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writes:*OP's Original Title*This is more of a question for females. I watch porn and I hate that it upsets my girlfriend. I love her more then anything and try to be a good boyfriend in every way. I clean up after myself, I don't cook a lot but I pay for the food when she cooks or just take her out. I plan stuff for us to do together constantly. I have consistently gone out of my way for her when she needed the support like waking up early to give her rides to places and getting her car fixed. I try to surprise her occasionally with sappy romantic crap and get all into it because I know she likes that. etc.. etc... It sucks that me watching porn causes her so much pain. I genuinely feel bad for watching it because it hurts her feelings. At the same time I feel like the reason that it hurts her isn't true and she's convinced that I'm doing it for reasons that don't actually exist. She makes me feel like a pervert for watching it. I feel like it doesn't have anything to do with her. I love her and think that she's gorgeous but I still like to watch porn because it makes me feel good. It isn't at all because she doesn't satisfy me. I can give it up but I really don't want to and don't think that it's fair for her to ask. I guess my question is.. Why can't you girls just deal with it if the guy is good to you? Does it automatically over ride everything good and years of a great relationship with many positive experiences? Also, why can't you take our word for it when we say it doesn't mean that we don't love you and your the only woman in our lives. I don't want to be with any of these porn women in real life, I want to be with my girlfriend but somehow that won't sink in.Also, I know girls say that guys who don't watch porn exist and that girls should just hold out or be alone. I want to ask this question because I find it interesting. Are you single? Do you personally know of any guys like this? How do you know they exist other then just some blind faith? Check out this articlehttp://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/6709646/All-men-watch-porn-scientists-find.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2012): Men and Women need to be honest about this topic. Thats the REAL issue.
Do they support it or do they not?
Is it a need or is it a want or is it out of control?
Is it a relationship/dating/marriage breaker?
It surprises me that couples don't address this and yet it is the leading use on the internet next to Geneology.
It has been known to cause breakdowns in intimacy, trust, love, relationships/marriage, and have been known to be addictive if LET out of control.
My Fiance knows my stance and he knew it a week into our dating life. I brought up the topic. It turned interesting and fun but also was serious as such a topic needs.
For me, fidelity and the sanctity and honouring those you love has everything to do with my stance of no outside pornography. ;)
With this, we addressed our home videos and what they mean to us. It was a first time for me to do such a thing and for him so we were rather shy about it to start. I was timid and not wanting to view our short clip. He saw it and it didn't have the effect he thought it would.
All he saw was us in love, trusting one another, and it was beautiful. It was above anything he had ever seen. So getting over being shy, we watched it together. It was beautiful. I believe our love for one another and trust and friendship came through on the video. Of course we also know first hand what it felt like and how we feel for one another.
So yes, our homemade videos, which we don't keep for long. Is for his eyes when he is out in camp for 11 - 18 days.
Its our 'rule' of 'acceptable' porn for us to watch and I am glad to say, that is all he needs or I need.
If its about fantasy and eye candy; well I am one of those I AM ALL YOU NEED women and I say, let me see if I can fulfill that need for you first. If I cannot and you want it elsewhere, than it is a deal breaker.
It works for me and I haven't had a complaint. I've been happy and satisfied and so have my parnters.
Jeesh, just a video of us New Years Eve kissing is hella erotic.
Its something that has to be a win/win situation and not a ME, I win and she loses OP. Talk about it. If its not getting either of you anywhere, seek counselling and work with coming up with 4 possible solutions from her and you and pick two that might work and then put the plan into motion.
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reader, Tessabearr18 +, writes (5 January 2012):
Porn Isn't bad. I used to like watching it myself, and I guess I still think it's sexy. However, every time I find out my bf watched it, I get extremely upset. Let's add some background info. I have had extreme self worth and self esteem issues since I was a kid. Ive had off and on bulimia and anorexia since I was 13. I'm especially self conscious about my boobs. They're small and I et upset everyday (with or without my bf looking at other naked girls) because I feel like I look worse than any girl I pass by. Also, I'm bisexual, I love girls. I've told my boyfriend all these things. I've told him I'm down to watch it with him; ive even purchased a porn movie for us. AND I take nude pictures for him at leas once a week.I just can't seem to understand my bfs need or want to look at other naked women. I'm willing to do anything for him, I fuck him like a pornstar, AND were in love. So what's the fascination with porn? Why is it more appealing than the real woman in your life? Again, my biggest issue is with tits. I would be more okay if he looked at girls with the same body type As mine, but he's always looking at girls with big tits, knowing it's my biggest insecurity and that it makes me feel soo ashamed of my body. If here's anyone in the world that should treat me as, and makes me feel like the most beautiful girl should be the man who is in love with me. I feel it is wrong of him to continue to get off on other girls, because it's disrespectful and disregards my feelings. It makes girls feel insignificant, because we do all these sexual things for you, never deprive you of anything, yet you still want the naked chick who's 10x hotter than us. It makes us feel like we can't satisfy you as much as a video. Clear enough?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): Ok, if porn is so important and you feel you deserve better, dump her.
You're not compatible. let her find someone more compatible, and find a girl who digs porn.
If that's not an option, then just suck it up. I once had a boyfriend who watched porn and I hated it, he never stopped, well I never asked him to. But he hated this friend I had, with whom I had had "something" a long time before HE came along. The friend even introduced me to my recent ex boyfriend! Anyway, my friend and I had NOTHING when my ex boyfriend came along. But my ex boyfriend got pissed that I even talked to that friend, who was a good friend despite our history, I really liked him. But I had to stop talking to him. And for almost 4 years, I gave up on that friend because I thought my boyfriend was worthwhile. Then like you, I started thinking it was stupid, if talking to my friend was meaningless, and I had all sorts of thoughts about my autonomy and such. Especially because not talking to that friend wasn't the solution to his jealousy issues, even though I cut all contact with my friend for almost 4 years, I still had to deal with his crap. So I dumped him.
Sometimes we think we can take the restrictions, but we can't. Sometimes, no matter how much we love someone and how many good things they have, well, there's incompatibility over stupid stuff. I miss him, he was great, but HE never made a sacrifice or anything, he never tried to see things from my perspective, he never tried to get over his insecurity, etc. It was sad, but I had to be selfish and think of what was best for me. I mean, now it was the jealousy over that friend. What would come next? I mean, he was generally jealous anyway, but he had a special problem with that friend.
I know porn and jealousy over a former friend with benefits is not exactly the same, but in the end it's about incompatibility. It sucks, but like someone else said, we can't help feelings. And you can't help the feelings you're having, just like your GF can't help her feelings towards porn.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 Person12345,
Just seen your comment...
mmm.. but this is like saying, "We once had bikes, and now we have cars and that's different and terrible.. it's not the same.."
As an Art Major, you will know, that painting and sculpture have changed in the modern world.. We now have video art, installation art and computer art.. technology has changed everything.. dose that make modern art worse in some sense and not art at all because it's different from traditional things..
However you are right, in this modern world pornography maybe needs to change to be suitable for both sexes, rather than just appealing to men..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): I don't understand this either. My boyfriend watches alot of pron and I really enjoy watching it with him! Maybe try that, and arrange a romantic night in for the two of you and introduce her to it and have fun with each other whilst its on! That could maybe bring her round. GOOD LUCK :D
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 June 2010):
 "Have you ever seen greek art which portrays orgies, homosexuality and every sexual activity known to man? Pornography portrayed on everyday objects, on plates, on vases, on cups..."
Yes, as an art major in college, I have. I have also studied how these were pornography. I also have seen playboys from early on and thought they were very nice to look at. Looking at these images of beautiful women naked and paintings of sex, even "hardcore" porn in magazines early on, even VHS and DVDs of porn are very far from the internet porn of today. With these things, there is a definite start and end. There is an amount of slight embarrassment at buying it (not that there necessarily should be). There is unlimited internet porn, a lot of it is free, it is easily searchable, and it's totally anonymous. You can watch for hours on end, searching and becoming incredibly aroused for hours until you find EXACTLY the right image. To compare being able to find and click through massive amounts of any kind of porn you want for hours on end to Greek paintings is a bit of a stretch. You're comparing a stylized painting in a museum that children can view to Gag Factor.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (13 June 2010):
"Naked caved paintings and marble sculptures are not even in the same category as the ever accessible internet porn of today."
Have you ever seen greek art which portrays orgies, homosexuality and every sexual activity known to man? Pornography portrayed on everyday objects, on plates, on vases, on cups...
The issue of banning erotic art came in with the victorians... pornography as a term, and restriction of it, is only 200 years old...
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Porn isnt bad the effects of watching it in front of someone who doesnt like t is bad.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 "Are you in a relationship right now?"
Nah mate I'm not... so that clearly makes anything I say invalid? I mean if your girlfriend has a big problem with porn, if she doesn't then hats off to ya. Unfortunately there's a lot of women who clearly have a problem with this issue and in a perfect world they'd understand how us guys view it as no big issue and feel the same way. But so many don't.
Now I'm a stubborn bastard and hate being pressured to change myself for anybody. But if I absolutely HAD to change something to keep a worthwhile partner... well its a no-brainer and surely you'd agree otherwise you wouldn't have given it up for your girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): What would you do if your gf became addicted to watching porn with attractive well-hung guys?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 June 2010):
"My point is that it shouldn't make her feel crap. Things this trivial shouldn't affect a person so deeply."
"It's not healthy to be hurt by dumb trivial completely insignificant things."
Who are you to do decide a) that it's trivial and b) how it should make her feel? It sounds as though you're not even trying to see this from her perspective. You seem to only care about seeking reinforcement that you're right and not trying to see her side at all. Look through the questions in the pornography section of this website if you want to see just how much porn hurts. I think that would help a lot. If someone is opposed to it, it can feel as bad as being cheated on with a live person. You're having trouble understanding why it hurts her, but I'm having trouble understanding why something you claim is "so trivial" is that big a deal that you're willing to consider breaking up with someone you love over it! Clearly to you it's not as trivial as you claim.
"Also, I think that there are plenty of women out there who don't mind porn at all. I don't know any that mind it except for my girlfriend and you guys on the internet. I think I may be able to have something better and she may be able to find somebody who doesn't watch porn. We can maybe both be happier? The thing is .. I just don't think there are many men that don't watch porn."
Yes, about half of women do and half don't according to most polls I've seen. Also, you don't know that your friends don't mind. Many women feel uncomfortable voicing an objection because they are seen as prude, especially if they say so to a guy they know likes it. If it would really make you that much happier to be with someone that is OK with porn, find one. But basically if you do that, you're giving up a real live person for porn. Also what do you mean find something better? And yes, there are plenty of guys who don't watch porn. The majority do, but somewhere between 20 and 30% of men in your age range just don't according to polls by places such as the Kinsey Institute. The only ones who believe all men watch are the ones who watch. I have a LOT of guy friends. I've talked to them extensively on this issue. One guy just doesn't because he likes his imagination more. Two of the other guys I've talked to said they watch but would give it up in a heartbeat for a girl they cared about because they don't care about porn that much, and it just doesn't compare to a real woman. And then my boyfriend doesn't watch. Not because I made him stop or because I changed him, he just doesn't like it.
"How does watching a person on TV the same as bringing somebody over to my house? Please explain how those two things are equal. I watch action movies sometimes, does that mean I want to be a secret agent spy ninja guy or that I want the characters in the movie to be at my house? No.. It's just exciting to watch on TV."
You're not having an orgasm to an action movie (I hope). An orgasm is the most powerful positive reinforcement imaginable. Furthermore, action movies and being a spy have nothing whatsoever to do with your girlfriend/sex/intimacy. You didn't agree to monogamously be spies together. You agreed to monogamously be sexual and intimate together and with porn you are in fact being sexual with another person. Whether she's really touching you or you know her or not, you're having orgasms with another person, someone who is probably more attractive than most women on the planet, and someone who is more available than your girlfriend and willing to do things your girlfriend isn't. When you go to porn basically what you're saying is, I love you, but really, really want to get off to other beautiful women too because while you're enough, you're only one person.
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reader, Accountable +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Some women don't care. I can understand why some women do, but just so know you know my perspective while reading my post, I couldnt care less that my boyfriend watches it sometimes.
Yeah, some women do consider it to be an attack on the relationship. Some are insecure about their bodies and think that their boyfriend watching other women means they dont find them attractive. When you think about it, this is understandable, as the women in porn are generally chosen for their looks - big boobs, tiny waist, etc.
Sometimes its because they feel like theyre not delivering what you want sexually, and you don't appreciate them. For example, if a guy watches a lot of anal porn and his girlfriend doesnt like doing that, she might feel uncomfortable because she feels like what she can give him isnt good enough for him.
Some women just think porn is degrading to women, and any guy who watches it sees the woman (therefore all women...) as an object. I get this objection too, but you'll also find women who don't think this way.
A persons background and upbringing will affect how they feel about it, and their partner watching it, too. If they think its morally wrong, because of religion, or the lack of ethics in the porn industry etc, its likely theyre not going to be too happy with you watching it.
There are probably lots of other reasons, every views it differently. If I were you I'd work harder at convincing your girlfriend that you do find her incredibly attractive, and reiterate that the films are nothing but a stimulus, and you'd never do anything with another woman given the chance. Thats all you can do, really - good luck :)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 June 2010):
I want to add something else. Porn is something that you are able to actively stop doing. Feelings don't come from someplace rational or controllable, they're just there. So in order for her to just "deal with it" the best you could hope for would be that she would stop expressing her feelings, which would lead to a build-up of resentment. I don't think she's ever going to be able to change her view point. I'm sure she really wants to, but it's practically impossible. So my question is whether you want your girlfriend to secretly resent you more and more on the inside? Why not propose something to her like you'll stop watching porn, if she agrees to having more sex or something? Personally I'd rather have the happy girlfriend and more sex if I was a guy than a seriously unhappy girlfriend and porn, and eventually maybe just the porn... Why not just masturbate without the porn? It's still fun. Not as much, but still very fun.Also just to point out the argument that pornography has always been around is really not true. Naked caved paintings and marble sculptures are not even in the same category as the ever accessible internet porn of today. There were no or very few porn addictions to sculptures and magazines. Even playboy when it started would barely be considered porn by today's standards.
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reader, justsomeguy555 +, writes (12 June 2010):
justsomeguy555 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow, so a lot of completely different conflicting answers. I'm about as confused as I ever was.
I want to answer a few questions that came up.
"And my question is why can't you just stop if it's hurting your girlfriend so much? Why can't you just deal with it that it hurts her?"
I have stopped. It bothers me though, because I don't see it as a big deal and feel that I should be able to do it. I just want to understand why it's hurting her so much.
"Does it automatically over ride everything good and years of a great relationship with many positive experiences?"
I don't think it's fair to say that back to me. I'm not the one who has the problem with it. I even gave it up. It doesn't bother me.
"If it doesn't mean anything why do you continue to watch when you know it hurts her? And clearly the woman is not the only woman in your life if you're watching porn."
Clearly? I don't see it. I've never met any of those women nor will I ever meet them or have any physical real interaction with them. Have you ever watched a movie with a sex scene that involved a man other then your significant other? If so.. according to you, you cheated and included another man in your life. My girlfriend watches a ton of reality TV about love stories and girls trying to find guys, does that mean all those people are in her life? It just doesn't make any sense logically.
"You should ask yourself why you're willing to jeopardize your relationship with a real live woman you live, why you're willing to really and truly hurt her, for some porn. Is porn really that important to you that you'd make the woman you love feel like crap?"
My point is that it shouldn't make her feel crap. Things this trivial shouldn't affect a person so deeply. It's not healthy to be so affected by something so insignificant. Nobody died, nobody cheated, there is no war going on, everybody is alive and healthy. No traumatic event occurred. Why make such a huge fuss about it?
Also, I think that there are plenty of women out there who don't mind porn at all. I don't know any that mind it except for my girlfriend and you guys on the internet. I think I may be able to have something better and she may be able to find somebody who doesn't watch porn. We can maybe both be happier? The thing is .. I just don't think there are many men that don't watch porn.
" at first you see two normal people having sex on porn , a guy and girl .. then u get bored and want to see a three-some, after that maybe gays or lesbains.. the more u see the more erotic u become"
Why is it bad to be erotic?
"Porn is as Bad as grabbing some radom chicks ass on the bus?"
How is thinking about doing something the same as actually doing something? I'm sure you've had malicious thoughts in the past about doing something bad to someone and then you didn't do it. Should you be blamed for doing it just for thinking about it?
"it's cheating. you're bringing an outside party into your sex life."
How does watching a person on TV the same as bringing somebody over to my house? Please explain how those two things are equal. I watch action movies sometimes, does that mean I want to be a secret agent spy ninja guy or that I want the characters in the movie to be at my house? No.. It's just exciting to watch on TV.
"basically if you know you're hurting your girlfriend and you do it anyway you're proving that you don't give a rats ass about her feelings"
I stopped doing it, I'm just trying to understand why people get so worked up about it when it's not that big of a deal. If my girlfriend got mad everytime I walked the dog, or brushed my teeth or whatever else, should I stop doing that stuff too because it hurts her? My point is that it shouldn't hurt her. It's not healthy to be hurt by dumb trivial completely insignificant things. There are more important things in life to worry about.
"On the other hand, as long as you don't make a lifestyle out of it, everything's just fine and you should never feel bad about it, you have your little habits and if she is mature enough, she will accept it."
Thank you person who makes sense.
"I still don't think you should use it while in a relationship that you want to keep."
Are you in a relationship right now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): Pornography does have many people who are on drugs, and have suffered bad childhoods and have been abused...
But so has Hollywood....
The film industry seems to attract the most extreme people..
Yes, there are tales of people who have suffered during the making of pornography, but there are tons of people who enter the industry, get their money and go back to normal life very easily.
Many directors and producers of pornography were once women who worked in front of the camera...
The people who get the hardest deal in pornography are the male actors who are paid a lot less than the women, and are choosen not by looks or physique, but purely on ability to ejaculate on request..
If the ethics of any industry bother you, then stop buying fashion magazines (promotes anorexia and is riddled with drugs) stop watching movies (again big problems with alcohol abuse and drug abuse and the exchange of sexual favours for work) and stop listening to music (same.. drugs, alcohol, young women who are passed arround as sex toys, formally known as groupies)
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (12 June 2010):
Mmmm... I don't classify watching porn as cheating. I don't know any guy who would go up to his girlfriend and say, "baby, forgive me, I cheated the other day, I watched porn". Anything involving a real person, phone sex, cyber sex, webcams, etc. I would certainly class as cheating.
Even though I don't classify watching porn as cheating, I still don't think you should use it while in a relationship that you want to keep. There's plenty of time to watch porn when you're single with which you'll remember that its nowhere near as good as the real thing.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Porn is bad if you have ethics because many of the actors and actresses have enormous personal problems that have led to that career choice - terrible childhood experiences, drug dependency, attachment and emotional disorders. Take a look at the biographical accounts of famous porn stars and most have a sorry tale to tell. It is not the glamorous, consenting, fun world that some elements of the media would like to portray and few women would 'enjoy' being filmed doing fairly extreme sex acts that must hurt quite a lot and put them (and the whole cast) at risk of all sorts of nasty disorders! Although some people make a lot of money from their involvement in the porn industry, there are countless others who fail to achieve anything more than misery. Therefore from a perspective of human exploitation, everytime someone watches porn they contribute to the perpetuation of an industry which brings so much suffering to people and where there are few winners (except for the production companies that circulate this material).
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): I find it very amusing how some people can refer to men ending relationships rather than give up porn. As if the statement could not be flipped around.
We could just as easy say that some women are leaving perfectly decent men over a common benign male habit.
We could even call those women insecure for not being able to deal with it. After all some women use that term on men any time some kind of male behavior annoys them.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (12 June 2010):
 I'm a girl and I love to watch porn, I could say I'm more of a porn fan than my boyfriend.
As for your case: it also depends on her familial or religious background. Maybe she's been educated in the spirit that porn is something dirty (well, it is) and that's why she's reluctant.
On the other hand, as long as you don't make a lifestyle out of it, everything's just fine and you should never feel bad about it, you have your little habits and if she is mature enough, she will accept it.
But, repeat, it's maybe her education background, so you could as well spare her, or at least don't watch porn when she's around :)
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 June 2010):
"Like someone else said, is it laughable now that men are willing to end relationships over not giving up porn. It says a lot about our society."
Your history is wrong, men have always looked at naked women when they could.. they would do it with their friends outside the house.. but times have changed, women are now finacially independent, rape in marriage is wrong, women now feel confident to say what they do not like and do not fear the man will beat them..
What has changed is that women are no longer treated like children and now can see the stuff that men have always had hidden...
Pornography, prostitution goes back nearly as long as man and woman have existed...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 June 2010):
Porn isn't bad (well it is for children and people who may become addicted)
However, bottom line, your girlfriend dosen't like it, it makes her feel ugly, she gets jealous and upset. You don't need porn to masturbate.. throw away the porn and make your girlfriend happy or your relationship will be stormy and she will continue to cry.
You can give up, she'll start smiling, why make trouble when you don't have to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): The only way I can handle my boyfriend watching porn is if he never watched it in front of me and I never found the pages on his laptop. Like someone else said, is it laughable now that men are willing to end relationships over not giving up porn. It says a lot about our society.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (12 June 2010):
Dude you can watch all the porn you want after your GF dumps you and your single.
Porn is as Bad as grabbing some radom chicks ass on the bus, one chick will probably have you arrested another might want to take you home. you wouldnt watch porn on a big screen at work. porn is your personal you time if it offends your gf dont watch it where she can see you end of story, she doenst have the rite to tell you not to watch it but she has the rite to not see it, if your Gf sees you watching porn enough to be pissed your an idiot
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): Porn, Hmm well let me tell you this.. Porn is acting, its not real so women feel intimidated by it cuzporn sex seems to be a blast although it is an act without feelings and I guess it arouses ur emotions to a more better sex.. leaving u to think that ur girl isnt giving you enough pleasure.. Anyway porn also damages the brain.. at first you see two normal people having sex on porn , a guy and girl .. then u get bored and want to see a three-some, after that maybe gays or lesbains.. the more u see the more erotic u become .. Thats the way i see it..
its not worth it .. dump the videos
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): I know guys who are more or less into porn, but none who aren't at all! Have you told her you don't want these porn women in real life? My ex (who was very into porn) told me he just saw it as a visual stimulus - he's not thinking anything or wanting these women, it's just that the visuals and movement automatically work to get him excited, so it's a lot easier than having to use his imagination or picture me or something. That made sense and made it all seem fine to me. Good luck! It's not fair that you should feel guilty about it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 June 2010):
"I guess my question is.. Why can't you girls just deal with it if the guy is good to you?"
And my question is why can't you just stop if it's hurting your girlfriend so much? Why can't you just deal with it that it hurts her?
Does it automatically over ride everything good and years of a great relationship with many positive experiences?
Sometimes it can, because you violate trust if you lie and some women feel like it's cheating. Around half of women say a partner's use of porn negatively impacts them.
"Also, why can't you take our word for it when we say it doesn't mean that we don't love you and your the only woman in our lives."
If it doesn't mean anything why do you continue to watch when you know it hurts her? And clearly the woman is not the only woman in your life if you're watching porn.
As for that last article, it's basically the most cited pro-porn article ever. Some flaws: 1) it sampled 20 people, all around the same age. If that a good sample size for the whole planet? Yeah I don't think so. 2) it wasn't asking for men who don't currently watch porn, it's asking if they've EVER watched porn. Some 98% of men have watched porn at some point, but only around 70% watch porn regularly (according to most polls). Not all men watch porn. I know several guys who just don't/aren't interested, and most of the rest of my guy friends would be willing to give it up for a real live girl.
You should ask yourself why you're willing to jeopardize your relationship with a real live woman you live, why you're willing to really and truly hurt her, for some porn. Is porn really that important to you that you'd make the woman you love feel like crap? That's very sad.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (12 June 2010):
 Heyyy :)
As the ex of a guy who frequently watched porn I can safely say that (well in my opinion at least) its the fact of the choice. My ex was someone that seemed to enjoy asian porn. Skinny asian girls who were pretty and beautiful and everything a curvy red head wasn't. It's the fact that sometimes a guy will choose really beautiful women to "get fun" from and it puts females down. I'm not against it because sometimes guys do need another form of pleasure but.... STOP CHOOSING REALLY PRETTY WOMEN! :p
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