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writes:How does one get a second chance w/ an ex? We dated for a year, then lived together for 8 months. I made a lot of mistakes (as did he), but I want a second chance.We haven't talked in a couple of months now, any suggestions how I can get back on his radar and give it another chance Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): If you two have not talked in a couple of months, then move on.
Hate to say this, but He is long gone.
Forget him and find someone new.
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reader, cnfsdnluv +, writes (24 October 2007):
cnfsdnluv is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere was no cheating on either side. Basically, he became pretty closed off / emotionally unavailable. I know he was under a tremendous amount of stress at work and financially. I was miserable in my job, as well, so I really just focused on us (Cause that made me happy), but his standoffishneess made me start feeling unhappy at home, too. I started questioning what he was doing, because I always felt he was hiding something. I got caught snooping once, although I did do it more than that. I never found anything - and never thought he was cheating - I was just hoping to find info on what he was feeling or why he was so down all the time. . . anyway, he felt I was controlling, when I wasn't trying to control what he did (and I told him that time and time again - he could do weheatever he wanted, whenever), I just wanted him to open up more to me and make me feel like a priority in his life...
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Hi,
it all depends on the mistakes I guess. Did you cheat on him? It might be hard for him to forgive if that's the case.
Otherwise, write him a letter. It's a long lost form of communication , its personal in your own handwriting and it allows you to put your case calmly and assuredly.
Give it a try. The worse that can happen is he doesnt reply.
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reader, Yogichickk +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Tell him what you want.
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