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writes:In LDR for six months, together years. Boyfriend lost his job had to move for a new job. I make special trips to see him 5 days a month. He wants me to join him where he is but I can't leave my job to go with him because he makes no promises of any kind for the future. In those 5 days that i see him I make sure we make up for lost time and I make sure I do everything I can to please him. He told me today he is sexually frustrated and if he can't see me more he is getting an escort this week! He apologized but he is still going to do it he said. Feelings are hurt don't know how to respond to such a statement?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): This guy sounds like a scumbag. You are doing everything you can to please him, yet he's telling you he'll go to an escort to find what you're not giving him. Either he's incredibly thick, deliberately trying to hurt you or (my best guess) trying to guilt you into spending more time with him/moving closer to him.
Your relationship has been long-distance for 6 months and you said you make time and go to see him for 5 days every month. Has he ever come to see you or are you the one who's doing all the traveling?
Also you've been together for years but he never makes promises of any kind for the future?????
In my opinion you need to drop this guy like the loser he is. I wish you the best and hope you find someone who can treat you the way you deserve!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): Your getting trampled all over by this guy, stick up for your self, he wants you to do it all whilst he stays where he is and hires an escort. I don't see why you haven't ended it already !!
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 I'm not surprised, you honestly deserve someone who does make you feel special and appreciated. Especially since it sounds like you do put in a LOT of effort! Its tough, maintaining a long distance relationship - both partners need to be willing to make sacrifices and put in effort, and it is evident that he isnt. Honestly I think he sounds toxic, and if you stay with him and he carries on like this you will end up feeling worse and worse about yourself. Do yourself a favour and find someone who will give back everything you give to them :) If you need to talk, feel free to PM me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses, He does watch porn too? With what he would spend on a escort he could fly to see me. I put alot of effort into our sex life, not feeling too special right now:[
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 He couldn't just take care of himself with some porn?
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reader, Accountable +, writes (18 June 2010):
This is completely out of order. Essentially hes just cheating, but claiming it is justifiable because he is sexually frustrated. I am willing to bet that if you told him you were feeling the same and would also schedule an escort for yourself, he would be angry.
Dont put up with this; being in a long distance relationship is no excuse for infidelity. I should know, I'm in one, and me and my boyfriend both do fine. If he is making no indications that he's planning a future with you, and thinks sleeping with prostitutes in your absence is acceptable, I would tell him thats fine, and he can enjoy single life all he wants. Don't stick around for someone who is showing you such little respect! You deserve FAR better. :)
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reader, boydjohn026 +, writes (18 June 2010):
Let him have his escort, but tell him your going to get one for yourself
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reader, lovepuppy88 +, writes (18 June 2010):
forget him and find someone who is worth your time. he does not appreciate you and finding an escort is lame. i'm sorry about that but if he wants to ruin a long time relationship by doing this then he is not worth it and is he had a problem he should have communicated with you.
good luck =]
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