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writes:Back in high school i dated this boy for 1 1/2 months. i know its nothing, but he was my first kiss. It's been 3 years since then, but i cant get him out of my mind. We've hung out a few times since the breakup, but we always end up pissing each other off and not talking again for months. about a year ago he told me he has always had a little bit a feeling for me there too. But now he wont admit to it. I know he still likes me because about 1 month ago i told him i thought i liked him for unreal reasons. but 2 days after i said that, he asked me to hang out. and when we did we watched a movie, he put his arm around me and it was nice, everything felt right.but to add to the story, ive been dating another guy or the last 2 1/2 years. things between me and him have been pretty rocky. I love him, but he has a lot he needs to work on before we ever got married. and he knows that. So i dont know if the entire reason the first guy wont admit to it is because hes afraid of me going back to the other or what his deal is. I have always wanted to try things over with the first guy so that i knew what was there and what wasnt and if it was even worth it. but his uncertainty and indecisiveness is making everything so difficult. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Viajante  +, writes (8 October 2010):
Agreed, just end it for good. But don't jump into a relationship with your old fling too fast.
Maybe this rocky relationship has messed up your head and you created a fantasy world in your head that you use as a haven. I know, I've done that before. I say cut off contact with your current boyfriend and give yourself at least 3 months to heal from it. Then you should know better what you want for your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): If you keep breaking up with your current guy and still think about first kiss guy, why do you stay?
As for the first kiss guy, I don't understand why you would want to be with him when you piss each other off most of the time and you aren't even sure he has feelings for you?? I think you will be disappointed if you try again with him. Remember why you broke up with him in the first place.
Maybe the best thing to do would be take a break from the dating game, figure out what you want in a relationship, and don't settle for anything less...
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 October 2010):
 If you've been playing the make up/break up game, then do yourself a favor and just end it for good. Give it a shot with your old flame. Who knows, it may work out. What's the harm? Just take is slow so you don't end up doing something you'll regret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell im not cheating on him,
like said its been a really rocky relationship. we've broken up multiple times and have always gotten back together... i just dont wanna be accused of cheating, cuz im not like that in any way.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 October 2010):
Maybe he won't "admit to it" because you dated for a blink of an eye 3 years ago and he doesn't know if he has feelings at all. Just because someone is thinking about someone else doesn't necessarily mean they want to be with that person.
If you want to do the right thing, you will break things off with your current BF rather than cheating on him with this other guy while you're figuring out if you like the first kiss guy. Starting a new relationship with an affair is just asking for trouble. Think about it, if you cheated on your BF to be with him, what's to stop you from cheating on him to be with someone else? That would be my line of thought at least.
Decide if you want to be with your BF or not. Then take care of your current relationship. After that you'll be free to decide whatever about your first kiss guy.
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