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writes:if im in a relationship with my girlfriend, and she wants me to help her pay bills, but doesnt want to have sex or sleep together, what is my best resolution?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): Leave. If your doing her a favor by paying her bills, you should get something in return. The other option is to stop paying her bills till she gets a clue and gives it up.
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 I don't think he was implying that he treats his girlfriend like a prostitute... more that their relationship hasnt progressed to the point of seriousness where he feels that he should help her financially.
And OP i agree with you, if you're not living together and your relationship hasnt reached a serious point, don't start paying her way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Wow so she has to have sex with you so you can give her money? Are you living with her? if so then you should pay your way. I think you put the question in a wrong way. Your girlfriend is not a prostitute.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): If you guys share an apartment you should help, as a roommate.
She's not a prostitute, the thought of sex for monwy seemed to be the topic of this article.
If you think sex causes a relationship, think again- i there is no relationship without sex, you're with thewrong person. Find someone else.
If you love her and you guys havfe a lot of fun together and enjoy being together and really feel like you can be together forever, that's a relationship.
Sometimes sex can cause a lot of problems, and blinds people from true love.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Geeze, doesn't sound like you're in a relationship. Sounds like the both of you use each other, or at least, you want to.
Never lend a girlfriend money. Keep money out of the relationship if you want it to survive, and keep sex out of it being used as a "reward". Pay bills for sex? Sounds like the definition of prostitution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): I agree that your complaint is logical but moeny and sex should not really be bargained like this. Her unwillingness to have sex should be its own entire topic independent of the money issues.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Im not sure what sex has to do with paying bills. If you like and trust her enough to help her out financially...thats great. But if you feel shes over stepping the mark by asking for help, just politely decline.
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reader, rivi +, writes (13 June 2010):
Your situation has become incredibly yucky.
I wd say just get out of there and move on to someone else.
Sex or no sex why would you be paying her bills if you are not sharing an apartment ?
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reader, lowercaseq +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Than I wouldnt .apparently she thinks that your important enough in her life to pay her bills but not enough to have sex with ,. I would tell her no an when she asks why . tell her exactly what I just told you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): If you want to pay her bills, fine, but don't expect anything back from her. You shouldn't even be connecting those two things in your mind: paying her bills does NOT mean she owes you sex. I mean do you even LIKE this girl?
On the other hand, if you don't want to pay her bills, then don't. Don't do anything you don't want to do. And watch out, you don't want to be used for your money either.
Just remember, sex shoulnd't be contingent on any gifts or nice acts you do for her.
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