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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My bf and I have had a few fights over him having friends that are women, yet when I went to sign up to take salsa lessons he got jealous. I signed up anyway and told him I did. A couple of days later I had a friend text me from her bf's phone, who my bf doesn't know of. I wanted to see if he would get jealous and see his response, I don't make guy friends easily and I don't have any at this time. He was fine with it, he didn't care. Is this bad? He isn't asking questions and keeps texting his good friend that's a woman. I wanted to surprise him at school and emailed her asking for the room number. She emailed back saying he holds me in the highest of regards. When I went on his fb to email this woman, I found out she isn't in his friends list, but she had posted on his wall earlier. Also, I checked her friends and he is on there. Is this weird to anyone else?
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reader, Zanie +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Well as far as the wierdness of friend's list, facebook is strange...dont count on that being normal.
However, this is getting a bit out of hand. Checking on his facebook and sending fake texts messages. If he finds out you are scoping him out, you're a goner. No one likes to be spied and no one wants to feel as though they are no trusted by thier partner. There has to be some trust here.
There is nothing wrong with your guy having friends that are girls as long as he still pays you the attention/affection/respect he needs to. His actions will speak louder than any investigation you could muster. If he isn't being secretive about her, it means he problably has nothing to hide.
However, your mistrust and arguments could damage the relationship and push him away. Explain to him, that you feel uncomfortable about him being so close with other girls but that you are working on your jealousy and that you trust him. Maybe even go as far as to invite this chick friend to a group gathering.
Good luck!
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