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*argh
writes:Hi all-Ok, I must admit first off to being a bit of a snoop. My boyfriend checked his myspace account on my computer earlier, and when I went to sign in later his home page was still up. I listened to the little devil on my shoulder and looked into his in box instead of just logging out. I don't suspect him of any infidelity, I was just being super nosy, and I was bored. Anyway, as you might have guessed I ran across a letter that made me worried. Basically it was the last response in a series of emails, and had the whole exchange attached as emails often do. It was from a lady friend of my boyfriends, who I have met once or twice. She was coming into town and wanted to meet up for dinner. He responded that he would like to, but I was not in town and he did not want to cause any jealousy issues with me. She replied that that was no big deal, and he thanked her for her understanding as he did not want the aforementioned jealousy or "god knows what else". I have to admit, I am a little wounded. It makes me feel like my boyfriend sees me as a woman who would fly off the handle. Granted, I have had bouts of insecurity, but I hate that he thinks that he can't meet up with an old friend. Am I right to feel kind of hurt by this impression of me? And especially hurt that he communicated it to a friend? Or should I just calm down and let the whole thing go? After all, I'm sure it is far from the worst thing a snooping girlfriend has found in her Sig O's email.
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reader, Yogichickk +, writes (16 October 2007):
 You are with a nice guy. If he had something to hide, he'd make sure to log out. But it does sound like you trained him well to do the right thing. I wish I was more jealous at the beginning so I don't have to be now.
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reader, Charley Coles  +, writes (15 October 2007):
Well to be honest i have the same problem. The best thing to do is to trust you boyfriend dont snoop or nothing it will make you feel worse ok. Just confront him and say you do trust him but its playing on your mind need anything else dont hesitate to post me agaian or email me on:
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reader, Yargh +, writes (15 October 2007):
Yargh is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks to everyone for your perspectives. I guess I just felt like the old, jealous, ball and chain when I read that. I know I can be insecure, but I would hate to think that I am preventing my boyfriend from doing things he wants to do. I am not going to say anything to him, but I have resolved to do more to show how much I love and trust him in the future.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (15 October 2007):
 hi
yes i agree with the comments already made, this guy must think the world of you, he did not sneak off behind your back,
he told her he was involve with you, and that is a great asset to say your relation ship is stable,
best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): You're very lucky - this guy clearly cares about you very much and prioritises and respects his relationship with you. If anything your 'snooping' has confirmed this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): He dodged seeing her because of you, so let the matter drop. He has used an excuse but so what? He didnt see her because he didnt want to hurt you. So why make trouble. Let it go. Dont snoop again.
take care
xx
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (15 October 2007):
 I think you should just forget about what you have read, he did the right thing cause he didn't go, it sounds like to me that he didn't want to go while you were not around i guess he would have rarther have took you along with him too.
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reader, superdopah +, writes (15 October 2007):
i dont think he believes you are a jealous person but maybe this "old friend" has feelings for your boyfriend and he was aware of this and did not want to meet up with her because he loves you
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reader, rcn +, writes (15 October 2007):
 I don't think he was implying you're a jealous person. I think he didn't want to join her, and used that as an excuse to get out of the invitation.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (15 October 2007):
Don't bring it up to him. He did the right think by you. Give him a big kiss.
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