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writes:ME and my girlfriend have been together for over 3 years now and my birthday just past a month ago. She did not buy me anything for my birthday. I always buy her stuff for her birthday. Is this a bad sign? Reply to this Question
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reader, ailemaaax  +, writes (28 March 2011):
Perhaps it was just the way we were, but my ex [we were together for 2 years] always bought me amazing gifts for my birthday, beautiful jewelery and such, and so for his birthday I always rivaled his gifts. It wasn't like it was a competition to us, I just wanted to show him how much he meant to me by showing him that he is more important to me than money, and I would do anything to make him happy, even thought he knew I did not have much money.The other aunts may be right, that perhaps birthday's just didn't mean much to her because of the way she was brought up, as some families don't really think they're a big deal. But obviously you're concerned about it, so even if she doesn't think it is a big deal, she should do something because it's important to you. I think you need to approach her about it, in a gentle way.
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reader, frou frou  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 Sometimes, these things depend. For example, my Dad always forgets my birthday, but I know he loves me to bits and is always there for me. It's just that when he was growing up birthdays weren't considered to be very important. People have different ways of showing affection for each other. In fact, I would be much more worried if she'd bought you a huge present, could be a guilty conscience. But I would definitely talk to her about it and let her know in a non-confrontational way that it's something that was important to you and that you were upset.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 Has she never given you any gifts or is this something that happened this year? Did she forget your birthday? Did she give you a reason why she didn't give you any gift?
Yes, I would say this is a bad sign, and something you and her should talk about.
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