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writes:I am a 26 year old woman. I have met the 'love of my life' two years ago. At first things went smoothly and we enjoyed the same things. As days passed things started to change. He does not respect my privacy. He asked me to give him my email password just to snoop on and find any guys names that I know from my work and forgot to tell him about them. If I had to travel to another country for a business related matter, he does not like that and tells me not to go. Even if I want to go with one of my girlfriends, he does not like that and calls them prostitutes! Imagine he tells me that being 26 is "too old"! He also 'reports' whatever happens between him and me to his sister-in-law. I do not know what to do? Should I call it quits or work on a relationship that makes me miserable? Please help...
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Good god. This guy will only get more controlling as time goes by. But that's not what intrigues me.
What interests me is that you LET him. Why did you give him your email password? You didn't have to do that, as he's not entitled to have it. You have to figure out WHY you allow this interferance and control.
Someone with self-confidence wouldn't even ASK whether or not to keep working at it. And I'm not being mean to you - I hope you can build up the self-confidence to break it off with this guy AND make sure that something like this never happens to you again.
Don't forget to change your password!
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 A relationship is supposed to enrich your life and make you happier. In this case it sounds like you'd be happier alone! He isn't allowing you any freedom, and unless you can communicate with him and he decides to change his ways it sounds like this will only get worse, not better. If I were you I would make it clear to him that I was unhappy with the way the relationship had progressed and, though willing to work on a solution, would also be willing to call it quits if no solution could be found. Perhaps if its out in the open you guys can work on it and get your relationship back to how it used to be; but if not, don't be afraid to end it, and try to find something more fulfilling!
Good luck :)
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