Is it too late to save?
Q. I have been in this relationship for about 7 years. we have a 3 year old son and we haven't had sex in almost 3 months. We sleep with seperate blankets sometimes seperate rooms and he don't kiss or hug me. I love him so much and I don't want ...
A. 2 December 2007: I think your husband is stressed out. Try to focus less on the lack of sex and more on the real issue why your intimacy vanished. Find a way to his heart so he can open up and tell you the real problem. ... (read in full...)
Do you divorce someone you 'will always love'?
Q. I'm a 28 year old single guy, who has been seeing a married woman for the better part of a year. She first admitted having a romantic interest in me, and made it clear at that time, that her marriage had failed, and was on the way out the door. ...
A. 2 December 2007: She loves her husband and wants him and the relationship to survive but he does not make her happy. Everytime she is ready to leave, he pulls her back in because he does not want their relationship to end either. She is holding on to her hope. It's ... (read in full...)
Do I need to moderate my high sex drive?
Q. I want to have sex with my boyfriend more than once a week and more than one time when we actually start. I like to bring new positions,places and even clothing to the act. I even e-mailed 7 new kamasutra positions to do together. Some times I call ...
A. 1 December 2007: Find a guy without sexual hangups and have FUN. Yes, you do have a high sex drive, therefore, choose your men wisely.... (read in full...)
We are getting married, but he's neglecting me in bed, is there hope I can turn this around?
Q. Hello, Well I have a bit of a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and we are going to be married in a few months. When we were first together, he was a sensual and giving lover, and did perform oral sex on me occasionally. But as time ...
A. 1 December 2007: Men want what they cannot have.
He got you and he lost interest. You are not getting attention/sex and you are perceived as needy. Needy people are a turn off. Pull back, postpone your marriage, get a new friend and spend time with that person. GET ... (read in full...)
Is this a deal breaker, or not?
Q. Hi, I think I'm falling in love with my girl, but I am afraid that eventually she will end up hurting me indirectly because she is often cold and unaffectionate. She says it's unintentional, the way she is, and perhaps she will change as we grow ...
A. 3 November 2007: Think about this:
What if she never changes? Will you be OK with the way things are?... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to expect him to love me again?
Q. I was married for 28 years until he started staying away from home and told me he loves me but he is not "in love with me anymore". After trying for months to work things out I moved out. Once a week he visits me and we have sex because he says he ...
A. 23 October 2007: I say give them what they want. He is not in love with you. Fine. You are not in love either. See what he does. Don't have sex with him. Don't go to a wedding with him, go separately.
Respect yourself sister!... (read in full...)
How do I get a second chance?
Q. How does one get a second chance w/ an ex? We dated for a year, then lived together for 8 months. I made a lot of mistakes (as did he), but I want a second chance. We haven't talked in a couple of months now, any suggestions how I can get back on ...
A. 23 October 2007: Tell him what you want. ... (read in full...)
How do we get over our difficult past?
Q. i met my girlfriend in may 2002 and we fell in love but since then we have had a very rocky ride...it started off very well and we had a healthy attraction coupled along with effective communication..her daughter who was 8 at the time hardly ever ...
A. 23 October 2007: Do you like yourself for the way you treat her?
If the answer is "NO", correct your behavior and maybe she will stop acting "strange". When she stops acting like that maybe you won't have a reason to not like her and will continue to love her.... (read in full...)
Help, My hubby won't sleep with me.
Q. My husband doesnt like having sex with me. It really depresses me so much - I see people on TV etc in love scenes and it upsets me. I have been with him since I was 17 and the only man I have been with. I know people have good sex lives but that is ...
A. 23 October 2007: The fact that he may not like sex with you is understandable only to him but why doesn't he please you in other ways? Maybe he never took your needs seriously enough to act upon it? Here's my analogy: he just ate and you are starving. He cannot ... (read in full...)
Me? a Poser?
Q. If you are in a long term relationship, is going into chat rooms posing as a single person classed as cheating? ...
A. 23 October 2007: Some people cheat only because they can get away with it. My bf used to chat online with a female who liked to get undressed. I told him I did not like it. So instead of stopping it he stopped talking with her when I was around. When I found out, I ... (read in full...)
Me? a Poser?
Q. If you are in a long term relationship, is going into chat rooms posing as a single person classed as cheating? ...
A. 23 October 2007: ask him/her "Why?" and you'll know how upset you should get. In all honesty, there is no point of going to a chat room and posing as "married". It takes all the fun away. Suggest him or her to go to a "Couples room" with you. ... (read in full...)
Help, My hubby won't sleep with me.
Q. My husband doesnt like having sex with me. It really depresses me so much - I see people on TV etc in love scenes and it upsets me. I have been with him since I was 17 and the only man I have been with. I know people have good sex lives but that is ...
A. 22 October 2007: The tough thing is that he cannot relate to your experiences. He may be able to "work" with you if he understands you. How you are going to get it across I don't know. You have hope only if he loves you dearly. ... (read in full...)
How do I get over these self esteem issues?
Q. I don't really know where else to go with my little problem so I am coming here and mostly I just want to know what you guys would do in my situation. I've been with this man for 3.5 years, after about a four month courtship. Our relation...
A. 21 October 2007: You are not alone. When something like this happened to me to restore my self-esteem I went to see my ex and he told me that I am sexy, etc. That worked, my self-esteem was intact BUT I was still hurt because his rejections hurt me on a very deep ... (read in full...)
For the past month he started to freak out about being in such a long term and with the same person forever. Now he's given the relation a chance, but I'm afraid of losing it!
Q. i am losing my boyfriend and i dont know how to stop it. we have been together a long time and we really do love each other, we have also become each others best friends. the problem is we have both become really reliant on each other, our worlds ...
A. 21 October 2007: give him what he wants. He will come back. Try to do the opposite of what you want to do right now. Like if you want to call him, hold off and wait for him to call you first. He needs to get a chance to miss you right now.... (read in full...)
My husband's parents cause us to fight all the time because of their bickering, how to tell them without risking them to destroy my marriage?
Q. My husband's parents won't butt out of our business they try to tell us how to live our lives and raise our two children. They don't respect us as parents and they cause us to fight all the time because of their bickering, how do I let them know ...
A. 21 October 2007: Don't talk back. Ignore.... (read in full...)
What are the rules of dating?
Q. Okay hey guys, I got a qustion. What are the rules of dating? Im new to the whole dating scene and Im wondering if there is rules that apply. Like time in between dates, phone calls etc. I know its diffrent from time to time....
A. 21 October 2007: Funny discussion :)
I am a girl and I think:
Once she's fallen for you (that's a different topic of discussion):
do things for her that she knows you'd never do for anybody else ever
The truth is there are no rules. Anything goes. Whatever ... (read in full...)
I want to "lose" it
Q. I am 18, a sophomore in college and STILL a damn virgin. All my friends have lost their virginity, this is effing ridiculous. I am wanting to just go out and find some random guy......
A. 21 October 2007: I lost it when I was 20 with a guy I was madly in love with. He was very mature and skillful. He made it magical for me. He was a true gentleman too.
My cousin lost it with a guy who had sex with her just because she was virgin.
My friend lost it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just hit me 'cause I wouldnt get him something from the fridge!
Q. my boyfriend has just hit me and smashed lots of things in the house because i would not get him something from the fridge when he was in the kitchen and i wasnt what shall i do,we are due to get married and dont think i can spend the rest of my ...
A. 21 October 2007: First, ask him calmly to explain himself. Then, tell him how it made you feel.
The truth is what happened once will happen again if the behavior is not corrected!... (read in full...)
I gave my stepfather a BJ. Did he take advantage of me or was it my fault? I don't want to hurt my mum
Q. I'm really confused about my relationship with my step father. He's 27 and I'm 16. My Mom Married him 3 years ago, even though she's 12 years older then him, and everyone was against it. But anyway, a few weeks ago when i came home from school, ...
A. 20 October 2007: What's done cannot be undone. Speak the truth. They are adults, they will handle it. You cannot.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to let him know I'm attracted even though he's unavailable?
Q. Is it wrong that I always stare at this guy I have a huge crush on when he has a girlfriend? I'm not 'talk-flirting' with him or anything I just always stare at him when I see him and he usually looks back. Is it wrong that I do this when he is ...
A. 20 October 2007: Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself.... (read in full...)
I can't understand how he can be happy in this marriage knowing well I love another man who I'm unable to have any contact with. Or should I just be content with what I have?
Q. I'm married to a really nice man, my best friend really, since 1996. For him it's always been real love but I've foregone the passion as I never thought it was that important, but as the years went on I found it more and more difficult to meet my ...
A. 19 October 2007: Where are you from? Just curious.
It could be that you put all the blame on him for all that went "wrong" since coming to a new country and losing friends. And it seems like you don't have any other problems to focus on, so you picked sex. Are you ... (read in full...)
How do I get my g/f to go back to having threesomes?
Q. I found out that about a year before my girlfriend and I became a couple she had several threesomes with her previous boyfriend and other girls. She also was involved in orgies. She became "gun shy" of that scene after her boyfriend left her for ...
A. 19 October 2007: It has to come from her not from you. She has unresolved issues, not you. Let it go.
"In marriage, your interests and your spouses interests should be considered simultaneously. One of you should not suffer for the benefit of the other, even will... (read in full...)
I feel he should be more committed and that he treats me poorly but my shouting and crying don't seem to be working. How do I spend more time with him without feeling I'm forcing him to?
Q. Hi. I've been seeing a guy on and off for the last nine years ... a long old time. We got together when we were still at school, I'm 25 now. After an 8 month break we got back together in June 07. In the past we have both hurt each other - we ...
A. 19 October 2007: One thing for sure, do not cry or shout in front of him. It did not work.... (read in full...)
All of a sudden, my fiance started giving me gifts. Should I feel suspicious or just accept them and not worry?
Q. Hey. My fiance rarely got me gifts unless if it would be be an occassion like a birthday, christmas, vday. I told him that it would be nice that hecan just evenn come home with flowers once in a while (so one can even have it on the tablein the livi...
A. 18 October 2007: Could be that he finally HEARD you.
Praise him if you want this behavior to continue.... (read in full...)
We started to treat each other just as friends for 4 yrs. I think my wife's staying for the sake of our daughter. Can it better? Should I leave?
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 15 years and married for 5 of those,she says she made a mistake marrying me and only loves me as a friend,we haven't slept together since our daugther was concieved 4 half years ago,s...
A. 17 October 2007: I have a gf who treats her husband the same way because she does not enjoy sex with him. Could that be a problem?! ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this break-up?
Q. I was with him for over a year and a half, and we were deeply committed and in love, and living together. he got very ill about 8 months into our relationship, and i stuck by him for all of the treatment. when the treatments were over, we fell ...
A. 17 October 2007: you need time. Best is to move away from him.You can still talk to him as it helps you cope with the separation. You are probably soul mates...... (read in full...)
Still not over my boy's daddy
Q. I am struggling to move on after being dumped by my ex 2 and a half years ago. He left me when I told him I was pregnant, 3 months later he was back with his ex. I felt used and worthless. We had been together for 2 years. He refused to have ...
A. 17 October 2007: don't even go that road. You can still love him, you just don't have to be with him. And don't see him.... (read in full...)
Is he trying to be unfaithful to me?
Q. what does it mean when my boyfriend looks at match.com and saves profiles in his favourites?...
A. 16 October 2007: it means you allow him to do it. Ask yourself why are you allowing this behavior if you don't like it?... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed. How should I feel?
Q. ive been with this girl for 7months and we have a baby on the way. she always told me she had slept wit two guys before me. i come to find out from somebody other than her last night it was four guys before me she denied it and out of nowhere she ...
A. 16 October 2007: because you are making such a bid deal now makes me believe you made as much fuss in the past. Talk about it in a loving manner, try not to hurt her now over your hurt feelings. She's pregnant, right? Pregnant women deserve a break.... (read in full...)
My husband is selfish and uncaring. I'm not happy in my marriage. What do I do?
Q. I have been married for 4 years and don't know where to start. i'm 35 yrs old and married to a pilot who is gone a lot. I have a son from a previous marriage and my husband resents my son just because we have to pay for tuition and things that he ...
A. 16 October 2007: Get out now for the sake of your children. If he straightens himself out later, he'll know where to find you.... (read in full...)
Are my feelings OK with him impression of me.
Q. Hi all- Ok, I must admit first off to being a bit of a snoop. My boyfriend checked his myspace account on my computer earlier, and when I went to sign in later his home page was still up. I listened to the little devil on my shoulder and looked i...
A. 16 October 2007: You are with a nice guy. If he had something to hide, he'd make sure to log out. But it does sound like you trained him well to do the right thing. I wish I was more jealous at the beginning so I don't have to be now. ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine not wanting sex so I would imagine if I could just get her to want it more, we could both be happier!
Q. Hi, I'm married over 10 years now and love my wife very much. Lately, however, I have been feeling like I'm getting a bit old and wanting more sex to compensate. I fear having a dull, brother/sister type marriage. I'm extremely sexual and could have ...
A. 16 October 2007: Hello. I am in an identical situation except I am a female. Maybe we are scaring our spouses away by doing all the things we've done to persuade/ intimidate/ reason/ scare/ seduce into making love to us?! Maybe we should stop swimming up stream? I ... (read in full...)
Ten years in a wonderful relationship and then I discover his profiles on sex sites!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 10 years. We have a successful business together and work very closely. We are also best friends, lovers, and recently just about to discuss marriage. He always told me he was in love with me and made me ...
A. 15 October 2007: I have a similar situation. What I think happened to us is that after dedicating himself to me for a while, he lost some interest and started supplementing our relationship with online cams. He says he's done it before me. He says he is faithful to ... (read in full...)
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