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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:This is going to be long.....So my bf and I have been dating for about a month now. We are both students but he is still enlisted with the US army.About a week after we started dating, he got orders that he will be deploying in November and since then, he has been distancing him self a little or saying things like we can still see each other up to the point of when he needs to deploy.Well, school is finally out and he has to go back to his parents (which is about 2 hours away) and also attend some military summer training. For the pas 3 days, that's pretty much what he did, just training, 5:00am - late a night. (for someone who usually doesn't get up until past noon on most days, I sometimes wonder how'd he do it)I am leaving tomorrow to travel abroad for about a month and half, and he said he wants to see me at least once before I leave. So he actually drove up early morning and spent the whole day with me today.We also made plans to see each other (either he drives up or I drive down) once I return from my trip and if he happens to have a break from all the training.Even though he said he would like to break things off once he leaves, he says he would still love to receive care packages/letters from me when he is in Afghan.Today, when we were alone, he said he wants to remember me for good so that he can think of me while he is away "I want to remember you face, your smile, your laugh, everything about you" and that almost made me burst out into tears....So my question is....does this guy really like/care for me as much as I do? I want to be here for him when he get deployed, I will wait for him to come back, but at the same time, I don't want to put pressure on him nor waste my time/effort/heart on someone who doesnt care for me.
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reader, Zanie +, writes (25 May 2010):
 You need to ask him girl! This is not something that can be left up to a guess.
It seems like he really cares for you but he knows that he is going to be gone for a while and very busy. Maybe he doesnt want to make you wait for him? Maybe he doesnt want the stress of relationship while deployed? Maybe he is uncertain of your feelings?
However, you slice it...you need to talk to him.
"I know you're deploying and you've said you want to break it off while your gone. May I ask why? I just need to know how you feel about me. I'll understand, but I can't be left to guess."
And discuss it. Be cool and calm and dont get upset. If he says he feels like he just wants to break it off cause he wants to be free, then you have your answer, keep in touch for future possibilities but dont want around. If he doesnt want the stress of a relationship or you waiting around, maybe he just needs to here you say...that you want to.
In any event, you won't know unless you ask. Communication is everything. GL!
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