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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ive been with this guy for a year now, when we first got together he admitted to having sex with his ex but he said he only did it once and that she made him do it etc. he was only 16 at the time and she was around 14. Eventually he admitted to actually having sex with her two times but he still claims that she made him and that he didnt like it and he cried after every time because he felt horrible. Is it possible that he still has feelings for her and that he was hiding something and that's why he was lying to me to begin with? He told me that he did it cause he didn't want me to be upset about it, but i mean when i asked him if he had sex before he started crying i couldnt even hardly understand what he was saying. Plus he said that I was his longest relationship but then another time he said he was with her for like a month, more then he said last time. So i just want to know if he's hiding something from me or if he still has feelings for her. he just says that he couldn't remember how long they were together, because they didnt really hang out or anything cause they weren't close, he also says that they were on and off and he counted all the time in between. Also, when we go to stores and shes there he tries his hardest not to let her see him, he says its because he doesn't want her to talk to him. Because the one time she did see him, before he started hiding, and she was like, 'hey,' and smiled and all but i think that was all about making me feel uncomfortable and all. But on top of everything his mother told me that she broke his heart. what's that supposed to mean? that he lied to me the whole time and actually had alot of feelings for her? I mean she cheated on him and everything and they she left him, that's why i think there's a chance he still does because he chose not to leave her and then he acts all weird around her and hides from her.Please let me know what you think. i just dont want to be with someones whos thinking about someone else the whole time they're with me. Thanks!!
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reader, ailemaaax  +, writes (6 February 2011):
If he's been with you for a year, he obviously likes or loves you, and i doesn't matter what happened between his ex and him, so long he isn't cheating on you with her or something.
He sounds like a very fragile boy and I just think you need to chill and not worry about it, just be supportive to him. So what if he had sex with her? It's not a crime.
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