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writes:Well me and my boyfriend have been having sex and I'm just wondering why I don't get pleasure from it. He's on the big side and when he takes it out it feels great but I can never come and I don't want him to feel bad about it. So what positions will make it feel better for me ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Woooooooooo! I'm so glad that someone else posted this too, I did the other week and got loads of feedback, its great knowing that oth people have the same problem and it's not just you. If you don't want to use a machine or other object, make him give you head after sex, you will probably come then.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): For girls your age, it is very rare to get direct pleasure from sex inside your vagina. Like the previous poster said, try stimulating your clit while he's inside you. Trust me, both of you will like it. Also, do you masturbate? Do you actually know what you like? If not, you have to experiment with that.
You said he is rather large, so it's probably kind of painful to just jump straight into intercourse. You really should see if he wants to perform oral sex on you. I think most guys are hesitant at first to do it. I know i was anxious about it and first, and because of that i could never really enjoy it at first. But now i love doing it, it gets me aroused and it drives her crazy and she always wants me inside her after just a minute or so. However, i still dont enjoy doing it if she hasnt shaved or if she hasnt showered recently. So make sure youve got those things in order.
If it is still not feeling good, you need to tell him. He will be happy with any sexual activity you guys participate in, and maybe you guys need to work up to intercourse. Maybe get yourself a vibrator or a dildo so you can really see what you like, and direct him in the proper way. He wont feel emasculated, he will be excited to be perfecting his sexual skill, he wants you to feel good too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): This mainly is something that takes a bit of time and patience. If he is on the large side, sex can sometimes be uncomfortable, even painful. First and foremost, make sure that there is plenty of lubrication (hence have him perform plenty of foreplay - you can return the favor as well). In cases where they are large, it is best to start with positions that allow you to have more control - control of depth of penetration, speed, etc. Girl on top is a good choice for that; this allows you to slowly accomodate to his size and be more enjoyable. Make sure he knows that you are the one controlling it, so that he doesn't accidentally hurt you and thrust too hard or something along those lines. After that try positions where the thrusting will not be as deep. Some variations of spooning work well, or just tell him not to go so deep in your current positions. Also, he can always use his hand to stimulate the clitoris and bring you to orgasm.There are lots of different sex positions out there. Be open-minded and take time to talk to each other (70% of sex, if not more, is conversation - getting across to each other your needs and desires so they can be fulfilled) and have fun! Google various positions if you run out of ideas, or make some up.
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reader, ailemaaax  +, writes (7 February 2011):
Hi, I got in a relationship with my boyfriend when I was 16, and the whole time I was with him I never orgasmed until I was 18. It's about experimenting and seeing what's right for you. Most girls can't orgasm from intercourse alone. Perhaps you should experiment with touching your clitoris or having him touch it while you have sex.I never orgasmed until the first time I used a vibrator on my clitoris during sex. I don't think I am very sensitive so it takes A LOT to make me come, but the vibrator on my clit never fails. Although, quite a few boys will not be open to the idea of involving a machine in sex, as they want to be confident that they can satisfy their woman on their own! It took over a year before my boyfriend and I even considered using a vibrator, and we have never looked back. Perhaps you should invest in one and just experiment with it privately -- once you've taught yourself how to get there, you can teach your boyfriend!
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reader, just a female +, writes (7 February 2011):
 ok the reason some people dont get direct pleasure form sex is because it doesnt normally stimulate your clit.
what you could do to make it better is maybe rud yourself while he goes inside?
or maybe try doggy style because thats suppossed to hit you g-spot.
you could try you on top?
hope it works out for you! happy sexing. :)
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