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*appyfeet0915
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 8 months. For about 2 years we've been trying to fix our relationship. We mostly fought because of my jealousy, insecurities, and low self esteem. I guess I would nag him a lot. However, lately he wants to end the relationship. He says because I'll always be this way. I really want to save the relationship. I need help. It just seems that nothing I say will get me another chance. I really can't see myself being happy with another guy. I love him so much, and feel as if he has lost interest in me, being that he wants to give up on the relationship. We're currently in college and he is my first boyfriend, if that helps any.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): You can't make anyone stay if they don't want to...let him go sweety. even if he stays, his heart is already gone and at this point you need to attend a co-dependent annonymous meeting to get over your fears and insecurities. If I were him, I would have walked out on you and never looked back, sorry to sound harsh but nagging and being jealous and insecure can border on being controlling.
Lesson: NEVER BEG A MAN FOR ANYTHING!!!
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reader, Viajante  +, writes (27 October 2010):
If you've spent most of the time trying to save it, it's better to end it. Trust me. I've been there and each second you spend in this relationship is time wasted that could be used in post-relationship recovery.
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (27 October 2010):
 I think it's safe to say that the relationship was only 8 months not 2 years! You said 2 years has spend on fixing it! IJS. Why count the time the clock wasn't ticking? IJS! I know first loves are hard to let go!!! "BELIEVE ME I KNOW" I've only loved one man in my life! And I still love him today as if it was yesterday! And I haven't laid eyes on him or talked to him in 20 years! When I hear the "WORD" I think of him. Have I moved on? I had to. Is my relationships healthy since him? Yes. Do I give myself completely in my relationships? Oh Yeah! "What does love has to do with that?" #TINATURNER, LOL! IJS!!! Love him a distance!!!
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (27 October 2010):
Let's start with what YOU said "I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 8 months. For about 2 years we've been trying to FIX our relationship" So...It's safe to say that you only had a "Normal" relationship was only 8 months! the rest of it was a TOTAL DISASTER! For HIM to say the the lease! However you got give him an 'E' for EFFORT! Even if he's in College! LOL! And Move-on!
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