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He's cocky, confident and teases me, but I don't know how he feels about me, what can I do to find out?
Q. i really need to know how this guy feels about me. its not easy to say how do you feel. i feel hes fond of me but i know im in love with him but i dont know if he feels the same way. hes very cocky and confident. hes always teasing me at work. he ...
A. 27 May 2010: He is just toying with you for attention. He knows he has your interests and it makes him feel good to get your attention. However, he is just playing with you. If he wanted anything more, he would have pursued you.
The only way to get even, is... (read in full...)
Should I make the first move? If he rejects me, it'll be awkward.
Q. I have a very shy boyfriend... I want him to hold my hand on the first date... He did that with quite a few of his old girlfriends... So I'm not sure if I should make the first move or not... If he rejects me, I'll create an akward atmosphere...
A. 27 May 2010: Make the move! Seize the day! You'll never know until you try. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
How can I tell if I'm special to him or just a friend?
Q. So this past year I met this awesome guy just through friends at university. When I first met him I thought he was really cute and so nice and hilarious. We would hang out in a big group during our spares, and often him and I would go for hour long ...
A. 27 May 2010: You can't tell. You have to ask. He liked you before and he may still have feelings for you now. However, I am sure since you were out of the picture before, he decided he would play to field. After all, he can't wait for you. Now that you are ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but she is still contacting me! How do I take these moves?
Q. My girlfriend and I, or ex-girlfriend rather, broke up a week and a half ago. Actually she broke up with me due to unknown reasons. She just said she's not ready for a relationship this serious and needed time and distance to think. Well... n...
A. 27 May 2010: I think she is possibly regretting her mistake. Come clean and ask her. Next time she calls, be like "What's going on? You seem to be calling me alot for someone you just broke up with. Do you want to be with me or not? I just need to know?"
If sh... (read in full...)
I hope my period is going to start but symtoms are a little different
Q. hello, this is more of a medical question, i am worried i am pregnant. i had sex last week protected but right now im getting my period real soon, and ive been feeling weird. I feel heavy, and feel fat as this is normal , but my breasts have sto...
A. 27 May 2010: Yellow or brown discharge, could be uti or a possible STD. You need to go to the doctors and get checked out. If you want more information online, try the webmd symptom checker. ... (read in full...)
I really liked this girl, and I'm tired of seeing girls leave
Q. I recently got out of a relationship and met up with a girl I had a huge thing for in high school. We hadn't talked for six months, but I learned that we both had just gotten out of relationships, and that we still had pretty much everything in ...
A. 27 May 2010: So true, when a woman puts herself out there and the guy takes it, the girl gets turned off. It's unspoken but a women knows a guy really cares for her when he can resist sexual encounter. When you took her up on the offer, she felt used, and it ... (read in full...)
I like him and he seems to feel the same, but I'm a bit aprehensive
Q. Last weekend I was at my friend's (C) house with some other people and I met a guy (A) there my friend knew from her old school. We got along really well and talked and kissed for hours. But then one of my other friends (B, A's best friend) got...
A. 27 May 2010: Well, if you like "A" then go for it. However, if he has the reputation of a player, be weary. Keep your heart guarded for a bit and dont give up the goods for a long while. If he truly wants you for you, then he will wait to get sexual. If he is a ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about his female friend?
Q. My bf and I have had a few fights over him having friends that are women, yet when I went to sign up to take salsa lessons he got jealous. I signed up anyway and told him I did. A couple of days later I had a friend text me from her bf's phone, who ...
A. 27 May 2010: Well as far as the wierdness of friend's list, facebook is strange...dont count on that being normal.
However, this is getting a bit out of hand. Checking on his facebook and sending fake texts messages. If he finds out you are scoping him out,... (read in full...)
Signs, signs, signs..but does he like me?
Q. There's this guy who I really like, but the problem is that I can't tell if he's interested in me too. I mean, there's things he does or says that seem like he could be interested but what if it's just my imagination? He's a sports assistant at my ...
A. 27 May 2010: Well it seems all points, point to yes. I would think by though signals, that he was liking you. However, you never know, some guys are just flirtatious by nature.
You won't know unless you ask. Maybe you should invite him to some group event an... (read in full...)
Instant sparks but he seems to be distant.
Q. i met someone and we both had sparks at first site. we havent gotten anywhere in relationship i think because i turned him off by coming on to strong. He says that he was with someone whom he really cared for whom just recently broke it off with him ...
A. 27 May 2010: Well you definitely got over anxious by jumping in. This guy wasn't ready to move onto another relationship. You need to clarify what's going on?
Sometimes you just have to get it out in the open, otherwise you'll just drive yourself crazy gu... (read in full...)
Does he like me again or is he just using me to get what his girlfriend isn't giving him?
Q. Heey guys . okay so ... i used to like this guy last year - lets call him bob , lol so i liked bob , but i didnt say anything cuz i was SURE he didntt like me back - but this year i found out that he did but doesnt anymore and now he has a gf ... ...
A. 27 May 2010: If this guy has a girlfriend and he is talking to you...and whispering sweet nothings. This guy is a player. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Don't waste your time with him, find someone better. ... (read in full...)
Do you think these dreams mean I want to introduce my girlfriend as my girlfriend?
Q. Well Im bisexual and Im in a relationship with a wonderfull girl. Lately Ive been having dreams of male characters from my favourite shows and movies. In each dream Im with part of my family, and in one case I was to afraid to ask this characte...
A. 27 May 2010: Well I dont know anything about the dreams, but if you think you're serious about this girl, then make it official.
How is the rest of your family regarding homosexuality and bisexuality? Are they very religious? Maybe not? Consider the members ... (read in full...)
I lied and told my mom I wouldn't have sex anymore but now I might be pregnant!
Q. hi..ima start off by saying im 15. i had a bf for a lil more than a year now. my mom found out we had sex and she was upsett. she told me that we shoulldnt anymore, but i did. i felt bad for lying to her and i dont wanna lose her trust. well ...
A. 27 May 2010: Don't jump the gun. I have missed an entire period on stress and was not pregnant. There are a number of reason women miss periods. However, you definitely need a test.
If that test comes out positive...you have difficult times ahead. You need... (read in full...)
She told me I was too needy. Is there any way I can start over?
Q. hi..i need an advice. i like this girl and become a friend since last year.i really like her.but i make a mistake.a big mistake..i too needy,oversensitive and emotional.this is what she said to me..now she hates me..she tell me please don't dis...
A. 27 May 2010: Ouch. I dont know. To be honest, once a guy is too clingy, it turns me off completely. A girl wants a protector. Yeah we like some sensitivity but overall we want a person who is going to take care of us, defend us, and who is not going to cry over ... (read in full...)
Never been in a relationship -- what's wrong?
Q. i'm currently 19 years old, soon to be 20. i'm a virgin and have never been in a relationship. i've never met the "right" one, or have even tried looking. sometimes i feel like i'm a loser, like nobody likes me enough to want to be my boyfriend. i ...
A. 27 May 2010: Wow, you just took me back a few years. That is exactly how I felt at 17. I know how you feel totally. I've always been a big girl, and I was always hyperactive and loud. I always thought, I will be alone forever.
The truth is though. You won'... (read in full...)
How can I make this work? And how can I tell if he still loves me?
Q. So ive asked before. About the guy I love with the whole long distance relationship and the difficulties. So were not together because the "Distance" was killing our feelings. And deep down inside I couldnt handle it because I would have figured ...
A. 27 May 2010: Long distance relationships are hard. I won't do them. You can't see this person and there is that old saying, "Out of sight, out of mind." Not seeing each doesnt allow you any time to spend together, there is no intimacy in the relationship. It's ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend, please help me
Q. im 16 year old male an i think im in love with my best friend (who is a girl btw). i have known her for about a year and we hit things off from the start, people have always commented on how close we are saying things like we seem to have known ea...
A. 27 May 2010: Hmm. I think when a girl says "I value your friendship to much," that could translate into..."I'm not interested in you in that way, but I dont want to hurt your feelings so I will just tell you I value our friendship too much."
Usually, if a gir... (read in full...)
I'd like his parents to know about their soon to be born grandchildren
Q. Im 6 months pregnant me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now when i first got pregnant he didnt want the baby at all but he said that he wouldnt leave us.but as the months gone by hes very distance i call he doesnt ...
A. 27 May 2010: This guy is checking out, honey. He wasn't ready for the reprecussions and now he's moving on.
However, you have rights. He needs to support you monetary atleast. You need to get a lawyer. Also, just because he feels this way doesn't necessar... (read in full...)
My gay friend prefers a new girl to me. Have I lost my friend?
Q. Can someone please help me. I have a male friend who I met a year and a half ago - I see him as my best friend and have done a lot for him and been extremely supportive :) When we met he didn't know many peolpe, but I introduced him to lots of ...
A. 27 May 2010: Ouch. I know how you feel. It's almost like she is the newer improved version of you. Hard to compete. However, you should'nt have to.
If you really want to try and salvage the friendship, then perhaps tell him how you feel. Tell him you feel lef... (read in full...)
I don't know if it's Love or Lust!
Q. I'm confused. Someone tell me what can i do... My relationship ended about a week ago today... Last night there was an earthquake and I got worried for him. i dragged on the worry for the whole night and i didn't sleep. I was crying and crying and ...
A. 27 May 2010: This is men, generally. Especially young men. He is immature and young and he is just playing the field. Maybe he does care about you, but he sure doesnt know how to express it. You're expecting the movies. He's a young guy and you're a young girl ... (read in full...)
Could I just be wasting my time?
Q. My neighbor and I dated awhile back, at a terrible time for both of us. We remained really close after we broke up, and even the people closest to us mistake us for a couple, and he never corrects them. I still care about him, and at times it ...
A. 27 May 2010: He seems to still show he cares but how much? We can't guess. Maybe he does care, but doesnt want a relationship... Maybe he is just being a good friend. You wont know until you ask. Unfortunately as scary as possible rejection is, you wont how he ... (read in full...)
How can I build my confidence and self-esteem and meet more people that I can trust?
Q. I dont feel part of a group anymore. Every friend of mine and even the closest ones I could say something about which makes me doubt them. I have lost trust in loads of my friends and can only trust one person fully. The rest i just don;t know. I ...
A. 27 May 2010: Well, girl... I don't have a friend that I can't say something bad about. I mean, everyone is human and no friend you ever have will be perfect. However, you should always be able to trust your friends. You need to know they will be there for you, ... (read in full...)
I don't have the guts to leave him but I don't want to stay either
Q. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 4 years. We have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. I was 19 when I fell pregnant and at university 3 hours drive from my parents house. I moved in with my partner and I feel that the last few years I have ...
A. 27 May 2010: Well, as you said, you were young and made have made a mistake in moving in with someone you didnt so very well at so young. However, your child can never be a mistake! You have her now and she has a father.
With that said, Is he a good father? ... (read in full...)
How do I fix this disaster with his ex and their kids?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. When we started hanging out last year he was living at home with his kids and wife whom he immediately left to be with me. I never asked him to, in fact I urged him not to. But he was ...
A. 27 May 2010: I would just like to say that the last two responses were JUDGEMENTS, not ADVICE. Please everyone, realize that unless you are the divine creator or you are perfect, that you have no right to pass judgement on others. We are all human and we make ... (read in full...)
I want to know if he feels the same way as I do?
Q. I have strong feelings 4 my causins husband and i how do i know that he feels the same way.He is lonely cause my causin past away last year,i clean his house and do his washing,i even wash his under wears.what must i do?...
A. 26 May 2010: Tell him how you feel and see what he says. You already do alot of things for him, so he must appreciate you. Ask him out and see if feels the same way you do.
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Wanting revenge on my b/f
Q. ok see yea,i've been through soo much pains and anger since i've falln inlove with my bf, and i feel like its time to pay back, i know dey saii dnt fight fire with fire,buh i need 2 show dis boy dat he will suffer after wat ez put me through. so I ...
A. 26 May 2010: Revenge is never worth it. Why put so much energy into it? I think that you should put this energy into yourself! Make yourself better and transcend whatever was done to you. The best revenge is being successful, yourself.... (read in full...)
I'm newly bisexual. I'm sure he likes me back, but he's already with someone...
Q. Hi, I'm a 21 year old male, I've been heterosexual all my life, but just recently I've become bisexual, almost purely because of one of my closest friends, who I've completely fallen in love with. I'm absolutely sure he likes me too (he's also bi)...
A. 26 May 2010: Well, it's always a risk dating a friend. It could be great or you could mess up what you already have.
If it were me, I would in conversation bring up the other guy and see how he feels about him. If it sounds like it's going well, then I would ... (read in full...)
I like my friend, but she's in a relationship
Q. I have a bi friend (she's a girl, I'm also a girl), I didn't think I was bi, but I became jealous when she got her first girlfriend and began to question myself. When they broke up, I realized I probably liked her. I think she liked me too, cuz it ...
A. 26 May 2010: I know how you feel. It's so confusing. The question you have to ask yourself as a bisexual woman is...Can I spend the rest of my life with a woman? Can I be out?
Depending on your family, faith, friends...it can be a big deal. If you feel as ... (read in full...)
"I really like this boy and time is running out"
Q. Okay so here's the problem. I really like this guy. Same old, same old. I'm very, very shy around guy's and have had a few bad experiences. My friend says that he's no good for me. also he likes another girl. this is a well known fact. I personally ...
A. 26 May 2010: Well, I guess you won't know if you have a chance, until you try. It can't hurt to tell him how you feel. ... (read in full...)
Will the guilt ever go away?
Q. My boyfriend and i of 5 years have been going through some rough times but were really trying to get through them. I have trust issues even though i know he would never do anything. Well i just became the worst hippocrite because i recently fooled ...
A. 25 May 2010: Trust may mean everything to him but if you tell him, most likely - youre done.
So knowing that, you have to decide.... Do you want to keep a secret from him? Knowing someday it may come out? Or do you want to tell him now?
If his trust ... (read in full...)
My husband loves bj's but I don't like the taste
Q. My husband loves bjs. What guy doesn't right? Well, I hate the taste of sperm, I mean I really hate it, but I adore my husband. I went online to find spermicide free condoms to see if maybe giving him a bj with out tasting it would leave us both ...
A. 25 May 2010: Whoa nelly. Why do you have to taste it to begin with? I love BJ's but I stop and hand it before the end. Essentially, my man is still getting the feeling of it and still gets the happy ending. ... (read in full...)
How do I fix this disaster with his ex and their kids?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. When we started hanging out last year he was living at home with his kids and wife whom he immediately left to be with me. I never asked him to, in fact I urged him not to. But he was ...
A. 25 May 2010: Your best friend hacked the account? Is that true? Or did you just have a little lack of better judgement and respond?
This really cant be helped by you though. This has to be the father's hand. These are his children.
Depending on ... (read in full...)
Warn the Cheating Ex's New Girlfriend?
Q. My ex was cheating on me. For more details you can go here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-checking-a-partners-internet-activities-a-violation.html I have since the break-up been breaking my own rule and checking his Facebook. I alre...
A. 25 May 2010: The truth is...she wont listen to you anyway. New love has blinders. Plus your the evil ex in her eyes, she would ever believe you.
The truth is, if you are still looking at his facebook and so concerned about his relationships...then you aren... (read in full...)
Does he like me and care about me as much as I do for him?
Q. This is going to be long..... So my bf and I have been dating for about a month now. We are both students but he is still enlisted with the US army. About a week after we started dating, he got orders that he will be deploying in November an...
A. 25 May 2010: You need to ask him girl! This is not something that can be left up to a guess.
It seems like he really cares for you but he knows that he is going to be gone for a while and very busy. Maybe he doesnt want to make you wait for him? Maybe he doesn... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my attention-seeking friend?
Q. my friend is always the centre of attention, and when she isn't she acts like someone has just knifed her. I can't ever get a word in edgeways, so i need tips on being more assertive. However, i was asked by the guy i like to prom and to my face she...
A. 25 May 2010: In some ways, I feel bad for her. She needs to attention to assert her self esteem, but that doesnt mean you have to suffer for her shortcomings. The truth is hon, everyone talks about everyone behind each other's back. If you didnt talk shit about ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 25 May 2010: There are alot of things to consider:
Initially, in a relationship...you have to consider each other's sexual appetites. The honest truth is they are rarely going to match up. You may want it when he doesnt and vice versa, and you'll be grateful... (read in full...)
Should I continue my friendship with her?
Q. I'm not sure whether to continue my friendship with this person or not. The thing is, she only seems to want to do what she wants lately. She usually just wants to go out drinking in my hometown ( she lives in another area ) but i sometimes get sick ...
A. 25 May 2010: Well, she is allowed to say no. Everyone has there own life and plans... and sometimes what your plan might not fit into what she planned. Sometimes people truly do get busy with life.
If you feel you always end up doing what she wants to do, t... (read in full...)
I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged.
Q. I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. We've been married over 10 years and before me she had this boyfriend named Jim. Right after we got married we moved about 3 hours away to another part of the state for my job...
A. 25 May 2010: Hmmm, 10 years ago though? Ouch. I would hate for someone to judge me on something I did 10 years ago. I mean are we even the same people with the same perspectives ten years later?
However, I understand you reluctance to trust her. Even 10 years... (read in full...)
Should I start talking to the handsome stranger at the bus stop?
Q. Hey guys, a bit of a strange question. Every morning i get a bus to college, and i see the same guy there every morning at my busstop. He's unbeleivably handsome and very well dressed. Lately i see him looking at me and when i look back he smiles, ...
A. 25 May 2010: Um, I'm hesitate. 17 and 24? It's statutory for him. He may be looking because he thinks you're older.
More importantly though, the age difference is too great at this point. I know it seems so cool to be dating older, but really it rarely w... (read in full...)
Will the guilt ever go away?
Q. My boyfriend and i of 5 years have been going through some rough times but were really trying to get through them. I have trust issues even though i know he would never do anything. Well i just became the worst hippocrite because i recently fooled ...
A. 25 May 2010: Well if you had done it with a stranger, I would have said...just let it lie. However, when you did it with his best friend, you opened up a whole can of worms. It isn't just you who can spill the beans, hon...he can too. If you feel his best fr... (read in full...)
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