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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 11 months. We have had 3 breaks since we have been together. The first one was for 2 weeks from the 2nd of January to the 14th of January this year. The second one was about 4 months ago and she and another guy kissed. I asked if she had done anything and she said no to my face. Then about a week later she told me she and my friend kissed. We went back out and now we are have been on a break about 9 days. I went to a party with a girl I know and got really drunk and had sex with her. Me and my Girlfriend said anything goes but I dont know what to do. She says she still loves me and Ilove her more than anything in the world and would do anything to be with her. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice I was really lost and confused. I decided that I should tell her what happened but not yet. Because it might just put more stress on her and exams are coming up. Thanks so much.
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 I agree with q1605. Those same hormones that are telling you that you're madly in love are the same ones that led to the two of you cheating on each other and breaking up on a quarterly basis.
Neither of you are ready for a serious relationship. And at your age, you shouldn't be.
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 I would agree with CaringGuy, I really don't think the on-again-off-again thing leads to stable longterm relationships. Youve both proven youre not ready to settle down and be with each other right now - she kissed another guy, and you slept with another women. I don't see the relationship, personally. This pattern will just keep repeating itself.
Unless youre both now somehow ready to completely commit to each other, I'd call it quits and let yourself experience other things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Like you said, you were on a break - meaning: at that time, you were not together so it really shouldn't matter what you did or did not do with that other girl. However, if you and you girlfriend/ex-girlfriend are always taking such frequent breaks, maybe you shouldn't be together at all. It's unhealthy. I understand you love her but you need to find someone who is 100% dedicated to having a committed relationship with you, rather than taking all of these breaks to do lord knows what with lord knows who. It's time to move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 June 2010):
Why? you've been together 11 months and you've had three breaks already, and on one of those breaks you've had sex with another girl. I'm not really sure that you two should get back together. This won't work out. So, your first best bet is to end it and just have your fun now. However, if you choose to disregard that, then you need to be honest with her and said you had sex with another girl. Don't lie. But I really think that this is something that needs to end.
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