his next lay. He gave me a big long bear hug too & told me I was a lovely girl & then off he went onto some other conquest & I haven't heard from him since.
I think guys who have just come out of relationships / or are always looking for attention are never 100% genuine. It is just a stop gap until their next true love comes along. The trouble is - you never know if that's gonna be you!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2015): I am the OP of this question.Just to clarify a couple of details for those who asked. He is not married, but I did discover a couple of days ago that he broke up with his girlfriend 3 months ago. Perhaps he is still hurt and cannot make the transition to someone else, but let me tell you, I know when a man's feelings are genuine. He didn't flirt in an empty or sleazy way. He was very genuine in the way he looked into my eyes, and the way he said to pass by and see him at work, and to call him. His long tight hug was also totally unexpected. It meant more than just a hug.It was all really GENUINE. However, he has not emailed back. Funny because he was the one who was being vocal about me coming to see him and to call him, when initially I had no intention of being that involved. I like to be friends with a person first before developing real feelings. This is really perplexing! I have never been in a situation where a man looked so genuine and his throat tightened when speaking to me. He almost said something to me the last time I saw him, but then held back and just repeatedly said ''please call me and pass by''. He could have gotten his ego stroked by just flirting casually but not leading me on, so something makes me think there is more to this story...mmmm
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 January 2015):
 I agree with Abella.
Don't go chase him. You e-mailed him (which is fine) the BALL is now in his court.
And by the by, I wouldn't call not answering an e-mail for "silent treatment". It could be that he WANTS to not appear TOO interested or he ISN'T as interested when to comes down to it.
DO you KNOW for a fact that he is single? Because I get a little bit of a "married sales man" vibe from you post.
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reader, Abella +, writes (6 January 2015):
 That was very sweet that he let you know, by his actions, that he was attracted to you.
It would have been better though if he followed that up by contacting you first, if he was really keen.
Why should you be the one to contact him? If he was the one communicating his attraction to you.
Was that his way of confirming if the attraction was mutual.
Something may have made him busier than usual. And if he is playing hard to get them let him come to you. Do not chase him.
He may like you so much that he is anxious that he might make a mistake.
But until you hear from him let him be. Because I think he is enjoying making you wait in the hope it will make you more keen.
Get on with your life and let him do the running. You met his first request. Now let him respond.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2015): Its very likely he was just testing the waters with you. He wanted to see how easy it would be to gain your interest. There are a couple of reasons for doing this. One scenario happens after a break up. Alot of guys, when they become recently single, they can turn into major jerks. They feel broken by the woman they loved (and probably still do love). They generally play the field in order to stroke their broken ego. A common tactic is to turn on the charm, hit on a girl, and indulge in her response. It's not about the girl, it's about him. He's just looking for attention. And when he gets the attention (eg. your email), he bails, for that is all he wanted. Another reason is he is looking for sex but likely he is in the same mind frame I described above. So he goes around hitting on girls in every direction. And he keeps them in this sort of "reserve" list. If this is the case, relax, cause he will call you...when it's your turn. There is also the slightest chance that he may be a legit guy, has been busy with work and has not been able to get around to calling. But this scenario is slim to none.
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