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writes:My girlfriend and I, or ex-girlfriend rather, broke up a week and a half ago. Actually she broke up with me due to unknown reasons. She just said she's not ready for a relationship this serious and needed time and distance to think. Well... not even a week after the split she initiated talking to me about the mundane activities of the past few days. We talked a twice since then and both times I acted playful yet distant. It seems both times that she was baiting me to react the same way towards her but I avoided affection. I never call her. She always contacts me. So today she messaged me on Facebook and asked for help with her printer. She told me that she knows I don't care for her anymore but she needed help and didn't know who to turn to. I'm not sure if she's trying to get back with me or not. How do I respond to this? I want to get back with her but is it too soon? Should I continue ignoring her and showing that the breakup meant nothing to me?
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reader, Zanie  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 I think she is possibly regretting her mistake. Come clean and ask her. Next time she calls, be like "What's going on? You seem to be calling me alot for someone you just broke up with. Do you want to be with me or not? I just need to know?"
If she gives you some prattling about not wanting a relationship again, then she is just keeping you on reserves for when she needs you. If she says, yes, and you want to forgive and forget, well, then start again.
You won't know her intentions unless you ask.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 May 2010):
It sounds to me like she's keeping you on a string to be honest. I think you need to steer clear. You're only going to end up even more hurt about all this. There are other people she can turn to, and you don't want to look like a fool.
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