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writes:Not so much a question as I need peoples opinions.Okay, first kisses. The first kiss you have with someone, is that always the best?With my boyfriend, the first kiss had so much build up. And when it happened, my belly was literally doing loops and I got amazing butterflies, and yes that continued for a few weeks.And Now we've been together for four months, and I don't really get that big butterfly feeling anymore, and I sincerely miss it. I mean, I get it abit sometimes, and it isn't a case of me not wanting to be with him, Because I love him. I just really miss the first kiss and the few after that made me get butterflies like crazy, and the first few intimate touches that give you butterflies that just don't anymore.Is the first kiss always the best that you get with someone, I want to get butterflies like that again. But I don't know how Reply to this Question
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reader, ailemaaax  +, writes (29 March 2011):
No, the best kiss does not have to be the first. My first kiss with my ex of 2 years was absolutely dreadful, and I almost considered not seeing him again!
In fact, one of the best kisses I could remember with him happened when we have been together about a year and a half. (:
I know that you miss that butterflies feeling, but loosing it is a part of growing comfortable with someone. The only way to get it again is to break up with him and start new with someone else!
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (29 March 2011):
The butterflies come from a great combination of being nervous and excited, anticipation, fear, stimulation, lots of things! A lot of those feelings come up because it is your first time, and it is so new. After you have been kissing for a few years, you know what to expect, it is not unknown, you aren't nervous because you trust your partner so there is no fear, so the level of excitement is not as high. You can't go as high, but you can go deeper, that is, as you are with someone for a long time and fall deeper and deeper in love, you can expereince a deeper connection than what you can when you first get to know someone. If you keep your focus on the butterflies, you will be dissapointed. I am sure that you can see how, without the nervousness and newness of it, your body just doesn't generate that much nervous energy and tension. However, if you explore the depths of love and intimacy, you can find something richer and, in my opinion, more wonderful. It requires a change of heart, looking in a different direction, but if you get there you won't be disappointed :)Good luck.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (29 March 2011):
 The first kiss is good but it tends to be so awkward and both people tend to be nervous. I think the best kiss is when the two people first really discover the passion between them and it becomes a make out session. My first kisses with people have always been good but it was always more a feeling thing rather then a great passionate kiss. That first time you are not shy and really go for it with someone is, in my opinion the best kiss.
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reader, Manitobesk  +, writes (29 March 2011):
The answer is chemical and related to nervousness (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Butterflies_in_the_stomach). So if you want butterflies all your life, you gotta live without a long term relationship...
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