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female
age
30-35,
*ora_Bird
writes: So this past year I met this awesome guy just through friends at university. When I first met him I thought he was really cute and so nice and hilarious. We would hang out in a big group during our spares, and often him and I would go for hour long escapades to the near by mall or to other places off campus. As I got to know him I really started to value our friendship , we can tell eachother anything, we "click" on many levels, and I am extremely comfortable around him. What I found out through friends, is that he had feelings for me and I could tell by the way he acted around me and what he said. But the feelings weren't mutal on my side, as I had been having a bad experience with dating and guys in the past while. Anyways since school ended a month ago, we've been talking on the phone and hanging out one on one as friends only. I have developed feelings for him, more than friends. The thing is that he is very friendly and just a great guy, he treats everyone with the same level of respect and kindness, which is awesome but I can't tell if I'm special to him or if he is doing what he does to everyone. How he acts around me is exactly the same as always, however last week he told me about a date he went on, did he tell me this to make me jealous or has he moved on and given up on me? How can you tell if a guy is just being nice and treating you like he treats every friend or if he has stronger feelings than just being friends? I am jsut so comfortable with him and he is the same around me, we have so much fun doing things that would be boring to other people. I don't know if I should tell him how I feel, wait it out or just give up completely and value the friendship we have.
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reader, Zanie  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 You can't tell. You have to ask. He liked you before and he may still have feelings for you now. However, I am sure since you were out of the picture before, he decided he would play to field. After all, he can't wait for you. Now that you are interested, how is he to know you're ready unless you tell him.
Just because he went on a date and told you about doesnt mean he is trying to make you jealous or that he doesnt want to be with you. I think he was just making conversation with a friend.
However, if you want this to turn into something more than friendship, the only way you will know how he feels is to ask. Flirt with him a little, and show interest and just ask if he wants to go out sometime. See what he says...
Good luck
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