Giving her time to think about it, but she's not utilizing this time wisely!
Q. So I'm going through a shit time at the moment. My ex girlfriend said she needs time to think about me and her getting back together. However, in that time of her thinking we have been talking and that, and she is in two minds and doesn't really h...
A. 28 November 2010: The title you gave to the question already betrays that YOU are the one who isn't using your time wisely. Advice for life: When you decide to break up with someone, BREAK UP and don't look back. Getting back together without a good reason is a waste ... (read in full...)
Why am I so envious of them, when I should be happy?
Q. Hey, to cut straight to the point, in school i have a close circle of friends (we are all bisexual) and for the past five weeks two of them have been going out, we'll call them A and B, A being the female and B being the male, and I have been really ...
A. 28 November 2010: Strong feelings in your close group of friends is a bad idea.
But don't worry too much about these feelings. It is a bitch to hear people telling you that you are young and shit, but it's true, you don't need to worry so much, experience these feel... (read in full...)
We've been trying to save this relationship for 2 years
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 8 months. For about 2 years we've been trying to fix our relationship. We mostly fought because of my jealousy, insecurities, and low self esteem. I guess I would nag him a lot. However, lately he wants to ...
A. 27 October 2010: If you've spent most of the time trying to save it, it's better to end it. Trust me. I've been there and each second you spend in this relationship is time wasted that could be used in post-relationship recovery.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend like his ex's butt better?
Q. Ok i am totally aware as to how ridiculous this is but omg help!! So im in a long distance relationship, been with him now for 2 years (both our longest relationships so far)and we see each other not often but atleast take 3 holidays per yea...
A. 21 October 2010: He is a moron, he should never really have said that.
On the other hand, you're being stupid and immature too. If she's an ex, there's a reason for that. Maybe her ass is slightly better, but she's a bitch. Her boobs sag, she's full of cullulit... (read in full...)
I moved five hours away after our break up -- and now he's dating someone here??
Q. My ex and I were together for about nine years. When we broke up (about nine months ago) it was basically mutual. The relationship had become stagnant and we both needed to move on. To make it easier on me and to cut the possibility of ever ...
A. 21 October 2010: Oh, God, this sounds messy.
Respect for getting a new phone, great move!
Now I am positive you should cut contact with this guy.
Keep moving girl!... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my ex's sister!
Q. Here is my story/question. About a year ago i broke up with my girlfriend whom I have 2 kids with. When she left I started hanging out with her sister. Just over ayear has passed since the breakup and her sister and I have become super good frien...
A. 12 October 2010: Agreed with TimmyD. Stay away, get over her. A relationship can only go bad. I would advise that you reduce contact with her to the minimum necessary in family gatherings. At least until you get over her.... (read in full...)
Can I get HIV from kissing her?
Q. okay, so I very lightly french kissed a girl that didn't give anyone oral sex before, but she kissed someone before me that did give oral to someone, this has been over a year ago, my doctor told me not to worry about having any curable std, but ...
A. 8 October 2010: They said it, just relax.... (read in full...)
Never got over my first kiss, should I leave my boyfriend to give it another try?
Q. Back in high school i dated this boy for 1 1/2 months. i know its nothing, but he was my first kiss. It's been 3 years since then, but i cant get him out of my mind. We've hung out a few times since the breakup, but we always end up pissing each ...
A. 8 October 2010: Agreed, just end it for good. But don't jump into a relationship with your old fling too fast.
Maybe this rocky relationship has messed up your head and you created a fantasy world in your head that you use as a haven. I know, I've done that bef... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my ex's sister!
Q. Here is my story/question. About a year ago i broke up with my girlfriend whom I have 2 kids with. When she left I started hanging out with her sister. Just over ayear has passed since the breakup and her sister and I have become super good frien...
A. 8 October 2010: I do not envy your spot, but wiping out any romantic feelings you have for her might be the best path. Remember your kids!
Man, this is quite a conundrum.... (read in full...)
Should I move on and forget these past 6 months?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up this Tuesday. I'm empty inside and I don't know what to do. He was my first boyfriend, he gave me so much in life, infact...he gave me a point to live. But since we got back to school things had decayed, he ...
A. 8 October 2010: You should move on, but you don't need to forget the last 6 months.
Also, never again should you turn someone else into the center of your world. People will disappoint you, they always do.
Get rid of his possessions? Not a bad idea. Cut all cont... (read in full...)
Did she cheat when we were first starting out?
Q. My girlfriend has had a series of FWB relationships before me. Most of them overlapped considerably. When I started out with her, we were FWB, but it quickly evolved into a serious, committed relationship after a few months. I found out later on ...
A. 8 October 2010: Let it go, man, or it will eat you up from the inside out.... (read in full...)
Seriously???
Q. I have been married to my wonderful wife for 10 years, been together 12. We have two kids, and are each other best friends. She is 6 years my senior (not that that matters, really- just sayin'...) Before we met, she worked with a guy 15 years older ...
A. 8 October 2010: Man, that's a bitch.
How forthcoming is your wife about this whole thing? If she doesn't tell you everything right away, it doesn't necessarily mean she likes it. Maybe she's just afraid of what you'll do, or maybe she thinks she can handle i... (read in full...)
I said no contact but now I want to talk to him!
Q. My ex and I broke up 5 days ago. He says he can't see us as the type to get married, but we are young and I think this is unimportant. I told him not to talk to me and that we couldn't be friends. But now I think I want to try to talk and work ...
A. 6 October 2010: First thing: You better be damn sure you and a person don't work out together before breaking up.
Since this guy doesn't see himself marrying you (and if marriage is important for you) breaking up was probably the best thing to do.
From no... (read in full...)
I had a boyfriend, cheating on him, and then found out the other guy was getting married in 2 weeks!
Q. Sorry in advance if this gets long. I've been in a relationship (if you want to call it that) with this guy for the past two and a half years. I found out about eight months into it that he had a girlfriend but I stuck around in the hopes that ...
A. 6 October 2010: Wait, you started dating a guy who already had a girlfriend and thought he would never hurt you? Does that sound a little weird or is it just me?
Now seriously, it will only hurt you if you let it hurt you. You should have let him go when you foun... (read in full...)
Cheating boyfriend! How do I get my girl back?
Q. I cheated on my girlfriend, I told her and we broke up. Now I want her back. I'm in love with her and I can't stand knowing she's not with me. I need her back in my life. How do I get her back?...
A. 6 October 2010: Another thing, if you cheat "by accident", it's a one off and will never happen again, DON'T TELL HER.
If it doesn't affect your feelings, DON'T TELL HER. She doesn't need to know and it will only fuck things up. Anyone who says they would like... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and was with another guy three days later
Q. My ex girlfriend and I recently broke up, and just 3 days after she started dating this guy that she met when she was still involved with me. The feeling has just been so incredibly painful, I don't know what to do when she told me this I was ...
A. 6 October 2010: Don't write to her. If anything, it will make her feel better about herself because you still care about her. PLUS, it won't help you at all. Even if she feels kinda bad, it might give you hope of getting back together, which isn't an objective to ... (read in full...)
I've reeled her back in but how do I talk to her again?
Q. me and my ex recently broke up on good terms. i saw online that when u stop communicating with her u cud draw her back in...i tried and its working...but now wat? i want us to start back talking regularly but i dont know how to initiate ...
A. 2 October 2010: How about staying away? I mean, WHY on earth are you re-sarting contact with her?... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and was with another guy three days later
Q. My ex girlfriend and I recently broke up, and just 3 days after she started dating this guy that she met when she was still involved with me. The feeling has just been so incredibly painful, I don't know what to do when she told me this I was ...
A. 30 September 2010: My heart goes to you, brother, I know how you feel. My ex was dating someone else a week after the break up and I ended up befriending another guy because the same thing happened to him. So here goes: In my friend's case, he met this girl who li... (read in full...)
My heart is smashed into a million little pieces...
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, my heart has literally been smashed into a million tiny pieces and it hurts so much. It hurts this much mainly because it was a sudden breakup and that I wasn't expecting it. What's even worse is ...
A. 29 September 2010: I feel ya, mate. I agree with C. Grant. She probably wasn't lying the whole time. Most likely she was already unhappy in your relationship (how long was it, if I may ask?) and saw in him qualities she didn't see in you.
Now you might have been luc... (read in full...)
Liking two people at once?
Q. Good evening everyone: I seem to ponder this question from time to time. Is it alright to LIKE two people at once? Now, this is not to be confused with the validity to DATE two people at once. Is it alright to LIKE two people at once? It seems li...
A. 24 September 2010: Well, it is perfectly possible, on a superficial level, to LIKE two people at once. I mean, nobody is perfect, right? It is our differences that make us interesting. So you might like Sarah for going out and having fun and like Anna for more ... (read in full...)
My b/f is great, but so is flirting
Q. im 17 years old and i have been dating my boyfriend, 18 for almost 2 and a half years. our relationship is fun. we go out alot and try new things but there is a part of me that misses the feeling you get when you talk to someone new. over the ...
A. 24 September 2010: I think you are simply inexperienced and insecure, and there's nothing wrong with that at your age. I advise you to talk about it with more experienced people. Your story isn't at all uncommon. DO talk to your friends, they know you and care for ... (read in full...)
Are older men better lovers?
Q. Is it true that older men make better lovers, due to experience?...
A. 24 September 2010: Let's put it this way: A man at 35 will be a better lover than he was at 20 in 99% of the cases.
But this doesn't mean that he will be a better lover than some other guy who's 26, mainly for 3 reasons:
1) Some people are born with more "poten... (read in full...)
Is it really over?
Q. So i got into an argument with my girlfriend the other day, one of many. She told me she couldnt take the stress and that she wasnt happy with the relationship right now. She told me she wanted to continue being friends because she valued our ...
A. 24 September 2010: Breaking up sometimes is like jumping in a cold lake. Some people will hesitate before and eternity before they do it other will just take the plunge. Once you're in the cold water, you might realise you hate it and get out ASAP. Others might face ... (read in full...)
I want to be there for her despite the break up
Q. Me and my ex just had a break up. She says that she still loves me and we talk online here and there. she even calls me some nights when shes feeling down and at the end of the convo says "i love u baby". i dont want to always be there to talk or ...
A. 24 September 2010: Be a man, do the only decent thing ou can: cut her off. If you really care about her, that's what you should do. You have to allow her to get over you. If you keep in touch with her, she won't learn to have life that doesn't include you. Som... (read in full...)
I moved five hours away after our break up -- and now he's dating someone here??
Q. My ex and I were together for about nine years. When we broke up (about nine months ago) it was basically mutual. The relationship had become stagnant and we both needed to move on. To make it easier on me and to cut the possibility of ever ...
A. 24 September 2010: Life's a bitch. I'd say it's unlikely that he is dating someone from your area just to hurt you, but that's not impossible. They say one month for every year on average, so you guys are still in a tender zone. 3 months ago I finished a 4-ye... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how I can tell my ex to quit contacting me!
Q. On saturday, my ex boyfriend is getting married to a girl he has been going out with for two years. When I found out in January I was elated, mainly because it ended badly and we were arguing a lot, and because we had many mutual friends, it came to ...
A. 24 September 2010: Who cares what he thinks? I feel sorry for his wife if he is still trying to get back at you somehow, because it means he still hasn't totally let go of you. He should stop acting like a boy and start acting like a man if he wants this marriage to ... (read in full...)
Why do I bite and scratch during intercourse?
Q. During sex, I tend to bite my boyfriend's neck and dig my nails into his back. Is there a deeper meaning into what we do to our partners during intercourse, or is it just us reacting to being caught up in the moment?...
A. 24 September 2010: I second dirtball. I've never been with a girl who clawed in until she drew blood, but I have to admit it IS kinda sexy.... (read in full...)
If I had sex with him would we still be together?
Q. Dear Cupid, i have been in love with the same guy for over a year now. he is 16 now, and i am 15. about a year ago i went over to his house to hang out with his sister and things between me and him became really close when we text each other da...
A. 24 September 2010: Relax, girl this will pass, it always does. There are two schools of thought relating to the issue of sex:
1) First says: Just do it get done with it. You'll realize it's not such a big deal and be open to new experiences.
2) Second says: Wai... (read in full...)
How can I get the dude I want?
Q. how do i get the dood i want??? He's really attractive and he plays sports but he's cocky and tends to be selfish. i really like him and he can really be so good to me ....
A. 24 September 2010: Is the dood you want the best for you? I mean, do you actually know him, or do you just have the hots for him? It sounds like you just have the hots for him. I'd say take your time.... (read in full...)
I am jealous of my friends moving forward when I appear to have stopped!
Q. Thanks in advance to those that read this, I need an ear, I finished uni this summer and had to move back home with my parents, and I'm still trying to find a job. I have little in the way of friends; as many have moved on and my best friend...
A. 24 September 2010: Hey Mike, first you have to know that you are not alone. About 6 years ago I read a book called Quarter Life crisis, exactly about the doubts people feel when they are around 25 and just out of university. Also, I recently read a massive piece on ... (read in full...)
I am attracted to my wife's younger, sexier sister
Q. I'm married for over three years now with my wife. I met her 5 years before that. My wife was really good-looking when I met her, but a couple of months before the wedding she began to gain weight, at least 20 lbs. from what I can tell, and most...
A. 24 September 2010: Dude, stay AWAY from the sister, it can only get very messy. As for your wife, reassess your approach to the whole situation. On your side, you have got a strong point. Just because you're married, it doesn't mean your wife can let herself go. ... (read in full...)
Do guys really care about breast size?
Q. I have very small breast... I wear a thick push-up bra and layers of clothing over my chest to cover up the small size. And this has worked out fine for me until my boyfriend became touchy with my breasts. I started to feel very self-concous about ...
A. 21 September 2010: A friend of mine recently told me that if you are more of yourself you'll attract the right people. Some guys car a lot about breasts, others care more about asses, and others like tummy, legs, face...
Because if he loves big boobs and he ends up f... (read in full...)
I lied about what a looked like and now he is mad! how can I get him back?
Q. Hello everyone one thank you for taking the time to read my question first i want to give you some info...So i met this guy like a week an half ago on the internet an we been talking ever since..We have a lot of chemistry talk every single day for ...
A. 21 September 2010: Hi there,
I'll be blunt: A week and a half? That is a little bit of an exaggerated reaction in my opinion. I mean, I have no idea what made open a fake profile, but I wouldn't say you lied. Once you started liking the guy you came clean. Now if y... (read in full...)
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