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writes:i am losing my boyfriend and i dont know how to stop it. we have been together a long time and we really do love each other, we have also become each others best friends. the problem is we have both become really reliant on each other, our worlds pretty much revolve around each other. but for the past month he started to freak out about being in such a long relationship and being with the same person forever. today he broke up with me but then realised it wouldnt be able to work cause we so dominant on each other. now we decided to still be there for each other but try being apart more, and ether we will slowly grow off each other or we will reunite. but now i have one chance. what must i do, im so scared of losing him, i really love him so much and im not the one with the problem so i cant handle not being with him.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (21 October 2007):
 A quote from an ex of mine that so many people use. "If you love someone set them free and if they return to you then it was meant to be". I am a firm believer that true love never dies and that which is meant to be will be. It sounds like you two already have a special bond with one another. Give him some space. He may be a bit scared of a forever committment but if he has time to really miss the " All of me" connection he has with you it could very well change his mind. He might not like the idea about letting someone else reap the rewards of the endearing relationship he has had with you. You must remember that if he can't commit it doesn't always mean he doesn't love you. It might mean he just can't commit forever just now. Work on you first and let him figure out what is best for him. You can be hopeful that he chooses you. What is life without HOPE? God bless and best wishes.
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reader, Yogichickk +, writes (21 October 2007):
 give him what he wants. He will come back. Try to do the opposite of what you want to do right now. Like if you want to call him, hold off and wait for him to call you first. He needs to get a chance to miss you right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Your situation reminded me a bit of my own. Me and my boyfriend fight a lot and break up and seem to return. We are close. But the problems we have keep coming back. He says he wants to discuss them, but we are unable to discuss much because I am a very vague person and he is precise. we get angry again! And the cycle continues...
To go back to you. Just give him a bit of space. this is the only thing I can say. It seems that he needs it, yet, loves you. So let him feel that he has freedom. Don't push too much on him. It is not easy I know, but, try to do other things to shift focus off him. Have other people in your life. Use this time to think what you want from him.
Sometimes relations need breathing. Good luck
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