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writes:Hello guys,do u think is it ok for the guys while they are in a relationship and want to go strip show club either with you or his friends and let u go with your female friends too?and also i asked him if he go to striptease club before and told me yea and asked the reason whyy? to clear of mind thats how responded Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 February 2011):
 What Odds said.
I'd like to add that going as a couple can be a lot of fun as long as you're not the jealous type. I don't go to strip clubs unless friends take me, and I usually prefer those friends be female. But I'm not really a fan of those places. As much fun as it is seeing naked women, strippers are basically like plastic fruit: good to look at, but not much else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): The protocol is simple. If your partner objects then you don't go.
It's a bit disappointing that he didn't give you the opportunity to object.
As noted, the exception is that you shouldn't object to him going to a bucks night. As it's assumed you'll be up to worse things at the hens night.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u for answering guys
Odds:: yea i asked him during our breakup did u go to striptease club? And he said yeah... Once a month i go" i also asked him what about while ur with me? Yea i went but he didnt even tell me anyways it was in the past
I also didnt lose my virginity. Maybe thats why je asked me but then again i texted him " its disrespectful for me! I dont want u to go over there" he told me ok i wont"
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reader, Odds +, writes (7 February 2011):
 Re: Guys in relationships going to strip shows
If you're both comfortable with the thought of each other going to strip clubs, then go for it. I don't think it's conducive to a healthy relationship, but if you're both fine, then that's your call. I would like to point out that if you try to stop a guy from going with his friends, especially *in front of* his friends, he may assume you're just testing him and go whether you want him to or not. Better to bring it up ahead of time.
Still, having naked strangers grinding on you is not usually the best way to maintain a relationship. It puts the sexual part of the mind in a place it shouldn't be unless single.
The only exception would be guys going to bachelor parties. That's one of those "don't ask, don't tell" kind of things, as long as he's not having sex with anyone else.
Re: Has gone to clubs before
Why? He's a guy. Really, it's not more complicated than that. Every guy tries it at least once. I mean, you give a girl twenty bucks and she rubs tits on your face. If you've been single a while, or have a prude of a girlfriend, there's a certain appeal to that.
He said it was to clear his mind - probably means he had just broken up with someone, or was stressed out about something like school or work, and just needed to go out and see some boobies without the pressure of convincing a new girl to show them. It can be very therapeutic - not condoning it while within a relationship, or as a regular occurence outside of one, but there are times when it's understandable.
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reader, ailemaaax  +, writes (7 February 2011):
I think it is okay if he goes with his mates, just as long as it's not him who's dragging his mates along! And just so long as he's not getting any private shows or lap dances.
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