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writes:How do you get popular in life? I see people on facebook get so many likes meaning that peple like them. I know it's shallow to think or shallow way of thinking but why are some people more popular or well liked then others? Just wondering. What's wrong with other people that they aren't as shown/known/liked or seen, even if they maybe be good and kind and pretty people?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2015): dont worry about being popular ..just have a few cherished friends. Being popular is a load of hype ...it means nothing. All those people who fake like a person arejust waiting for their moment to put their oar in, because its all about the rise and fall.Popular people are like politicians..they get out there and meet and greet and integrate and try to find some middleground whenever they can ..they tend to agree to everything that needs agreeing to, to console when consolations neede and have a knd wird for everyone,but noone really knows the inner person because that remains a closely guarded secret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2015): Some people actually get on with real life and don't have time for FB and all it's fake bull shit. Aghhhhhhhh, go and do something really exciting and EXPERIENCE the reality thrill and then climb your next mountain, still nobody will give a shit. Not many people like me, but i don't care less because i am too busy living to even wonder why i am not miss popular.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (11 August 2015):
Facebook is not real life. Anyone can make themselves sound fascinating if they want, it doesn’t mean that it reflects the reality of their lives in any way. Some people get liked more because they write good content or post interesting pictures, not because they are nicer or more popular people. Some people live their lives on social media and get more likes because they post more. Perhaps the person with fewer likes and fewer wildly exciting stories on Facebook is actually no less interesting, happy or popular, but just more private. Friendship counts don’t mean anything either: I know people who have friends that they have never met in person. I’ve been friended by people I’ve met once or twice, it’s just the way it works. Why are some people more popular? Some people are more sociable. Some people are happy with a small group of close friends. Others have a small group of close friends but a much wider circle of friends and acquaintances and it is these who seem more in-demand and more popular. Some people love the idea of going out every other day to see friends, whilst others are happy with their homes and greater amounts of time in their own company, or that of a much smaller clique. The question should never be how you make yourself more popular, unless you’re pushing everybody away and don’t want to. The question, rather, is with whom you’d like to be noticed, seen and judged a good person to have around.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2015): Not sure I gave up trying to be liked a long time ago! Was easier to appreciate the one awsome friend I have and learn to enjoy my own company.
Facebook doesn't mean anthing. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to be popular and just get on with your life and stuff. Find happiness in what you do not what other people are doing on facebook.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2015): Put in one sentence: 85% of Facebook is superficial and you shouldn't worry about it in your teen years, let alone any older :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2015): I agree with HoneyPie. I have found it to be true that people who seem well liked on Facebook are actually some of the most depressed people. I have one girl on my Facebook who posts daily selfies and seems happy, and yes, she gets a lot of likes and comments on her photos. She also recently found out her boyfriend of 3 years has been cheating on her pretty much the whole time they've been together, and she has a bunch of other drama going on in her life right now. I only know this because I'm close to her. Those who see her on Facebook who don't really know her think she's so happy and that her life is wonderful based on all the attention she gets. The truth is, it only helps her in the moment and she needs constant reassurance. Finding out what she did has really knocked her confidence. She didn't post nearly as often before.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 August 2015):
 Likes on Facebook doesn't mean people LIKE them.... just like what they post. Just like the number of Facebook "friends" doesn't mean someone is more liked than someone with less. I know people who will add anyone and then promptly forget about it... it's like rating for a tv show. A REALLY great show can have crappy ratings because they go by "test" families - not the actual viewer numbers... shame really.
And it has nothing to do with popularity in reality.
Some people put themselves out there (sell themselves) some don't. Some people pretend to have the most exciting glamorous or perfect life on Facebook but in reality they have a dead end job and depression....
Smoke and mirrors.
Don't believe all that FB hype.
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reader, Anonny +, writes (11 August 2015):
In addition - I must just add that as long as you are a nice & trustworthy person - you will always be popular! X
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reader, Anonny +, writes (11 August 2015):
You're right - it IS a shallow question.
Firstly remember - Facebook is a shallow place. Some People have 100s of friends - but only have ever met probably half of them at most. Also - not everyone is a friend - I knew someone who set up a Fake account - just so they could follow their ex.
As for being popular - it's not just about being pretty - if you are funny or have a cute pet - or interact with others on Facebook too - that will make you popular.
But at the end of the day - Who cares?!! It's only CyberSpace - it's NOT real. Your true friends & family in the real world are what count most!
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