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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up this Tuesday. I'm empty inside and I don't know what to do. He was my first boyfriend, he gave me so much in life, infact...he gave me a point to live. But since we got back to school things had decayed, he never let me round his house, he lied to me to go out with a friend and her boyfriend, my trust in him died at that point but a couple of days later he apologized and said that things were on his mind and he wasn't thinking straight and he didn't want space anymore. I tried to act like it never happened but each and every day at school he seemed to get worse and worse. He stopped holding me, stopped kissing me, stopped... EVERYTHING, and so that's when I got it in my head that he wanted space again. So that's what I did, I didn't talk to him last friday, never texted him over the weekend (never do anyways because he's too lazy to reply to them) and hardly talked to him on monday and tuesday. But then tuesday night I confronted him, saying that I wasn't ignoring him. But he was raging at me, saying why I was getting everyone involved in our relationship (I had to to find out what was wrong with him, he never told me). I said I was sorry and that it would never happen again, he said he didn't care anymore. I asked if he wanted to end it and he said yes. I'm broken in two. My heart is screaming and I feel dead. All my friends know the story and say that he didn't deserve me, according to some male friends I was an amazing girlfriend but he took it for granted, using me basically. I do feel used. I've rid of the big bleww up heart that said 'I love you this much' written on. The teddys are still lying in my room and the necklace that he gave me for my birthday is locked away in a jewellery box. It was 'unique like I was' according to him. Thing is though, I think he still has feelings for me, he's asked how I am to my friends and he was speechless when he found out I was ridding of his possessions, aswell as that I caught him looking at me today. I don't know what to do. HELP!!!
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reader, Viajante  +, writes (8 October 2010):
You should move on, but you don't need to forget the last 6 months.
Also, never again should you turn someone else into the center of your world. People will disappoint you, they always do.
Get rid of his possessions? Not a bad idea. Cut all contact as much as possible? That could be good as well.
His asking how you are doesn't necessarily mean he still wants you. Maybe he just wants to know that you are doing fine so he can feel better about himself. Or maybe he wants to make sure you're on the hook.
Do not forget the past months, because they were an experience that taught you things. But don't think that the pain will never go away, because eventually, it will. It always does.
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reader, maid_of_stone +, writes (8 October 2010):
Your friends r probably right in this case. It sounds like he wasnt mature enough to let u know he wanted to end it, u sound like a smart girl and I think in time you'll move on just fine. There's no rush hun, enjoy being young, unique, free and single :-) hope this helped u x
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